Still in contact with ex boyfriend...but trying to stay friends

[wakamiya]

Yea, I post here enough... but i just have so many questions left. Lately I've been wondering if being in contact with my ex boyfriend is a bad decision. I really want to be his friend... we get along great if we didn't have a past. and after treating him horribly earlier in the year, it feels like he's going out of his way to get me back twice as hard. He and his female friends, well the ones i've met - it seems like he's flirting with them, but in a harmless way.

 

A year ago I was too scared to even meet girls he knew, while with him. (keep in mind, he's a computer junkie...most talks they have are about games/life/ect ) It feels SO bad to see him treating other girls the way he used to treat me. The other day I was hanging out with him and he did a flirtatious push, like "hey make *other girl* go first! :)"when we were doing something as a group, and she pushed him back. I can't tell you how bad this feels watching someone in a position I used to be in. But i deserved the boot - I'll tell you why... even if it makes me sound bad, because this is who I am, and i wanna change. I am an insecure, jealous (sometimes) girl and I complained about things he did ALL of the time. but i dont get nearly as jealous as I used to...

 

If I were smart enough, I would get out of this situation and not hang out, right? He said to "prove it"...but it is too hard, without complaining. I'm not as strong as some girls, and ultimately it feels like I'm putting myself through hell just to get my friend back. The only times i did, he would say "so what?" Should i just try to be strong and have fun? I have such a hard time keeping my mouth shut....it feels like he has a ton of power.

[ras5568]

my girlfriend keeps in contact with her ex - boyfriend and i hate it but i really dont say too much to keep from arguing.

[AleroGurl]

i kno EXACTLY how u feel wakamiya...

do nto be friends. as hard as it is for u to not wnt him in ur life, its just easier for you to heal if you do NC. TRUST ME! i was trying to be friends with my ex, and all i ever heard about was him adn this 19yr old hooch(whom he lied to me about for the last year of our relationship). you are ebtter off to let him out of your life. you'll be MUCH happier in the end!!