Coworker crush?!?!

[Beautifuldisgrace]

At work there's an older man who I think likes me. Let me back track here. When I first started at my job he worked there . He had a medical leave because of cancer. Everything went well and 3 years later he came back. He's currently going through a divorce and is 45 years old with a daughter the same age as my son. He's also the ceos step son. I'm 30 years old with 2 kids I thought he was much younger. When he first came back we'd small talk here and there. He comes down to my area to work on the computer seeing they don't have one for him yet, I work in the front office, he's a counselor. One day he's was telling me about how he has To meet with their lawyers in the morning to finalize the paperwork for the divorce. The next day he came in and he looked like it had been rough so I said how'd things go. He said everything was fine until he left and she called him and unloaded on him. He told me everything that was said. I forget what excatly I said but he replied with that was the best advice he's been given through all this. A couple of days later I was helping him on the computer and our hands happened to graze each other. I instantly thought omg I really like him. From that day on I can't figure him out. There are moments he seems to be into me and other times he doesn't. He talks to me about a lot. I know when his birthday is what happened in the marriage about his cancer surgery about his little girl etc. I know how much of a house his is buying. We even spent an afternoon browsing house together!! He also tells me about what him and his daughter are doing on the weekend. We talk about the music we like. He even showed me where his house was before he moved back in with his parents. we've seem to have gotten fairly close. Today he made the comment that he wishes there was a company get together so that the kids could play together. It completely threw me off I didn't know what to say or think. I don't know if I'm overthinking that's he's in to me or if he's just being nice. I'm beyond confused at this point. I've googled everything possible to try to let things be but I can't help to wonder what is really going on.

Edited June 16, 2017 by Beautifuldisgrace

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There is a good possibility that he is attracted to you, but the timing is just way off on this if you're thinking romance. He's not even officially divorced yet, things are rocky, conflict, he's moved in with his parents for gawd's sake, and any women he hooks up with will be just that, a hookup, short-term. He's not long-term material right now. He has to go through some transitions first, rebound relationships, and I doubt he'll be ready to settle down in the family way anytime soon.

 

My thought is to enjoy the crush and the thrill, but don't plan on seeing him romantically in any way. It's just not the time. The fact that you work together would make things difficult when he is not interested in you long-term, dumps you, and then you hear about his new conquests. It's really an unfortunate set of circumstances. If we could get into his brain, I'm guessing he probably feels sparks too, but again, the timing is way off. You both know it. Be smart. Don't pursue it. Don't flirt.

 

When life hits the skids, it can be really easy to have feelings of love where you get it, and sometimes these are false feelings. It's easy to get sucked in. It feels good. He's on shaky ground right now. I wouldn't qualify any feelings he has as genuine right now. They could be, but maybe not.