Blobfather Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 So I went on a date with a girl a couple of days ago. I texted to ask if she got back ok and she responded by saying she had a great time and was nice to meet me with a winking emoji. I thought this was a good sign, so a day later I asked her on a second date. It has been about 5 hours and she still hasn't responded. I can see she has read her messages as well. Do you think this means she isn't interested?
mikeylo Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 5 hours is a lot of time ! Don't message again though. The reply after the first date was probably a polite reply.
Author Blobfather Posted June 11, 2017 Author Posted June 11, 2017 Yeah, I think you are right. Normally this kind of stuff doesn't get to me, but I kind of liked this girl, and thought we had a lot in common. Would be nice if she just said. Would save all this annoyance. 1
OatsAndHall Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I get frustrated when women don't respond to a text but five hours really isn't that much time. Now for me, a full day is a lot of time. Wait it out, don't text her and see what happens. The ball is in her court. If you don't hear from her, just call it good and move forward. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 This is why it's a bad idea to ask people out via text. If you do it by phone you get an immediate answer. Don't give up hope just yet but do understand that in light of the fact that she has read the message but not responded, it's not looking good.
Author Blobfather Posted June 11, 2017 Author Posted June 11, 2017 Na, this one is gone. Always best to trust your gut. 1
Author Blobfather Posted June 11, 2017 Author Posted June 11, 2017 I asked her to go on a boat ride. Do you think this was too much for a second date? Its a great way to see they city we live. 1
Erik30 Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Just wait it out. It's Sunday, she probably has plans. But I do agree with the others that it's a bad sign she's taking her time to reply. Anyway don't send a second text, there's nothing wrong with what you suggested for a second date.
starrynight4321 Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I asked her to go on a boat ride. Do you think this was too much for a second date? Its a great way to see they city we live. That's a great second date. While 5 hours isn't that long I find it annoying that she has clearly read the text and hasn't responded. I have no patience for games. She either isn't interested or is playing a game with you. Do not send another text no matter what. Wait to see if she answers. If not, move on.
InvisiBlonde Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I texted to ask if she got back ok Okay; this may be a generational thing, but why didn't you know that as a result of, I don't know, seeing her home? (The man who left me to find my own way home after a date would be waiting a lot longer than five hours to hear back from me!)
J21 Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I think as a general rule, don't freak out if someone doesn't get back to you instantaneously. Some people aren't attached to the hip with their phones. Even if they read it; it doesn't mean they have to respond right away. If she doesn't get back to you within a day, just keep moving forward. It was one date, nothing to get upset over.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Okay; this may be a generational thing, but why didn't you know that as a result of, I don't know, seeing her home? (The man who left me to find my own way home after a date would be waiting a lot longer than five hours to hear back from me!) It would be a very rare occasion that I'd let someone know where I live after a first date..... 1
J21 Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Okay; this may be a generational thing, but why didn't you know that as a result of, I don't know, seeing her home? (The man who left me to find my own way home after a date would be waiting a lot longer than five hours to hear back from me!) I don't know, maybe it's just me. But isn't it kind of creepy to let someone know where you live just after one date? I mean really, what do you know about a person just after one date to let them know where you live. 2
Author Blobfather Posted June 11, 2017 Author Posted June 11, 2017 Okay; this may be a generational thing, but why didn't you know that as a result of, I don't know, seeing her home? (The man who left me to find my own way home after a date would be waiting a lot longer than five hours to hear back from me!) It's London, and not the norm here to escort dates on the underground all the way back to their houses. If it's any consolation, I walked her to the train station.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 It's London, and not the norm here to escort dates on the underground all the way back to their houses. If it's any consolation, I walked her to the train station. I don't think that's the issue, anyway. Unless I already knew the guy, I would not let someone I had one date with know where I lived and would be much more comfortable seeing myself home. The boat ride suggestion sounds lovely for a second date, so don't stress about that. She could be avoiding answering intentionally, so as not to seem eager (silly, but some women are conditioned to believe this is a good idea) or she might just not have felt the connection strongly enough to go out again. In any event, follow the other posters' advice to not text her again. If you hear nothing by tomorrow, I would assume it wasn't a match for her and move along.
InvisiBlonde Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I don't know, maybe it's just me. But isn't it kind of creepy to let someone know where you live just after one date? I mean really, what do you know about a person just after one date to let them know where you live. I can't imagine going out to begin with with someone I didn't know well enough!
Author Blobfather Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Just to finish off this story: So she texted back. Pretty late. She said she was busy due to work that weekend. Which is probably true. She made no counter offer and said she would be busy for the next two weeks, but would text me if she had some free time. Needless to say, I'm not holding out. Cheers for the replies. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Small silver lining -- she's polite. She did get back to you. But as you have figured out her response showed very low interest. Sorry.
Author Blobfather Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Yeah, to be fair I feel alot better about it now.
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