xxgreen20 Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 (edited) Tonight, I went to the movies, and when I arrived at the theater, everybody was standing outside, and a few fire trucks had also passed me on my way there, so I knew someone had pulled the alarm inside or there was a fire. There was a pretty girl standing next to me, and eventually we made eye contact, and I said "Well, this is convenient," and we both laughed. We then began talking about school, what movie we were seeing, etc, and eventually they let everyone back into the theater. On the way in, since we were seeing different movies, I asked her for her number, and she hesitated for quite a while, but then responded, "Sure." So she entered her number in my phone and then said, "Text me. Enjoy the movie." I texted her almost an hour ago, saying, "Hey, it's xx from the movie theater. What's up?" I am now pissed at myself for sending such a boring first message and do not expect a response. Even my friends are saying I should have joked about the fire and they think I totally blew it by sending that text. I didn't even at least use an exclamation point, for God's sake. My cousin told me that if she's interested, that particular text will not be a deal breaker and she will respond, but I'm looking for other opinions also. Do you guys think this girl was just not interested from the start, or do you think she was, but that boring first text totally turned her off. I just thought that it was a good, casual first text, but now I realize what an idiot I am. Edited June 19, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs
basil67 Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Please don't blame your text if you don't get a response. The fact that she obviously hesitated before giving you her number shows indicates that she was already unlikely to respond. A brilliant text may have made zero difference. She may be not in a position to date anyone at present. 2
divegrl Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 If she is attracted to you, she will respond. And vice versa, REGARDLESS of what the text said. Good luck my friend!! 3
bluefeather Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 wtf.. all this worry OVER A TEXT??? good lord, what is happening to people..? I must have encased myself in a bubble all these years, because I see more and more posts come up like this and hardly anyone seems to freak out about it. I think you did great by starting a convo with her and then getting her number. But you just lost me at this... I didn't even at least use an exclamation point, for God's sake. Dude, are you serious? Plus you said it's only been an hour or so. Chill out and see if she responds. Next time, call her, though. 3
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 16, 2017 Author Posted June 16, 2017 Well, she responded last night while I was sleeping with, "Hey! My movie didnt play because of the fire lol, did yours?" I responded this morning with, "Yup, mine played, and it was pretty good." I'm wondering if I did the wrong thing here also by not asking her another question, but it is early, so I'm sure she is sleeping or working. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Well, she responded last night while I was sleeping with, "Hey! My movie didnt play because of the fire lol, did yours?" I responded this morning with, "Yup, mine played, and it was pretty good." I'm wondering if I did the wrong thing here also by not asking her another question, but it is early, so I'm sure she is sleeping or working. Yes, you should have asked her another question. Such as, "any exciting plans for the weekend?" 2
todreaminblue Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Well, she responded last night while I was sleeping with, "Hey! My movie didnt play because of the fire lol, did yours?" I responded this morning with, "Yup, mine played, and it was pretty good." I'm wondering if I did the wrong thing here also by not asking her another question, but it is early, so I'm sure she is sleeping or working. she responded that's a good sign...take the positive... why not text her in a day and say its a shame you didnt get to see your movie how about we see it together this weekend....or something you feel comfortable saying....in my opinion she gave you a perfect opening....i have done pretty close to this but with a band instead of a movie.....with a guy and gotten a date...fortune favors the bold so ask her out...doesnt matter if it scares you crapless do it anyway..a movie seems a likely happening...next time dont hesitate........good luck..deb 2
mortensorchid Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 I won't stress over sending a text like that. What I would be more concerned about is if she responded or not. If and when she does, then how will you respond? Do you want to see her again? Be sure that you actually ASK to see her again rather than just chit chat about things. That's something that annoys me about people I've met, they don't ask to see you again and then they ask why things never happened with you and them. I'm glad she responded. Communication is key. 1
Versacehottie Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Oh yeah your text game needs improvement! First text was boring but not the end of the world (if she is interested, willing to let one slide). Although they say not to text two in a row, i think it would have been fine to come up with something more humorous & flirty and send that once you realized the first was boring. The second text is a bigger problem to me. You already determined your first one was boring & that even had a question. So then you send a second text in response to her with just a boring statement and no question?!?!???? Think of it like this you are trying to build a connection with her. You don't need to be literal. She doesn't actual want to know what your movie was like or the plot of it. She wants to see if you are a fun, interesting guy--so make that the purpose of reaching out to and communicating with her. Good luck 2
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 16, 2017 Author Posted June 16, 2017 Oh yeah your text game needs improvement! First text was boring but not the end of the world (if she is interested, willing to let one slide). Although they say not to text two in a row, i think it would have been fine to come up with something more humorous & flirty and send that once you realized the first was boring. The second text is a bigger problem to me. You already determined your first one was boring & that even had a question. So then you send a second text in response to her with just a boring statement and no question?!?!???? Think of it like this you are trying to build a connection with her. You don't need to be literal. She doesn't actual want to know what your movie was like or the plot of it. She wants to see if you are a fun, interesting guy--so make that the purpose of reaching out to and communicating with her. Good luck Is there any way I can redeem myself now or have I blown it? Please be honest.
