nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Hello world. I will try to break this down in a short paragraph or two. About 2 weeks ago I had the courage to finally approach and introduce myself to this very nice and friendly looking woman. We run at our local park in the evenings and have seen each other quite often but never really had a conversation besides the occasional stare and giggles. When I did approach her she was very shy but very friendly. She told me she was a bit nervous and didnt realize I would approach her to which I replied " you don't look nervous at all, you're doing well" she calmed down and we talked for a few hours that evening. Ever since that night we ended up meeting 2 more times at the same place, on one occasion she took me to a secluded area so that we can drink a beer and smoke without having cops coming up to us ( our neighborhood is filled with officers). We shared a couple stories had a couple drinks and said good bye to each other. She texted me telling me she had a great time. She then ignored me for like 4 days telling me that she sometimes disappears and that she realized what she had done the night we hung out was very sketchy. I asked her why and she said because i could have hurt or raped her where she took me but that i shouldn't feel bad because she trusted me enough to take me there. After all that mess we hung out again, this time she introduced me to a friend of hers. She was quite happy to see me. We dropped off her friend and hung out till late. She ended up dropping me off and we said our goodbyes. She texted me the next following days with " good mornnng messages" and " how's your day going". Everything seemed normal until now she's been ignoring my replies or usually takes about 3 to 5 hours to reply. It's been a strange feeling but I've been playing it cool, I haven't asked her why she isn't replying back or why she takes such a long time to get back. I haven't put her in the "spot" about it. Any thoughts?
frus69 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Maybe she became cold cuz you didnt make any move. Or maybe she isnt even single?
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Maybe she became cold cuz you didnt make any move. Or maybe she isnt even single? My instinct tells me there's another person in the picture that she's dealing with or are not doing so well. But she did tell me she was completely single and had been alone for sometime so then again I don't know what kind of cards she is playing
todreaminblue Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 My instinct tells me there's another person in the picture that she's dealing with or are not doing so well. But she did tell me she was completely single and had been alone for sometime so then again I don't know what kind of cards she is playing maybe she si playing it cool too doesnt want to overstep her mark,seem to needy or clingy.... why not ask her....deb
frus69 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 My instinct tells me there's another person in the picture that she's dealing with or are not doing so well. But she did tell me she was completely single and had been alone for sometime so then again I don't know what kind of cards she is playing It's weird she told you you could have raped her..What the heck? it'd kill all my mood for sure. I don't you what you guys did so far, just drinks and chat? If it's been a while and you still havent asked her out or anything she could be confused by your intention. If you have made a move and she is doing this disappear/reappear game then drop her, not worth it.
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 maybe she si playing it cool too doesnt want to overstep her mark,seem to needy or clingy.... why not ask her....deb I feel like she is trying to hide something from me. And maybe it's that she doesn't want to show too much affection or appear clingy etc. Or I could be totally wrong. Her body language from the day we spoke was very positive and she seemed very overwhelmed I approached her . If she's doesn't come around this time I know I have to let it go. 1
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 It's weird she told you you could have raped her..What the heck? it'd kill all my mood for sure. I don't you what you guys did so far, just drinks and chat? If it's been a while and you still havent asked her out or anything she could be confused by your intention. If you have made a move and she is doing this disappear/reappear game then drop her, not worth it. The last time I asked her was this passed Saturday, I asked if she had any plans for the night to which she simply hasn't replied yet. We haven't done much besides hang out have a couple beers and talk for very long periods. We haven't kissed either. If she's doesn't come around with a good excuse this time I have to let it go
Bastile Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 I think when you are making a thread about a girl that early on, then you are already in trouble. Nevermind. How old are you two? Drinking, smoking and hiding from the police smells like teen spirit. It sounds like you've made no attempt to breed. That might be the something in the way of her interest. I suggest in future not taking so long to make moves towards a woman's heart shaped box. 1
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 I think when you are making a thread about a girl that early on, then you are already in trouble. Nevermind. How old are you two? Drinking, smoking and hiding from the police smells like teen spirit. It sounds like you've made no attempt to breed. That might be the something in the way of her interest. I suggest in future not taking so long to make moves towards a woman's heart shaped box. Shes 24, I'm 26. I've been around easy girls and she did not give me that first impression. She told me she was taking things "slowly and that she had good morals" and was looking for someone alike. If not making a move when I had the chance causes her to disappear then without a doubt I wouldn't bother seeing her again.
korenna Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 well the not getting back to you thing isnt that crazy nobody wants to come off as needy or "super" into someone but the whole " you could have raped me" thing wouldve sent me running for the hills thats one of the craziest things ive ever heard come out a woman's mouth and thats saying a A LOT. 2
smackie9 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Friend zoned.....................the rape comment was just a cheeky comment. She was just letting you know that you are an ok person. She is treating you like a buddy.
