Brandyfeli Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 My ex girlfriend and I had been together almost 3 years. We lived together until a few weeks ago. About 6 weeks ago she said that she felt distant and wasn't sure if she could be with me anymore, so she said even though she loves me and wants us to be together she's not sure we can be, so she needs time without me and space. We had been arguing a lot over past things because I hurt her...I was married when we got together still living with my husband although him and I weren't together, but legally married, it hurt her that I lived with him for a year after her and I got together. I only did this because of finances and our children....we got divorced and she moved in with me 3 months after he moved out. She held a lot of resentment about that. Anyways after her telling me she needs space etc we still acted the same. We cuddled, had sex, hung out, text all day etc....Nothing seemed to change in that aspect, she was just distant and wasn't as affectionate as she used to be etc. After a few weeks I noticed she was getting phone calls and texts from another woman. I asked her about it and she said it was just a friend. About a week later she said that she was moving out. She said that she still wants us but needs to heal herself before we can be together again. That next weekend I was helping her load a uhaul to move and I had a weird gut feeling when I saw her phone light up. I looked at it and it was the woman. I didn't read the text I only got her phone number and looked her up on fb only to see that her relationship status had been posted about 10 days prior that she was in a relationship with my gf...well ex gf! I was so hurt. I confronted her and she denied it then said yeah I just did it to hurt you, but I don't care about this chick. Later that day she was texting me that she missed me and that she was sorry. I'm dumb and love her so I was right there texting her back. Anyways ever since then which was about 2.5 weeks ago she still texts me like normal, calls, wants to hang out, we have sex...everything like a couple. But she says she's broken and needs to heal and needs space. I don't really understand that when she's the one texting me all day long. A few times I've suggested going on a date or hanging out and she says no she needs her time alone to think and cry etc to try to get over her hurt, but then hangs out with other people, so it hurts my feelings. When I express this she says I'm pushing her further and making her be more distant. It seems like I can't do anything right to her, she gets mad at me for every little thing and everything is only on her terms. She even gets mad if i go do anything with people even though she does it. I love her so much but this is killing me. I'm trying so hard to be respectful of her needs, but I have needs too. Ive asked her if i should just give us up and move on and leave her be. She says she doesnt want that I'm so lost.. Do I stop texting her, don't respond to her texts? I don't want her to think I don't care and that i have moved on because I really do want to be with her aside from all of this craziness. We have children and have been mom's to each other's kids for 3 years. Her youngest is 4 and I'm what she knows since she was 1. It's so sad. Please give me some advice! Thank you
smackie9 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 (edited) She's a coward to end it....and I feel she is just needs a stronger push. I think she is getting settled into her new life and is making sure she is able to do it....she is stringing you along, just in case things don't work out....she will have you to fall back on. Edited June 13, 2017 by smackie9
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