KGL Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 My girlfriend and I have been dating for seven years. We started dating in high school when we were 16 years old. We've been together through college, university, we've lived together on and off, and have experienced everything as a couple for these past 7 years. We both love each other and want to get married one day, however, we have had some rough patches (as all couples do). Last summer we broke up for several months for various reasons, the largest being that at the time I had no desire for marriage and thought it would be best for both of us if we broke up. During that time I was seeing another girl. Eventually I ended up getting back together with my long term girlfriend. Recently, however, there have been feelings of wanting to experience things with other people. Despite the fact that I do want to marry my long term girlfriend, I cannot shake this feeling that I'm missing out on a lot of experiences. All of our firsts (first kiss, first sexual experience) have been together. In terms of sex, neither of us have ever been with anyone else. My girlfriend is okay with this and does not have any desire to ever be with anyone else. As mentioned, I do want to experience things with other people. I do not want to go through my entire life only having sex with one person. I brought this up to her today and we had a brief discussion about it. I suggested we take a break and informed her of how I'm feeling. She stated that if we "take a break" and I have sex with other people, she will not be willing to get back together at any point. So on one hand, I do want to marry her, and I do love her deeply...but on the other hand, this feeling of wanting to experience things with other people will not go away and I do not want to go through my entire life only having sex with one person. Looking for some advice on what may be my best course of action.
babysacay Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Your desire for new experiences is normal and understandable. But coming from someone who has not yet found a person to marry, I personally cannot understand why you would risk losing the one you want to be with. I'm 26 and have had many, many experiences and would trade that all in in a heartbeat for what you already have. And I'm like your girlfriend, if my partner broke up with me and did that, I would feel hurt and taken for granted and not be with him again.
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