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I don't normally post on forums but I feel like all my friends are tired of hearing me talk about my ex at this point.

 

So, it's been almost 4 months since we broke up but I can't seem to get over my ex. For almost 2 months after we broke up, we kept in touch. The last time we spoke, he told me he was thinking about me. Then we were casually talking when he said he briefly liked someone but it meant nothing.

 

For obvious reasons I was hurt and we got into an argument over it. He blocked me on instagram and then we actually did have a civilized conversaton.

 

I wished him the best and that was it. However, 2 days later when I was still hurting and checking his FB profile constantly, I decided I needed space to clear my head. I needed to move on. So, I blocked him, not out of malice but out of need. A few days went by and (this is really stupid) but I wanted to check up on him. Turns out he blocked me after I blocked him, deleted my friends from his snapchat (he didn't do this right after we broke up) and that has left me very confused.

 

I looked this up. It is actually slightly complicated to block someone on facebook after they blocked you. I actually had to do a google search to figure it out. Why would he a) block me after I already blocked him

b) Delete my friends, 2 months after we broke up? He didn't care before. So, why now?

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It's like the old days with phones on chords. The natural reaction if someone slammed the phone down on you, was to slam your phone down back. They never heard that slam down back though, so it was pointless.

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He blocked you for the same you reason you blocked him. He needed to do so for his own peace of mind.

 

He's your EX. Stop caring about anything he does.

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in his mind he got even with u !

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It's simple: retaliation. And the very more real possibility that beyond retaliation, he may want to move forward without you in his life, checking on what you are doing and getting reports from friends.

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He realized it was a good idea you had, and knew someday you'd be weak and unblock him to check out what he was doing, so he blocked you too. He was right, you did.

 

Like d0nnivain said, move on and stop worrying about what he's doing.

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What difference does it make?

 

You broke up. Move on.

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I would say he has blocked you also to make sure the relationship doesn't start up again.

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I don't normally post on forums but I feel like all my friends are tired of hearing me talk about my ex at this point. So, it's been almost 4 months since we broke up but I can't seem to get over my ex. For almost 2 months after we broke up, we kept in touch. The last time we spoke, he told me he was thinking about me. Then we were casually talking when he said he briefly liked someone but it meant nothing. For obvious reasons I was hurt and we got into an argument over it. He blocked me on instagram and then we actually did have a civilized conversaton. I wished him the best and that was it. However, 2 days later when I was still hurting and checking his FB profile constantly, I decided I needed space to clear my head. I needed to move on. So, I blocked him, not out of malice but out of need. A few days went by and (this is really stupid) but I wanted to check up on him. Turns out he blocked me after I blocked him, deleted my friends from his snapchat (he didn't do this right after we broke up) and that has left me very confused. I looked this up. It is actually slightly complicated to block someone on facebook after they blocked you. I actually had to do a google search to figure it out. Why would he a) block me after I already blocked him

b) Delete my friends, 2 months after we broke up? He didn't care before. So, why now?

 

Hopefully he's doing it b/c he wants to move on as you should be doing.

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He blocked you for the same you reason you blocked him. He needed to do so for his own peace of mind.

 

He's your EX. Stop caring about anything he does.

I kinda needed to hear that! I've been racking my brain over why I can't move on but I don't know how to stop caring about what he does. It shouldn't matter anyway cause when the relationship ended he was not the same person. It was like he morphed into this cold hearted version of himself. Like he would literally say things to hurt me. Like, my friends probably think we were only fooling around, anyway. So, this should be easy but it isn't

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Hon, the two of you recently broke up but neither of you have really moved on, yet are trying to. One way to move on is to stop looking things up of Facebook. What good does it do to see what he's up to on Facebook? For this reason alone, that is a down-side of Facebook. He may be posting pictures and things that may not even be an accurate reflection of things. How could you know? Facebook is not real life as much as people somehow like to think it is. People can go online a present as all sorts of things; even lead like a secret life. How could you know? You can't. So, it's okay that he blocked you. Doesn't matter who did it first. He probably blocked you for the same reason you blocked him. He's your ex now. No use trying to analyze his behavior.

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I don't normally post on forums but I feel like all my friends are tired of hearing me talk about my ex at this point. So, it's been almost 4 months since we broke up but I can't seem to get over my ex. For almost 2 months after we broke up, we kept in touch. The last time we spoke, he told me he was thinking about me. Then we were casually talking when he said he briefly liked someone but it meant nothing. For obvious reasons I was hurt and we got into an argument over it. He blocked me on instagram and then we actually did have a civilized conversaton. I wished him the best and that was it. However, 2 days later when I was still hurting and checking his FB profile constantly, I decided I needed space to clear my head. I needed to move on. So, I blocked him, not out of malice but out of need. A few days went by and (this is really stupid) but I wanted to check up on him. Turns out he blocked me after I blocked him, deleted my friends from his snapchat (he didn't do this right after we broke up) and that has left me very confused. I looked this up. It is actually slightly complicated to block someone on facebook after they blocked you. I actually had to do a google search to figure it out. Why would he a) block me after I already blocked him

b) Delete my friends, 2 months after we broke up? He didn't care before. So, why now?

 

The overall answer is: because he wants to move on.

 

Specifically:

 

a) because he realized it wasn't a good idea for either of you to keep feeding hopees that you two can work this out. He apparently wants to be done with you. Yeah, he thinks about you, but thinking about you without reaching out to atone, ask for your forgiveness and express a desire to work things out is meaningless.

 

b) because they're your friends, not his. Their loyalty is to you, not him, so it makes sense to block your friends--also, so you can't creep through their timelines or draft them in on your creeping sorties.

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I kinda needed to hear that! I've been racking my brain over why I can't move on but I don't know how to stop caring about what he does. It shouldn't matter anyway cause when the relationship ended he was not the same person. It was like he morphed into this cold hearted version of himself. Like he would literally say things to hurt me. Like, my friends probably think we were only fooling around, anyway. So, this should be easy but it isn't

 

It's never easy. Who ever said it "should" be? If they did they were misleading.

 

It's perhaps a very rare person who can let go with grace and not try to get even somehow. Some people just like to get even for whatever reason. I don't get that myself, but some people are just that way. You kind of have to brace yourself for that and try not to let it bother you.

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So, this should be easy but it isn't

 

 

The process of breaking up & getting over somebody is not easy. It is survivable.

 

 

Give it some time. Remember you are better off without somebody who called you names & belittled you.

 

 

In time you will heal.

 

 

Hang in there & stay off his social media for your own well being.

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Oh, c'mon. Fair's fair. Why should you get to spy on him after you've blocked him? You're just trying to get a reaction from him, and now you did. The goal after a breakup is to stop focusing on him and that means stop caring what he's reacting to or who he's seeing. You're wasting precious time here focusing on a dead relationship. Pack it up and accept it and move on to a better one.

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I did find the OP's username ironic: "Idontgetmen". Like our gender is the nutty one here in this thread. Blocking someone who blocked you isn't nearly as crazy as BEING CONFUSED that someone you blocked went ahead and blocked you back, as a lot of females out there seem wont to do. More accurate here would instead be IDontGetWomen :laugh:

 

Anyway, he can't look at your profile so why should you be able to look at his. He doesn't get to see what your friends are up to either. Good for him. Makes sense to me. That will make it easier for everyone to move on.

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