Meanie Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Online dating... I'm new to the whole scene and I want to hear everyone's experiences. I want to know it all,the good, the bad, the ugly. Any rules of ettiquette. What's up with the winking? What should I expect. What makes you want to say hello to one person and not the other. Ever have someone see your picture (someone from your group of friends) and then totally make fun of you? Any advice for decoding the bull/reading between the lines. So far I've figured out that I just want to have a good time/have some fun = I want to have lots of sex with no strings. Basically anything else that you can think of.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 "I love sushi" = I'm trying too hard to be trendy "I like to enjoy all (insert city name) has to offer" = I want to hookup with MANY people "I like to spend time at the gym" = I'm probably trying to impress you, but I honestly don't have a membership "I love to travel" = The hookers in Vegas were a lot of fun / I haven't had a vacation in ten years "I'm looking for an athletic girl" = I want a trophy girlfriend "I love cozy Blockbuster nights with a bottle of wine" = I'm too cheap to take you to a nice steakhouse "I'm looking for someone with a positive, upbeat attitude" = I'm a fair-weather boyfriend/girlfriend "All my friends think I'm a great catch" = My mom can't figure out why I'm not married yet
kellyp1 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 I don't know... I went for the most down to earth guy and found he was a committment phobe and had been on an online dating site for over 2 years! I say be careful and wish you luck. Mine broke my heart and I still miss him a lot. everyday. But I have heard people have had success...
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 The guys who are just looking for sex and make a point of it really turn me off. These are the same one's who start off with asking me what I like in bed, and ask if I'm shaved and all other kinds of personal questions about my physical appearance. These are the ones who I will ignore first. The guys who flirt and make me laugh/smile and say the things I wanna hear (even if I believe it's bullcrap) but not too early in the conversation are the ones I will connect with alot better. Starting off with good conversation is what I look for. If it leads to sex, well then they have impressed me in some personal way. If it doesn't lead to sex, then I've made a friend.
lvgrly Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 I found success out of it. I met my guy on American Singles, and 6 months later here I am, 10 hours away from the orginal place I met him and now Im living with him..But I would have to say 50% of people on sites like that ARE on there for sex. As far as looking at some and not others, look at it as shopping..You look at what you like, and what you dont you just disregard. Your common sense should kick in if you are getting fed a bunch of crap, you should know when to call the bulls*** flag on your own.
scratch Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 I assume you're a female, so this is skewed towards your gender in some respects. Originally posted by Meanie Any rules of ettiquette. Don't lie. Don't continue to interact with people who appear to be lying. Try your best not to be fickle, showing interest and then withdrawing. Originally posted by Meanie What's up with the winking? That's how people who don't pay for membership contact you. It has nothing to do with being shy or not knowing what to say. Originally posted by Meanie What should I expect. Expect most people to be socially awkward, and self-conscious about meeting people off the internet. Expect not to want a second date, although occasionally you'll be pleasantly surprised. Originally posted by Meanie What makes you want to say hello to one person and not the other. The photo, height/weight information, and some semblance of communication skills are the big three. Next I'll look for particularly skilled writers, people who seem to have a good sense of humor, and people with whom I share interests. Originally posted by Meanie Ever have someone see your picture (someone from your group of friends) and then totally make fun of you? All the time. None of my friends tease me in an attempt to hurt me, though, or they wouldn't be my friends. It's all in fun. Originally posted by Meanie Any advice for decoding the bull/reading between the lines. So far I've figured out that I just want to have a good time/have some fun = I want to have lots of sex with no strings. Same as decoding real life euphamisms. Would it be any different if you met an attractive guy at a bar and he mentioned he just wanted to have fun? I wouldn't put too much stock into what anybody says regarding what they want, however. It's not an even market, on or offline, so women tend to be overly demanding and men tend to say whatever they need to say to get their foot in the door.
RecordProducer Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Why did you assume that the thread starter is female? This person wants to have lots of sex with no strings attached. Sounds very male to me...
scratch Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Why did you assume that the thread starter is female? This person wants to have lots of sex with no strings attached. Sounds very male to me. Quite the contrary. She indicated that she realized that "just wants to have fun" means "NSA sex," a realization that likely came from reading that phrase over and over while browsing ads posted by men. She expressed no opinion as to whether she was looking for that sort of thing.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 She needs to read the post again....this time a bit slower.
JS17 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Why did you assume that the thread starter is female? This person wants to have lots of sex with no strings attached. Sounds very male to me... because she wants to decode the bull****. if it were a male he wouldn't give a crap as long as she was hot.
RecordProducer Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 I bet in whatever you want that it's a dude. The language is male-like (practical and raw) and the NSA sex is mentioned in the fly. A woman would never put it that way neither she would want "lots of sex with NSA." And the fear of friends making fun of him is typically male. Women don't think about stuff like that. Not women who want to have lots of casual sex. If a woman feels uncomfortable with exposing her identity, she will simply ask for advice how to hide it. And most of all, a woman would NEVER have a problem with getting NSA sex online. It's not our issue to get laid. It's guys' eternal problem! A woman can just contact a guy and sleep with him. That much every woman knows.
JS17 Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer I bet in whatever you want that it's a dude. The language is male-like (practical and raw) and the NSA sex is mentioned in the fly. A woman would never put it that way neither she would want "lots of sex with NSA." And the fear of friends making fun of him is typically male. Women don't think about stuff like that. Not women who want to have lots of casual sex. If a woman feels uncomfortable with exposing her identity, she will simply ask for advice how to hide it. And most of all, a woman would NEVER have a problem with getting NSA sex online. It's not our issue to get laid. It's guys' eternal problem! A woman can just contact a guy and sleep with him. That much every woman knows. i agree with you. i think it's a guy. who cares?
Meanie Posted August 6, 2005 Posted August 6, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer I bet in whatever you want that it's a dude. LOL!! In a weird way I'm kind of flattered that you think I'm a "dude". Makes me feel sort of tougher than I really am. Sorry if I came across as a little crass. I was a little pissed off. I just put up my profile on match.com (minus a photo) and within minutes I got quite a few emails and winks. Foolish me I wrote that I wasn't looking for something serious, just someone I can have a good time with. I meant let's hang out, they thought let's have crazy sex.
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