hkshot80 Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 I have a question regarding a girl who has been playing games with me over the past 3 months. We where in a university class together and worked in a group project in that class. She was giving me some strong signals so I asked her out and she enthusiastically said yes. We booked a time to go out for coffee together the next day after class. When the time for the date came around she told me she was busy and seemed to be colder and more distant. She did however want to reschedule and we booked a new time next week. About two days before the date she came up to me before class and said that she was really busy and that she couldn't make. Again she said that we should reschedule and told me to Facebook her after classes ended the next week. One strange thing she emphasized is that she really wanted to talk to me about additional university classes she should take next year. When classes ended I messaged her on Facebook and again she said she was busy but she did not suggest another time to meet. At this point I gave up and didn't try to contact her again. Three weeks later we wrote the final exam together and she waited outside the classroom as I finished the exam in order to talk to me. She was super flirty and it looked like she was really into me. We talked for awhile and she couldn't stop smiling and laughing at everything I said. She suggested that we meet up and get together. Unfortunately, she was leaving for Europe the next day. I gave here my number and she said that she would definitely contact me when she got back. She has been back for three weeks now and she hasn't contacted me. I ran into her about two weeks ago in a store and she said that she was going to text me. Again she said that she wanted to talk about university classes she should take next year which I thought was strange. What should I do? Should I give up? Should I wait it out? She I message her on facebook? I don't have her phone number so I can't text her or phone her, (although I could probably get ahold of her number through other sources). Let me know what you think I should do next and what I could have done better.
LastAcorn99 Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 I can understand your confusion. Given what you’ve shared so far, I’d suggest that you consider this girl as an acquaintance, and avoid reading too much into the friendship you share with her. Take it easy -- go make some new friends, okay? Take care! 1
preraph Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 She's a bit much, but I think she's not really interested in dating you but by telling you wants to talk about classes, she's sending the message she wants to be just friends. She thought she was safe being nice to you before she left on vacation but now she's back, she's just telling you no again. I would give up unless she asks you out to something besides talk about classes.
TheAntiHero Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Love how she's using you (for attention) and you're letting her. There's nothing for you here, romantically. Unless, you like being the "girlfriend", I suggest you move on.
d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Assume you are never going to hear from her & act accordingly. Before finals, OK maybe she was too busy. But it's summer & she's home. She had time on her hands but isn't reaching out. She gave you mixed signals. You did nothing wrong & there is nothing you could have done differently except maybe pick a girl who keeps her word. This one doesn't.
Syre17 Posted June 16, 2017 Posted June 16, 2017 I have a question regarding a girl who has been playing games with me over the past 3 months. We where in a university class together and worked in a group project in that class. She was giving me some strong signals so I asked her out and she enthusiastically said yes. We booked a time to go out for coffee together the next day after class. When the time for the date came around she told me she was busy and seemed to be colder and more distant. She did however want to reschedule and we booked a new time next week. About two days before the date she came up to me before class and said that she was really busy and that she couldn't make. Again she said that we should reschedule and told me to Facebook her after classes ended the next week. One strange thing she emphasized is that she really wanted to talk to me about additional university classes she should take next year. When classes ended I messaged her on Facebook and again she said she was busy but she did not suggest another time to meet. At this point I gave up and didn't try to contact her again. Three weeks later we wrote the final exam together and she waited outside the classroom as I finished the exam in order to talk to me. She was super flirty and it looked like she was really into me. We talked for awhile and she couldn't stop smiling and laughing at everything I said. She suggested that we meet up and get together. Unfortunately, she was leaving for Europe the next day. I gave here my number and she said that she would definitely contact me when she got back. She has been back for three weeks now and she hasn't contacted me. I ran into her about two weeks ago in a store and she said that she was going to text me. Again she said that she wanted to talk about university classes she should take next year which I thought was strange. What should I do? Should I give up? Should I wait it out? She I message her on facebook? I don't have her phone number so I can't text her or phone her, (although I could probably get ahold of her number through other sources). Let me know what you think I should do next and what I could have done better. I have a pretty hard and fast rule, if a woman breaks a first date, it's rare that I'll give her a second opportunity. Sure, some say that's pretty harsh, but to each his or her own. If, and that's a big if, I agreed to a second date after, and that one was also cancelled, she'd be done, period. Here's what I'd do, not with this one because I'd write her off, but the next one is it happens again... She breaks the first date (and I'm sorry but "too busy" is a BS excuse...people can almost always make time if they want to bad enough), ghost her, and go silent. If you hear from her again, take your time replying and be vague...something like "not sure, but we'll see..." Let some days pass, if/when you hear from her then say "oh, hey what's up?!?" Don't immediately say anything about the second date...let her show her cards. That said, I hate playing games but one thing I've learned is that it is unfortunately pervasive and so its almost necessary to have to play them right back. Lastly, flakey women are a turn off...and this one is clearly flakey and a game player. Next!
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