avoiduingthe pain Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Just thought I would ask the community here what they think. My girlfreind and I have split for 3 months now we were together for 3 1/2 years, for part time work and because she really enjoys it she does photo modelling, she as a portfolio on an online model hosting site, this includes Nude modelling. I had no problem with this at all other than her ex who is a photographer also as a portfolio on the same site, he used to try and seduce her with pictures he had taken of her with words of love poetry written below. His name kept cropping up when we had rows, she protested that i didn't trust her and that i was not allowing her to have a friend. we split up, and within 2 weeks (possibly less) she was back with him. I am really struggling to come to terms with it and god knows when i will feel better, if ever.. my problem though is I am able to go online and view there activity on their portfolios, I am so drawn to snooping, It also isnt the best feeling seeing beautiful new nude images in exotic locations (UK) of my ex , and taken by this bloke. I feel immune to the pain, as I cannot help but peek at these images, in fact i realize they have been off this weekend, and probably shooting somewhere they will have pictures up by Thursday, as sad as this sounds I cannot wait to see them. I am convinced that like last time this relationship wont last, they live in different towns and I know that distance brought them down last time. what i ask here is that is it possible that i will become immune to the pain of seeing her if i keep looking at these images? surely this must happen in lots of celebrity type scenarios?.
PegNosePete Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 she protested that i didn't trust her and that i was not allowing her to have a friend. we split up, and within 2 weeks (possibly less) she was back with him. Well I guarantee you they didn't get together 2 weeks after you split up. They had certainly been doing a lot more than taking photos. Your feelings that something was not quite right here, were totally correct. what i ask here is that is it possible that i will become immune to the pain of seeing her if i keep looking at these images? Well exposure/response therapy can be helpful in certain circumstances but I don't think it's useful here. You're just hurting yourself more and more by continuing to be emotionally involved in her life. I think you'd be better off, and heal quicker, if you can find the willpower to not look at these images. Block the website if you must. surely this must happen in lots of celebrity type scenarios?. I wouldn't worry what celebrities do or don't do. They are a world unto themselves.
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