JS17 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 broke NC. oops. he's always mean. i don't know why i bother. i guess i was just hoping to not hate one of the three guys i've been with over the past year. wow what a year...0 for 3.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 broke NC. oops. he's always mean. i don't know why i bother. i guess i was just hoping to not hate one of the three guys i've been with over the past year. wow what a year...0 for 3. Try not to hate him... Part of contacting is learning the pain hurts.. I've been there.. Remember it takes 8 weeks to break a habit
Author JS17 Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 i'm trying really really hard to not hate him. really hard. and he ain't makin it easy. it's amazing how wrong you can be about someone. i had great boyfriends growing up. in my early twenties i probably turned away some really great guys because i didn't want a boyfriend. now in my mid-late 20s i'm finally ready to get serious and i date 3 of the crappiest people on earth. i was just kind of hoping that i wasn't so bad at choosing men at my age. how do you actually get worse at it? i have to start over, 8 more weeks except i know i'm going to have to see him in a month.
Marshbear32 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 how do you actually get worse at it? You get worse because you have more at stake now and you are not just dating for fun. When you spend time with someone and they turn out to be a dud then you feel like a jerk for wasting all your time on a non-mate. Serious dating is much harder. You need to relax and let it happen. Don't rush or feel you have to have someone by a certain time. Learn from each experience and file the information away. P.S. If you still hate him you are not over him...
Author JS17 Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear32 You get worse because you have more at stake now and you are not just dating for fun. yes, valid point. you always have something spot on to say. P.S. If you still hate him you are not over him... actually, i think i'm pretty capable of hating people that i'm over because they make me feel i hate them and want nothing to do with them....i know, not indifferent. i don't really buy it. i'm not indifferent to any of my ex's from hs or college but i'm long since over them. i defintely don't hate them though and wish them the best. i just lost my radar this year. i don't know. i think i just want to b!tch and complain about it and my friends won't listen to me about this one since they all said he was a jerk from the beginning.
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