nellieme Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 So.. I just got a boyfriend. I recently got to notice a strangely done tattoo on his back, but I didn't question him about it till recently. Turns out a girl friend of his asked to tattoo him, and he didn't know that she tattooed the first letter of her name and an icon, he just said yes and let her do her thing. He told me he thinks It's cute and would want to keep it.. After I told him I thought it was sort of an obsessive thing he said he would probably tattoo over it... I feel like he's been branded like a cow and he says this is just an innocent thing.. How would you feel if this was your gf/bf? I mean whatever he did before we got involved, **** it. But this is a girl he is still pretty much very involved with very friendly... Am I being completely paranoid and controlling here for feeling this badly about it? Yes it happened a short time before we got together
ZayKayWill Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 The fact that he randomly let her tattoo something on him without knowing what it is in the first place is pretty ****ing stupid if you ask me, yet alone a GIRLS FIRST NAME?! I wouldn't think too much about it honestly he could still like her but if that's how you feel just talk to him. Don't assume. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 The fact that he randomly let her tattoo something on him without knowing what it is in the first place is pretty ****ing stupid if you ask me, yet alone a GIRLS FIRST NAME?! I wouldn't think too much about it honestly he could still like her but if that's how you feel just talk to him. Don't assume. LOL, that was my first thought as well! OP, are you sure you want to date someone with such poor judgment?
bluefeather Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I call bs. He didn't know? yeah right. He's either really stupid or a liar. Either way, it's totally a brand. 1
Author nellieme Posted June 11, 2017 Author Posted June 11, 2017 a GIRLS FIRST NAME?! Only the first letter of her first name with a smily face. Still, he told me it meant her. I also told him what a stupid ****ing thing it was and that she has basically branded him. He wants me to come and meet her on a cabin trip with some of his other friends for a few days so he's not hiding her or anything from out every day.
ZayKayWill Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Only the first letter of her first name with a smily face. Still, he told me it meant her. I also told him what a stupid ****ing thing it was and that she has basically branded him. He wants me to come and meet her on a cabin trip with some of his other friends for a few days so he's not hiding her or anything from out every day. If that's the case then you probably have nothing to worry about. People will constantly argue with me on this but exes can be friends and nothing more than that. If he hasn't given you a reason to not trust him, then let it be IMO.
basil67 Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I also told him what a stupid ****ing thing it was and that she has basically branded him. I understand your frustration. But attacking someone in this manner is not the way to deal with an issue respectfully. After this outburst of yours, he's more likely to dig his heels in than listen to you.
LivingWaterPlease Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Well, you say you just got this boyfriend so your aren't very far into the relationship. So, now's your opportunity to evaluate whether or not he's a person you want to stay in a relationship with. His judgment might be less mature than yours. Ask yourself if this is something you want to deal with throughout the relationship. May be worth it to you, may not be. Only you can decide.
Author nellieme Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 People will constantly argue with me on this but exes can be friends and nothing more than that. That's the thing. They're not exes. Only friends.. So there is supposedly no history there.
Popsicle Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Gross. I don't think I could be with this man. I'd tell him to call me when it's fixed.
Popsicle Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 (edited) That's the thing. They're not exes. Only friends.. So there is supposedly no history there. Now he's really lying to you. He's her orbiter at the very least. Which is not very "least" since he got a tattoo of her on him. Edited June 12, 2017 by Popsicle
d0nnivain Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 Before you lose your mind, find out if the tattoo artist signs all her work. If she does, power down. If this was special for your BF, think about what his lack of judgment says about him then make your decision about staying together. 1
mikeylo Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 They both know what it's about. Taking you for a ride! Don't fall for anything he or she says. Cut your loses. 1
carnelian Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 If you really really like him and think your rel'ship will go far, forgive him and try to forget it. If you don't really like him a lot, and this still upsets you 2 months later, then find someone else to date. Give yourself time to let your annoyance pass. But don't tell him that you rejected him because of a tattoo. It sounds petty.
d0nnivain Posted June 12, 2017 Posted June 12, 2017 But don't tell him that you rejected him because of a tattoo. It sounds petty. It's not about a tattoo. It's about that the female tattoo artist, the BF's "friend" signed her name on the guy's body.
Author nellieme Posted June 13, 2017 Author Posted June 13, 2017 Before you lose your mind, find out if the tattoo artist signs all her work. If she does, power down. If this was special for your BF, think about what his lack of judgment says about him then make your decision about staying together. She's not a tattoo artist, obviously cause it looks really sloppy. She asked to dot tattoo him with a needle and ink. It has her first letter and a smily face
d0nnivain Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Sounds like something he's going to regret for the rest of his life. I couldn't stay with a guy who made such bad decisions. 1
amaysngrace Posted June 13, 2017 Posted June 13, 2017 Because it's on his back he probably doesn't think too much about it. He's probably way less aware of it than you are so of course it doesn't bother him.
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