adrian77 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Why does that annoy me so much? Like my friend and her boyfriend (who are in their 40's). Can't ever talk to each other without saying babe or baby. "Babe do you need a drink". "Can you pass me a napkin baby". "Babe are we leaving?" "Are you going with us baby". It's just seems so unnatural to me. 1
jessiesgurl Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Why does that annoy me so much? Like my friend and her boyfriend (who are in their 40's). Can't ever talk to each other without saying babe or baby. "Babe do you need a drink". "Can you pass me a napkin baby". "Babe are we leaving?" "Are you going with us baby". It's just seems so unnatural to me. I don't think calling each other pet names like "babe" is unnatural, however anything done in excess would be annoying for anyone to listen to! I've called guys I've dated, had RLs with "babe" sometimes, but when around other people, I put a lid on it!! No one wants to hear that ad nauseum. 1
Versacehottie Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 It can be annoying. Especially it is has an air of being overdone/false, which it often seems like it does? I have a little fact that can help you smile to yourself and endure it. Using the word "babe or baby" to refer to your significant other actually can be a predictor that it WON'T last. I read that a while ago. No one wishes anyone anything bad but maybe knowing that will help you want to feel bad for them rather than annoyed. 2
jessiesgurl Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Using the word "babe or baby" to refer to your significant other actually can be a predictor that it WON'T last. I read that a while ago. That is really interesting! In my case, it turned out to be true though (in all my relationships) so perhaps there's something to it! Did what you read give reasons why it won't last? The psychology behind it? 1
Versacehottie Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 That is really interesting! In my case, it turned out to be true though (in all my relationships) so perhaps there's something to it! Did what you read give reasons why it won't last? The psychology behind it? If i remember correctly, basically that it is a generic term, too generic. That may be what OP finds annoying when she hears it--there probably is inherent inauthenticity or a higher percentage than couples who have other pet names but that actually have significant/special meaning to them. It's an indictor of the bond, which with a generic "babe" for a higher and statistically significant amount of the couples just is too blah & not representative of an actual deep bond or connection. 1
jessiesgurl Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 (edited) If i remember correctly, basically that it is a generic term, too generic. That may be what OP finds annoying when she hears it--there probably is inherent inauthenticity or a higher percentage than couples who have other pet names but that actually have significant/special meaning to them. It's an indictor of the bond, which with a generic "babe" for a higher and statistically significant amount of the couples just is too blah & not representative of an actual deep bond or connection. Wow now this is getting "really" interesting! I used to call my ex (dated for years, engaged) 'babe' all the time, and at the time (and even after we broke up) felt he was the love of my life! It was just second nature to call him that, never thought about why really. At the time I simply thought it was an endearing term. Now in retrospect, I realize our RL was actually quite cold and lacking in any real vulnerability on either of our parts. So yeah wow. Don't laugh but my first bf called me "pookie"! LOL Just between us though, he would NEVER call me that in front of others. God forbid and shudders if anyone ever heard him call me that! lol Edited June 13, 2017 by jessiesgurl 1
RecentChange Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 I call my husband babe, hun and Mr all the time. I rather say "hey babe, are you ready to go?" Rather than "hey Scott are you ready to go?" Or "hey are you ready to go?" I don't know, it just softens it. Using his name instead of a pet name is reserved for when I am serious. He also calls me babe, honey or "lady". The babe stuff started after just a few months of dating. Now over 15 years later, we still prefer to use pet names. It's funny, I remember my then teenage sister in law rolling her eyes at the babe stuff. Now she has had the same SO for a number of years - and she calls him babe 5
jessiesgurl Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 I rather say "hey babe, are you ready to go?" Rather than "hey Scott are you ready to go?" Or "hey are you ready to go?" I don't know, it just softens it. Using his name instead of a pet name is reserved for when I am serious. Yeah this is why I did too. I have all sorts of names I called him (and other boyfriends) though. Love, sweets, darlin (as opposed to darling which is too formal), or my (and his) fav, you big hunk! LOL
Gaeta Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Is it just about babe or that includes all of the other pet names? My boyfriend calls me chérie (sweetheart) each time he speaks to me. In 1,5 year I think I heard him call me Gaeta maybe twice. I have never before been in a relationship where the pet-name dominated over my name. I like it.
Woggle Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Let them live. It's better than them always being mad at each other. 1
JustGettingBy Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 I'd say its okay as long as the person they're with is okay with being called that.
greymatter Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 I'd say its okay as long as the person they're with is okay with being called that. I agree with you. I must say personally that particular term of endearment would be a real turnoff, for me and I agree with the OP it would be very annoying to listen to.
LivingWaterPlease Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 I have two couples in my family who call each other Babe and I like to hear it. But, once in a while the male of the couple slips up and calls me Babe because he's so used to calling his wife that! Doesn't bother me, I'm much older and know he doesn't mean it, of course. Had a boyfriend who called me Kiddo, which I hated because it truly did seem generic. When we broke up I was so glad I didn't have to be called Kiddo anymore. I would have talked with him about it but I wanted him to call me what seemed natural to him as I believe it's a psychological indicator of one's feelings. My ex H and I had unique pet names for each other that I treasured but our marriage didn't make it. Interesting thread!
Maggie4 Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Once you start to "babe" regularly, you cannot un-babe. If you do, the other person thinks something must be wrong. 4
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