Angelfirex Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 (edited) So I haven't spoken to my ex in about 7 years since we broke up in 2010 on bad terms. He was my first love and it was a really passionate relationship, we were only 17 at the time and were together for a year. I've had a few boyfriends over the years since and am definitely no longer interested in him, but he's messaged me randomly tonight on Facebook (we're not friends on it) saying 'I've just found your tinder' nothing else, just that. It's so out of the blue and bizarre I just have to ask what everyone thinks of that? We have literally nothing to do with each other, I haven't seen him in 7 years and he just messaged me that. He's been engaged to his girlfriend for the last 5 years according to a mutual friend, so why is he even on tinder? He is the last person out of anyone I know that I'd expect to be on there and especially message me because he made it very clear he wasn't into me, and he seemed to be much happier and settled with his girlfriend after we broke up. I probably will ignore his message but if it were you, what would you say? Would you say anything to his girlfriend about it? It's just so random Edited June 12, 2017 by Angelfirex Add info
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 I'd completely ignore him. He didn't ask you a question so you shouldn't feel obligated to respond. 1
Author Angelfirex Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Yeah exactly and I was planning to ignore him, I guess I just wanted to know why he'd say something like that. I'd get it if we'd spoke recently but 7 years later? Lol
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Yeah exactly and I was planning to ignore him, I guess I just wanted to know why he'd say something like that. I'd get it if we'd spoke recently but 7 years later? Lol To see if you'd respond. 2
marky00 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Nothing odd about it. My first ex who dumped me was Facebook stalking me for about 3 years and I hadn't heard from her for about 15 years. I never responded. Another ex contacted me after no contact for about 7 years. She dumped me and admitted she had been stalking my social media for years. My recent ex who ghosted me in 2016 has been messaging me once per month last 6 months and her last message was asking me if I am married. You will never know the answer but as you can see, your case is not unique.
Author Angelfirex Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Thanks for the reply! Makes me feel better that it's not just me
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Thanks for the reply! Makes me feel better that it's not just me Happens all the time, although 7 years is a long time. I was once contacted after about 10 years, but it was to apologize to me, and it was genuine. Other times? To see if you'll take the bait to at least hook back up.....
Maldives Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 So I haven't spoken to my ex in about 7 years since we broke up in 2010 on bad terms. He was my first love and it was a really passionate relationship, we were only 17 at the time and were together for a year. I've had a few boyfriends over the years since and am definitely no longer interested in him, but he's messaged me randomly tonight on Facebook (we're not friends on it) saying 'I've just found your tinder' nothing else, just that. It's so out of the blue and bizarre I just have to ask what everyone thinks of that? We have literally nothing to do with each other, I haven't seen him in 7 years and he just messaged me that. He's been engaged to his girlfriend for the last 5 years according to a mutual friend, so why is he even on tinder? He is the last person out of anyone I know that I'd expect to be on there and especially message me because he made it very clear he wasn't into me, and he seemed to be much happier and settled with his girlfriend after we broke up. I probably will ignore his message but if it were you, what would you say? Would you say anything to his girlfriend about it? It's just so random Yes my ex wife. After yrs of no contact about a good 6 i wake up one morning to her ticking about a dozen photos on my fb, but by then id had enough of her games and blocked her for good.
Marco Valerio Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 99% of the time, that random message is never about you (honest thought), is about them and something they need/want from you (selfish thought). 2
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