Pimbolie94 Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Hi everyone, First: i wasn't sure where to post this thread so I just put it here. Just wanted to share my story (I have previous threads) and see what you think. So my ex started dating again, after about 8-9 months after we broke up. We had a relationships for 6 six, living together for one (he was 25, I'm 22). So recently my friend asked me if I checked his facebook, i said no because i dont (completely removed him from my social life and dont have the need to check anyways). So he started dating again, which ofcourse was strange to see. But when we first broke, i said that he was going to be dating soon and that she would be younger than me. I guess i was right about both, she is 19. So how do i feel about this? Honestly, i feel fine. Okay. Is it weird to see him in a relationship on social media? Absolutely! Would i want to be in her position dating him? Hell no! Whats annoying to be is that some friends say i should feel bad and that i might fool myself by saying im fine. But then i say (which sounds stupid to say but its the truth): if she was around my age, going to uni, being ambitious and have a great job. Then it would hurt so much more, because thats someone i want to be aswell (working my ass off for it now). But she just finished high school; works in a furniture shop full time and has total other ambitions in comparising to me. Which fits great with my ex's ambitions! Thats one of the reasons why we broke up, because he saw i wanted more in life than he wanted. He is more of material things and i like lore intellectual interaction en getting to know people and travelling the world (atleast for now). So, im actually fine. It does feel a little strange but also not really because i was expecting this to happen sooner than later. I mean I've known the guy for six years. My question to you: do you think im fooling myself? I appreciate you reading this and i hope you have a lovely day! You are an amazing person and deserve the world. Also sorry for my bad english, its not my first language. 1
Bastile Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 My general attitude towards ex's is like the common saying: "no matter how attractive a person might be, there's always someone out there that is sick of their sh*t" No hard feelings for anybody at all. You have a great day too.
Maldives Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Why would u ask that question if u already know the answer lol. Easy way to find out does it hurt seeing there photo together on social media? If u answered yes to that question then ur not over him lol
springy Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Good for him finding someone who is a good match. If it took 8-9 months for him to start dating again then he's given it a good amount of time, I don't think that was quick at all. Glad you are un-phased by it. You will know if you are fooling yourself in the coming days/weeks. If you find yourself 'hating' on her/them, cyber stalking her to find out all about her (how do you know what her life plans are?), talking about it a lot to friends, thinking too much about them, comparing yourself physically or otherwise, etc. then you probably aren't really okay with it. If you are truly okay this post will pretty much be the end of thinking about either of them. Time will tell.
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