being led on and dumped

[gb3]

hi all!. ive known a girl 21 for a few years not thru friends im 31. we always flirted and had a good laugh messaging each other. she was with someone in a serious relationship. that relationship ended and she spent the last 6 month seein me most days with her baby too.

we went places together kissed had sex.... i thought we was heading towards a relationship and i fell for her i admit. she was wanting to hold off on one for a while.

kept leading me on giving me false hope sayin things like in time me and u will be together and last night not only did i find out it was only a month ago she ended it with her ex but she is also seeing someone new now and has had sex with him too..... thats 3 men no space in between.

how do i get over this!? i feel cheated on but she feels no remorse because in her eyes technically we wasnt in a relationship. i feel soo angry but dont want to tell her that to give her a rection

[basil67]

When I was that age, I briefly dated a guy your age. We had fun and sex...and yes, he fell for me. But I didn't ever give serious consideration to any relationship with him because the age difference was so high.

 

I incorrectly assumed that he'd know it could ever only have been a fling.

[gb3]

hi i would have assumed the same too but she spoke with me so many times about wanting a future with me and showed me how to be good with her baby and she told me many times im gonna be a good step dad

[d0nnivain]

The rules about no sex before monogamy & exclusivity don't just apply to women. Because these things were important to you, you needed to clarify them before becoming intimate.

 

She did tell you she didn't want a relationship NOW. Allusions to a possible future relationship should have clued you in that she wasn't on the same page as you.

 

Now you know the true character of this woman so it's up to you to leave her be. Get an STD test for your own peace of mind.