Ariana123 Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Oh my gosh i am in such an annoying situation right now! Basically this is what has happened. I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months one month ago. Ecause of many reasons such as jealousy insecurities etc. lets call this guy Peter. he is also a bit younger than me but we used to have a lot of fun together and he was definitely a positive influence on my life. However we were friends before dating and i guess i never really felt butterflies for him, but i like the attention he gave me and he loves me a lot. But sometimes he can be immature and i started losing interest and no longer really wanted to have sex, we began to argue and i felt kinda bored. Now we are trying to work our issues out, but one of the main problems is that i was still in love with an Ex bf from 3 years ago. So i messaged him so that i could see if i was over him or not, as im not sure if i can move on with someone new while this other person still had my heart. I am now 22 but had this relationship wen i was 19, we also dated for 8 months, and i was deeply in love, this person was my everything and knew everything about me. I always stuck by him and never got bored of seeing him. He is so far the only guy i would have done anything for and out of everyone ive dated, had the deepest connection with. The only problem is that when we dated he had a lot of issues with drugs (weed) and emotional issues which caused us to have a very messy breakup. He could easily upset me again if he wanted to but maybe thats what love is, letting someone in?? Lets call this guy Adam. Im torn now because when we met up me and Adam still had this connection, we still said we loved each other and missed each other, but he seemed different and i know i have changed a lot too, but he seemed quite in thought and guarded. He readded me on facebook after and i know he still loves me, he was devasted when we broke up but i feel hes shutting me out a bit after a few days which I guess it is normal. I mean i messaged him out of nowhere. But he seems slightly broken whereas peter is a more happier spirit, but i feel for Adam he has had tough circumstances in his life. But i supposd everyone has. But why do i value my more tumoultaneous (cant spell) relationship than a mostly healthy one? Both relationships we did very similiar activities and neither cheated on me or anything. Why does Adam make me think of him of all the time but with Peter he dosent affect me very much? I dont even know where Adam stands. Am i not in love with Peter, or is it just a different love? So confusing! The thing is that i dont really know who to pursue, so I would love some advice from an outsiders view who dosent know me or the people involved. Also i dont want to feel guilty about this anymore. Thanks!
d0nnivain Posted June 14, 2017 Posted June 14, 2017 Adam is kind of the one who got away. You liked him but you didn't like his behavior & you recognized staying with a druggie with emotional issues wasn't a great plan. Yet he holds piece of your heart. When you broke up you hurt Adam, so he's cautious now. If his issues have been resolved, try again. If not, think long & hard about what you are going back to. You already know it doesn't work.
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