d0nnivain Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Doesnt " im not ready for a relationship normally mean i dont want one with you?" Is that women code. Somewhere on here some girl said that no girl would ever say that to a guy thqt they actually liked. Is there truth to this? Doew that mean this girl doewnt actually really like OP? Most of the time it does mean that. Here though it's only been 3 weeks AND the lady in Q gushed about how much she likes the OP. It's that second part that makes think there is hope if the OP can be patient. You have already been more than patience fred123 but are still being strung along. The situations are different.
elaine567 Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Doesnt " im not ready for a relationship normally mean i dont want one with you?" Is that women code. Somewhere on here some girl said that no girl would ever say that to a guy thqt they actually liked. Is there truth to this? Doew that mean this girl doewnt actually really like OP? Its not really about "liking", she obviously likes him enough to date him and have sex with him. I guess she just doesn't see it going anywhere.
Gaeta Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Doesnt " im not ready for a relationship normally mean i dont want one with you?" Is that women code. Yes normally that is what it means. Somewhere on here some girl said that no girl would ever say that to a guy thqt they actually liked. Is there truth to this? Doew that mean this girl doewnt actually really like OP? It does not mean she doesn't like him, She does, she was very forward about how much she likes him and she shows him with words and actions how much she likes him. The difference is she knows her heart broken and she is not wanting to be anyone's girlfriend AND when she is ready to be someone's girlfriend it may not be him she wants to date.
kendahke Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Hello everybody and thank you to who ever reads this post and possibly posts a reply. The past 3 months I have been posting a lot about dating and you guys have all been a great help and now I am back with another question. I met this girl 3 weeks ago at a bar and we literally liked each other a lot. We made out for the whole night and eventually exchanged numbers. Between these 3 weeks, we have been going on several dates. All dates go amazing and we connect unbelievably well. At the end of the night things usually turn very sexual but we are both okay with it. Yesterday we went on a date and it went amazing as well but between the date she mentioned to me and I quote " Andrew, I really really really like you and you know I am honest and you know I will tell you straight up what I am thinking. I am not sure I am ready for a relationship at this very moment but I really really really like you and I want to keep seeing you and going on dates because I like you. I broke up with my ex 4 months ago because he cheated on me and my mom passed away 2 years and i just need to fix myself before I start dating. I am stressed and and have on going issues in regards to what I mentioned." I told her that is extremely respectable and I am glad you told me but what we can do is take it slow and no rush, thank you for telling me Leanna I really appreciate it. She agreed to taking it slow. After that I took her to some beautiful spots in the country side and she then wanted to have sex. We had sex and constantly complimented each other and eventually told each other how much we enjoy each other and kept being cheesie as if we were in a relationship. She says I turn her on and all these things. We have other dates coming but now I am confused. We hit it off pretty well and we still are I just do not know how to handle the situation from here. I would absolutely love to be in a relationship with her and I respect her decisions and taking it slow but how should I go about our times together. I am confused and not sure what to do to get her wanting a relationship? Tips and suggestions are greatly appreciated and hopefully I can figure out why I feel so confused and unsure? I feel like she wants me but at the same does not because of whats going on in her life. She's telling you that you are rebound guy. She has no business dealing with anyone when she's still that fresh off of a break up. She just wants the perks of relationship without the obligation or relationship. If you're ok with that, the keep doing what you're doing, but understand that she's going to remind you of the "I don't want a relationship" conversation when you press for more or actually bring an obligation of relationship to her to fulfill. I'd say scale back interaction with her. You want a lover, not a friend and she's already said she can't be that for you. So FWB it is. Stop taking her out and spending on her like she's your girlfriend. Some perks should be reserved only for girlfriends who want what you want, not those who want something out of you they aren't willing to reciprocate. 1
kendahke Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Doesnt " im not ready for a relationship normally mean i dont want one with you?" Is that women code. Yes. Also, that's people code. Men say the same thing, too. I just had it said to me 2 weeks ago. Somewhere on here some girl said that no girl would ever say that to a guy thqt they actually liked. Is there truth to this? No person would say that to someone they actually liked and wanted to be with. Doew that mean this girl doewnt actually really like OP? She doesn't like him as a romantic/intimate interest. She likes him as a place holder until her ex gets off the mess he's on and comes back to her. 1
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