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 well the not getting back to you thing isnt that crazy nobody wants to come off as needy or "super" into someone but the whole " you could have raped me" thing wouldve sent me running for the hills thats one of the craziest things ive ever heard come out a woman's mouth and thats saying a A LOT. She was trying to explain why she had disappeared because i was trying to find out by asking questions. I don't see anything weird about it, from her shoes she has a point. She went with a stranger to a secluded area without even knowing me. I'm 6'2 she looks very tiny next to me. I was just laughing when she made that statement... she did tell me she was surprised I didn't react in a negative way.
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Friend zoned.....................the rape comment was just a cheeky comment. She was just letting you know that you are an ok person. She is treating you like a buddy. You have a good point, but I did ask her if I was being friend zoned because I tried to get a kiss and she was acting very shy about it. When I asked her she said "noooo, of course not what are you talking about" making it seem like the friend zone statement wasn't in question here
smackie9 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 You have a good point, but I did ask her if I was being friend zoned because I tried to get a kiss and she was acting very shy about it. When I asked her she said "noooo, of course not what are you talking about" making it seem like the friend zone statement wasn't in question here People lie when they are cornered. Just ask her out on a proper date. If she gives you any excuse....it's true you are friend zoned. 1
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 People lie when they are cornered. Just ask her out on a proper date. If she gives you any excuse....it's true you are friend zoned. I know. Just weird I've never been shown these mixed signals, the mutual chemistry was there and so was the "connection" anyways at the end of the day what's meant for you nobody will take it. Just felt like sharing this story because I am confused even when she did give off some strong signals of being interested. Smiled and laughed at all my lame jokes, was always excited to see me etc etc.
Author nirvanax90 Posted June 15, 2017 Author Posted June 15, 2017 Hello world. I will try to break this down in a short paragraph or two. About 2 weeks ago I had the courage to finally approach and introduce myself to this very nice and friendly looking woman. We run at our local park in the evenings and have seen each other quite often but never really had a conversation besides the occasional stare and giggles. When I did approach her she was very shy but very friendly. She told me she was a bit nervous and didnt realize I would approach her to which I replied " you don't look nervous at all, you're doing well" she calmed down and we talked for a few hours that evening. Ever since that night we ended up meeting 2 more times at the same place, on one occasion she took me to a secluded area so that we can drink a beer and smoke without having cops coming up to us ( our neighborhood is filled with officers). We shared a couple stories had a couple drinks and said good bye to each other. She texted me telling me she had a great time. She then ignored me for like 4 days telling me that she sometimes disappears and that she realized what she had done the night we hung out was very sketchy. I asked her why and she said because i could have hurt or raped her where she took me but that i shouldn't feel bad because she trusted me enough to take me there. After all that mess we hung out again, this time she introduced me to a friend of hers. She was quite happy to see me. We dropped off her friend and hung out till late. She ended up dropping me off and we said our goodbyes. She texted me the next following days with " good mornnng messages" and " how's your day going". Everything seemed normal until now she's been ignoring my replies or usually takes about 3 to 5 hours to reply. It's been a strange feeling but I've been playing it cool, I haven't asked her why she isn't replying back or why she takes such a long time to get back. I haven't put her in the "spot" about it. Any thoughts? UPDTE: hello everyone. Is there any point in telling this person that it is completely ok if she's decided to move on? The thing is she hasn't been coming to the park where we always saw each other and it's making me think it's because of me? I want to make sure she doesn't need to be afraid, I don't think it's a big deal if she's not into me it's just funny how she's disappeared without a trace. I'm talking to new people now so maybe I can tell her this so she doesn't feel strange about it?
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