Author pbass Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Okay you guys are right i made a mistake but i dont want to lose him.. if you guys have any ideas of what to say or what to do let me know thank you for your help i really appreciate it
Redhead14 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 I can't in good conscience give you advice about the right way to do something you shouldn't do/isn't in your best interest or his. I will, however, wish you well for your future.
Blanco Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Continuing this relationship would be a colossal mistake for both people involved.
Redhead14 Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 You need to try to see further into the future for a life with him. The life of a doctor's wife involves a ton of alone time and keeping the home fires/home running without a lot of input from him. You would need to be extremely secure and independent, with a lot of life experience in order to make healthy decisions and autonomously sometimes. It's a big responsibility. You need to be flexible and it will require a ton of compromise. You may find yourself attending functions at the last minute and without him when emergencies arise. There's a lot more you can't possibly foresee or understand about being in a relationship yet let alone in this one.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Send him another message. Let him know when you will be back & make arrangements to meet. Send no other messages until & unless he responds favorably. If he doesn't respond with a date & time to meet you may have to accept that your actions -- being a pain & breaking up with him -- have consequences. You got good advice right here, OP. I personally don't think this relationship is going to last, simply because there are too many red flags from both of you and you're at completely different places in terms of life stages and maturity. I have a feeling it's on its last legs and will likely fizzle out in the coming months. But if you insist on giving it one last try, the above suggestion would be the way to go about it. 1
springy Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Yeah but we arent broken up i only called for a break so i dont know how to talk to him, he talked to me but then stopped replying The title of your thread - I broke up with my serious boyfriend... In your first post - "I was very angry, and when he called the next morning, I simply said i wanted a break and that i cant do it anymore and i was rude about it." "And so I hung up after breaking it off" Then you went radio silent for an entire week. If this happened to me I would consider myself broken up. You can't expect things to be interpreted in whatever way you defined it in your head at the time. He may very well consider himself single right now. And rightfully so. When you get this angry you take some time too cool off before shooting off your mouth. This will hopefully cut down on saying things you don't really mean. Honestly though, you've shown the guy that you can't handle the truth, and that he will suffer for it all night long (and beyond?) if he were to tell you what he was up to. So he'd rather ask for forgiveness than permission. Send him a message and ask if you can meet up. I'm not sure there is much hope for whatever remains. The dynamic in this relationship is already established - and it's dysfunctional. 1
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