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Hate to break it to you but ALL texts are boring. In depth interactions require non verbal communication 5
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Is there any way I can redeem myself now or have I blown it? Please be honest. Yes, send another text asking her a question! Or just call her! 1
Gaeta Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 If a girl likes you, you can send the most boring text ever, she will always reply. I dated a man that could only reply OK to texts. Me: How are you? Him: OK Me: Wanna go to the fireworks tonight? Him; OK Me: Be here at 6pm don't wanna get stuck in traffic on our way there. Him: OK In person he was the coolest guy that couldn't shut up! 4
BaileyB Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 If a girl is really interested, she will respond to your text. And texting can be fun, but not as much fun as spending time together in real like. But please, don't overanalyze every text and every communication or you will drive yourself crazy. Just be nice to her, show interest, and have fun.
smackie9 Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 You and your friend are both right....She reached out laying down the ground work for you.... Her movie didn't play (hint hint)....that was your cue to ask her out to see that movie dumb dumb. It was there plain as day. Shhhhooooommmm right over your head. Your concern shouldn't be texting, it should be asking her out on a date. Where's your head at???? 6
OnlyHonesty Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 wtf.. all this worry OVER A TEXT??? good lord, what is happening to people..? I must have encased myself in a bubble all these years, because I see more and more posts come up like this and hardly anyone seems to freak out about it. I think you did great by starting a convo with her and then getting her number. But you just lost me at this... Dude, are you serious? Plus you said it's only been an hour or so. Chill out and see if she responds. Next time, call her, though. Worry or not, that text was boring as hell. When you receive something like ''hey'', or ''what's up?'', it's mundane and annoying for some. But I get where you're coming from, there does seem to be a lot of people losing sleep over something like that.
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 16, 2017 Author Posted June 16, 2017 Yes, send another text asking her a question! Or just call her! And when should I do this? Today, tonight, or tomorrow?
BaileyB Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 And when should I do this? Today, tonight, or tomorrow? Whenever you want to contact her... why are you asking us? Just do it! 6
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 16, 2017 Author Posted June 16, 2017 Turns out I just got a response, and it's going pretty well. 5
RecentChange Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Hate to break it to you but ALL texts are boring. In depth interactions require non verbal communication Naw, to you can have interesting text exchanges. But they must be treated like a conversation. He should have asked something more to keep the conversation going. For instance I really enjoy exchanging emails back and forth. More can be conveyed than in short texts, but it's still simply written words - no non verbal communication. My deceased grandparents left behind a shoe box of love letters written during their courtship. Simple daily exchanges, professional of feeling, making of plans.... All in written word. Not the voice of a telephone, not in person. But written. So much can be conveyed by the written word. Often things that are hard to say, can come freely to the pen.
Miss Peach Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 Good luck OP! For the record if I get a boring text and I'm interested in the guy I'll send something back. But if EVERY text is boring and has nothing to respond to (like every one is hi, how are you, how is your weekend, etc.) then I usually lose interest if things don't pick up or there is no request for a date. 2
bluefeather Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 That was your chance to ask her to see that movie. Call her now and ask her out!
Versacehottie Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 That was your chance to ask her to see that movie. Call her now and ask her out! yes, especially since it was a different movie than yours--so it's kinda a perfect opportunity to say, hey let's see that together. You can make endless references to the fire part & suggest something to do. i wouldn't text too much, just get to the part where you meet up. Then don't be boring in person. Good luck
Author xxgreen20 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 yes, especially since it was a different movie than yours--so it's kinda a perfect opportunity to say, hey let's see that together. You can make endless references to the fire part & suggest something to do. i wouldn't text too much, just get to the part where you meet up. Then don't be boring in person. Good luck She actually asked ME mid-conversation if I was doing anything tonight (sadly I was, and maybe she was just making conversation), and I told her I was visiting a relative, which was true, and that we could get together next week for lunch. She said yes, and I told her I'd let her know as soon as I knew my schedule for next week, and I texted her now asking for Monday, so we shall see. Seems quite promising though. 2
bluefeather Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 This is turning into a pretty sweet love story gl man.
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