Heartbroken

[SweetAngel1984]

Heartbroken & Wanting Advice

So I met my ex in 2014, he has been coming and going from my life for the past 3 years. When I met him his dad had just committed suicide and he was drinking alot and suicidal at times himself. We broke up in March 2015, he wanted to work it out till he ditched me in June 2015 for another girl. Then he came back in July and we stayed in contact till November 2015 then he blocked me and changed his number and we had no contact for 6 months then in May 2016 we got back in contact and started hanging out again and got really close we hung out the whole summer then his mom found out and he said we couldn't hang out anymore. During this time he even went as far as asking me to move to a new town with him. However even though his mom wouldn't approve he kept seeing me then the mom wrote me in Christmas threatening me with the police. I asked him about it and he said to ignore her.

 

In January he started school, and moved out of town and I thought for sure ok he would move on. Being at college, however he didn't, he kept coming home on weekends and spending time with me. We even got so close again, about a month back he wanted me to admit I was in love with him and he told me we are not together yet but will be. He wanted to get his life together. He said it gives him an ego boost though that I love him.

Anyway we have been continually hanging out till this past week, Friday night rolls around and I never heard from him but he went away camping. Then he messages me Saturday asking if I had a new boyfriend because he seen a pic of a guy on my profile and then said whatever he doesn't care.

Then yesterday he messaged me asking me if I wanted to see him and have sex and I agree then he asks for porn to be sent(he is addicted to porn) and so I start too then he says never mind, I can't go too your house anymore I am seeing someone, and I said since when and he goes now and I shouldn't sleep with you. We can't ever speak or see each other again but if you do speak to me I will call the cops on you or if you destroy my relationship. I then said well good luck to you and your girlfriend then he said she is not my *ucking girlfriend and I t hink you will do everything in your power to get me back and prevent me from being happy.

 

Do you think I will ever hear from him again? He has gone from my life like 5 times now, he acts like a narcissist. I am so heartbroken that he met a new girlfriend.

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[MountainGirl111]

I don't know that he's a narcissist, but he sounds seriously messed up. I would stay away if I were you.

[act00]

He's messed up and you know deep down this is just not a good relationship. It's better if he doesn't contact you again, and if he does, don't respond and let him go. It hurts, I know, but he's throttling your emotions all over the place, and this is just going to continue to be a roller coaster of pain, anger, and worry with a few good spots in the middle...before he stomps all over your heart again. It will be hard, but don't sink into this again.

[coolheadal]

Heartbroken & Wanting Advice

So I met my ex in 2014, he has been coming and going from my life for the past 3 years. When I met him his dad had just committed suicide and he was drinking alot and suicidal at times himself. We broke up in March 2015, he wanted to work it out till he ditched me in June 2015 for another girl. Then he came back in July and we stayed in contact till November 2015 then he blocked me and changed his number and we had no contact for 6 months then in May 2016 we got back in contact and started hanging out again and got really close we hung out the whole summer then his mom found out and he said we couldn't hang out anymore. During this time he even went as far as asking me to move to a new town with him. However even though his mom wouldn't approve he kept seeing me then the mom wrote me in Christmas threatening me with the police. I asked him about it and he said to ignore her.

 

In January he started school, and moved out of town and I thought for sure ok he would move on. Being at college, however he didn't, he kept coming home on weekends and spending time with me. We even got so close again, about a month back he wanted me to admit I was in love with him and he told me we are not together yet but will be. He wanted to get his life together. He said it gives him an ego boost though that I love him.

Anyway we have been continually hanging out till this past week, Friday night rolls around and I never heard from him but he went away camping. Then he messages me Saturday asking if I had a new boyfriend because he seen a pic of a guy on my profile and then said whatever he doesn't care.

Then yesterday he messaged me asking me if I wanted to see him and have sex and I agree then he asks for porn to be sent(he is addicted to porn) and so I start too then he says never mind, I can't go too your house anymore I am seeing someone, and I said since when and he goes now and I shouldn't sleep with you. We can't ever speak or see each other again but if you do speak to me I will call the cops on you or if you destroy my relationship. I then said well good luck to you and your girlfriend then he said she is not my *ucking girlfriend and I t hink you will do everything in your power to get me back and prevent me from being happy.

 

Do you think I will ever hear from him again? He has gone from my life like 5 times now, he acts like a narcissist. I am so heartbroken that he met a new girlfriend.

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Your staying with him because the sex with him is that good. I can't see why else you have put up with all this chaos for so many years. He's just using you and you allow it and you don't care because you still love this jerk. Make you look to easy. The the entire messy anti-relationship has gone on too long you need to end this, what happens if you picks up STDs transmit it to you, boy what would you do after. If I was you cut him off forget about him and fo and find a real made to treat you well. Your going to be damage after this though because you gave it your all and in then end he has chosen another another woman that's not you! Just have to put your life back together again it's a really complicated mess you allowed this to happen. You know his history and now you are paying the price. Can't cry over him as he's with another woman as you typed your story to us. Only you to blame for taking him back in. He used to you backup plan until something better came along.

[Gaeta]

He is a wound on your life that you keep pulling open.

 

You need to stop picking at this wound and let it heal for good.

 

He has nothing good to offer you. He's a dead-weight attached to your anckle keeping you from becoming the woman you are meant to be.

 

Block him and never let him get back into your life, ever again.

 

You will be just fine. The heart is made to heal from a broken heart but you have to give it time. You will get over him and you will be glad you left him behind.

 

Love is not suppose to be this hard, this hurtful, and this disappointing. One day you will meet the right man and he will never leave you but to let a wonderful man into your life, you need to let this one go. For good.

[ExpatInItaly]

This guy does not love you, nor will he ever.

 

You need to stop allowing him to use you.