Author xxgreen20 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 This is turning into a pretty sweet love story gl man. Thanks. I texted her at 9:30 last night and haven't heard back, but not necessarily losing hope. I feel kinda bad for not keeping up the conversation after I said, "I'll let you know when I'm free next week as soon as I know," and she responded, "Ok!," but I was going for a casual attitude. What I mean by this is after she said, "Ok!" I didn't say anything else back. But I don't necessarily see that as a dealbreaker.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Thanks. I texted her at 9:30 last night and haven't heard back, but not necessarily losing hope. I feel kinda bad for not keeping up the conversation after I said, "I'll let you know when I'm free next week as soon as I know," and she responded, "Ok!," but I was going for a casual attitude. What I mean by this is after she said, "Ok!" I didn't say anything else back. But I don't necessarily see that as a dealbreaker. What did you text her at 9:30 last night?
elaine567 Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 I think you should have nailed it down more and the fact you have skipped the weekend when presumably you are not working may be a bit of a red flag to her. You do not want to see her at night or during the weekend but you will fit her in next week for lunch, sometime... to some that will be seen as you likely already have a gf/partner/wife You need to show some keenness and interest IMO.
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 I think you should have nailed it down more and the fact you have skipped the weekend when presumably you are not working may be a bit of a red flag to her. You do not want to see her at night or during the weekend but you will fit her in next week for lunch, sometime... to some that will be seen as you likely already have a gf/partner/wife You need to show some keenness and interest IMO. I have a pool party today, am celebrating Fathers Day tomorrow, etc. If she doesn't want to go out with me because I said a specific day for lunch next week, then I'm better off without her anyway. And I work retail, so I do work weekends. I am off today but have a graduation party, and then I am working tomorrow and celebrating Fathers Day after. So what the heck am I supposed to do?? This weekend is too demanding.
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 What did you text her at 9:30 last night? I asked her if she wanted to go out for lunch on Monday. I didn't find out my itinerary for next week until around that time, but texted her as soon as I knew.
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Stop worrying so much...all you are doing is setting up a date.
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 18, 2017 Author Posted June 18, 2017 Well, I didn't hear from her all day today and texted her again around 10 tonight, just to tell her I hoped she had a good day and then also brought up Monday again. I still haven't heard back from that. If I don't hear back by tomorrow night, I'm gonna assume she is just superficial and decided it was a deal breaker that I asked her for a weekday lunch instead of a weekend dinner.
Imajerk17 Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 (edited) My first thought, reading through this, is that I think you'd had better luck if you *already* had dates (day and time) and places in mind when you suggested meeting for lunch yesterday. If you had you probably would have had a date already set up. That said, I usually go text -> phone call -> date. I understand it can be tough to get a phone call in on a Friday or Saturday, but if you set up a date (have specific ideas in mind) after a good 30-minute phone call, it's pretty flake resistant. No worries, *call* her tomorrow evening. And maybe set up drinks after work instead of "lunch". (I for one find it hard to shift gears during the day from work to date to back. Lunch also has a platonic feel to it, like you're networking or something.) Edited June 18, 2017 by Imajerk17
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 18, 2017 Author Posted June 18, 2017 My first thought, reading through this, is that I think you'd had better luck if you *already* had dates (day and time) and places in mind when you suggested meeting for lunch yesterday. If you had you probably would have had a date already set up. That said, I usually go text -> phone call -> date. I understand it can be tough to get a phone call in on a Friday or Saturday, but if you set up a date (have specific ideas in mind) after a good 30-minute phone call, it's pretty flake resistant. No worries, *call* her tomorrow evening. And maybe set up drinks after work instead of "lunch". (I for one find it hard to shift gears during the day from work to date to back. Lunch also has a platonic feel to it, like you're networking or something.) I keep saying that I had already said, "Would you like to meet for lunch on Monday? I figured it would be easier during the day because I know our nights are pretty demanding this week." If I had the time for dinner this week, that's what I would do.
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 19, 2017 Author Posted June 19, 2017 I know this is getting to be an old post, but I just wanted to let you know that I have not heard from her once and have given up reaching out. This is probably the closest I have come in a while because I actually had the date unofficially set up. And neither of us work full time, we are both teenagers and met at the college I am taking my summer course at (we are not in the same course). Dating is just a frustrating, hurtful game, and I feel like next time I see a pretty girl around my age, I'm just gonna walk the other way because it is guaranteed beforehand that I will strike out every time.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 19, 2017 Posted June 19, 2017 I know this is getting to be an old post, but I just wanted to let you know that I have not heard from her once and have given up reaching out. This is probably the closest I have come in a while because I actually had the date unofficially set up. And neither of us work full time, we are both teenagers and met at the college I am taking my summer course at (we are not in the same course). Dating is just a frustrating, hurtful game, and I feel like next time I see a pretty girl around my age, I'm just gonna walk the other way because it is guaranteed beforehand that I will strike out every time. Awww, I don't think you need to feel that way and be so hard on yourself. You didn't know this girl from Adam, so you have NO way of knowing what else, WHO else is going on in her life. It's entirely possible she was already 1 or 2 dates in with some other guy. Don't give up...just learn from the situation! You're way too young to give up . Trust me, I'm probably your mom's age or older .
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 19, 2017 Author Posted June 19, 2017 (edited) Awww, I don't think you need to feel that way and be so hard on yourself. You didn't know this girl from Adam, so you have NO way of knowing what else, WHO else is going on in her life. It's entirely possible she was already 1 or 2 dates in with some other guy. Don't give up...just learn from the situation! You're way too young to give up . Trust me, I'm probably your mom's age or older . I know I don't, and I'm half-kidding about the walking away thing, but I've faced a lot of rejection in the past year and have only had one relationship, which lasted only 3.5 months. It just shocks me that she had enough interest in me that she almost asked me out first, and then she said yes to a date and then just disappeared off the face of the earth. I am also somewhat interested in my friend's sister's friend, but there are way too many connections there, in my opinion, to ask her out, and I only met her once and we barely talked that time. Edited June 19, 2017 by xxgreen20
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