fred123 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 When should a guy hold a girls hand? What if you have gone one several dates then she texts u saying she doesnt want to hold hands as it feels like commitment and scares her? What is th3 comeback for that? I think its silly. Holding hands is a commitment?!!
GunslingerRoland Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 When should a guy hold a girls hand? What if you have gone one several dates then she texts u saying she doesnt want to hold hands as it feels like commitment and scares her? What is th3 comeback for that? I think its silly. Holding hands is a commitment?!! My guess is it isn't going anywhere if you've gone on several dates and she thinks holding hands is moving too fast. 12
PegNosePete Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 When should a guy hold a girls hand? Whenever he wants to. Unless she objects, of course. What if you have gone one several dates then she texts u saying she doesnt want to hold hands as it feels like commitment and scares her? Yeah as previous poster says it means she's just not that into you. Or madder than a box of frogs. Either way... What is th3 comeback for that? I'd probably just do the slow fade. 2
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 How did she come about texting you that she doesn't' want to hold hands? Did you ask her about it?
preraph Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 How old are you two? If you're students and trying to hold hands in school, maybe she doesn't want anyone to think she's exclusive with you. In any situation, I would say this is a lack of interest. 1
smackie9 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 You date those who treat you the way you want to be treated.....if hand holding is way too intimate for her, then just think how long it's going to take to get her into the sac.....swipe, NEXT! 1
Maggie4 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Holding hands is a commitment?!! What you said there, would be my comeback. Plus something like, sorry I didn't mean to mislead you. This girl is getting too ahead of herself. Better not kiss her, she'd take that as a marriage proposal.
mikeylo Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 What you said there, would be my comeback. Plus something like, sorry I didn't mean to mislead you. This girl is getting too ahead of herself. Better not kiss her, she'd take that as a marriage proposal. Lmao ! She isn't attracted to you.
Author fred123 Posted June 13, 2017 Author Posted June 13, 2017 What if you have kissed and had sex? Maybe she is freaking out and panicking. Maybe holding hands is commitment for some people?
GorillaTheater Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 What if you have kissed and had sex? Maybe she is freaking out and panicking. Maybe holding hands is commitment for some people? Then in that case maybe she's just emotionally unavailable. I guess you have to decide whether you're okay with that.
Author fred123 Posted June 13, 2017 Author Posted June 13, 2017 I think thats silly. I want to go on dates and hold hands with a girl. That doesnt mean commitment it means im attracted to the girl and enjoy their company!
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Maybe she's self conscious about having sweaty hands. 1
GorillaTheater Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 I think thats silly. I want to go on dates and hold hands with a girl. That doesnt mean commitment it means im attracted to the girl and enjoy their company! Well okay then. Keep looking for the right girl, because this one apparently isn't it. 2
Author fred123 Posted June 13, 2017 Author Posted June 13, 2017 Maybe she's self conscious about having sweaty hands. Really? Or maybe my hands are disgusting? Is it possible its that shes ashamed to be seen in public cos holding hands is a public thing? Or she hates pda?
dumbass2 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Ask her why she doesn't like to hold hands. Let us know what she says. This is usually not an issue with most women so you need to find out what the issue is so you're not guessing. 2
Bastile Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Women behave in really weird ways to protect their feelings. I had a woman recently who refused to sleep in bed with me, preferring to sleep on my sofa. I'd get her to sleep in the bed with me, then she kept trying to sneak out - to which I'd catch her at it. But I'd still wake up to her on the sofa I do better understand that there are parts of intimacy which are better accessed through giving a woman the security of exclusivity. There are limits to what I'll accept of this though. I think hand-holding is definitely a limit, personally. I would consider nexting, if she persisted over that. It makes me think she has low-interest or other such issues. Shouldn't have to commit to someone just to hold hands. I'm more of an arm around the shoulders type of guy, but I initiate that sort of intimacy early on. And It doesn't require some sort of heavy commitment. I consider that extreme and prudish. If you can't break her out of the shell with your devilish charms, then let some other guy put up with it instead. I wouldn't negotiate over this particular issue.
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