JenniC Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Hi everyone. Looking for some advice. So I've known this guy at work (different departments) for two years. We've always chatted and exchanged woes, basically got on very well. Two weeks ago we bumped into each other and he invited me to the pub. I went. At the end if the night he kissed me, confessed he'd liked me for ages, and we ended up in a late night bar together. Had another date this week, had a meal, got a bit drunk, same story as last time. He's older than me and isn't a texter, but in the brief occasions he does, he's funny and complimentary. Thing is, last date was last Wednesday. Nothing from him until I saw him at work today, aside from a response to my text on Friday. He didn't seek me out or try to chat outside of our usual mode. Don't know if this helps and I do not mean to offend or give irrelevant info...but here goes. He's been single for a long time. He also has a very mild form of dwarfism (I don't know details so can't be more accurate), and I think he has low self esteem judging by his comments regarding himself. What do I do here?! I really like him. I'm honestly a bit hurt and confused because he was so affectionate and kind. It actually felt right? Help!
basil67 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Have you initiated contact with him? Phone or conversation? If not, it's entirely possible that he needs a bit of reassurance from you. 4
preraph Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 It's possible he is busy or like Basil says, thinks he'll wait and see what you do. I guess it's too soon to have him over for dinner, which usually means sex, so why not pick a movie and offer to take him. Also, if he does have self-esteem issues, he may be thinking, Uh-oh, third date, I will be expected to perform, and maybe he's unsure of himself that way so putting it off. To get over the sex on third date hump, ask him out but tell him you need to turn in and get some sleep. Take separate cars if you want just to make it less awkward if he drops you off. Give him a good smooch and see ya later. I mean, this still leaves him free to make a run at you, but he may be feeling uncertain about third date. To most people it is a milestone Now, if you ask him out and he begs off, I guess you'll know he lost interest. If he's liked you for a long time, I doubt it though --unless you made the mistake of talking about past sexual/bf history with him and he saw you as intimidatingly experienced, which could easily scare off someone with low self-esteem or body issues because men are afraid of being compared.
smackie9 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 It's possible, and I'm not joking here but he might have a mirco penis.
Author JenniC Posted June 13, 2017 Author Posted June 13, 2017 Hi guys, Thanks for the response! I have initiated a text, and he replied then stopped. Today I tried to chat and he was friendly but I didn't seek him out because, if I'm honest, I was nervous! I like the idea of initiating another date, scary as it is for me. Do you think I should maybe pop by his office and see if he fancies a pint after work? He's not the movie type, but maybe if I just say a quick one because I'm up early or something?
DontBreakEven Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 It's possible, and I'm not joking here but he might have a mirco penis. this made me literally LOL :lmao:
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