Real36 Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Its way too early to be awake. Im lying here in bed alone on my first weekend as a single woman in a long time. I'm not hurting or crying just sort of melancholy. I'm amazed to find that I'm still sort of used to being single. Although I've spent every Saturday morning with my ex for the last 15 mos. it feels familiar to not have him here. Maybe I'm one of those life long singletons who never finds a relationship that works.
babysacay Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 I can relate, Real36. I've had a few boyfriends but have also grown uses to finding myself single. I'm beginning to think I'm happier staying single, I was fine and happy until my recent ex came into my life and put me down. May I ask, what happened and how old are you and your ex? 1
Author Real36 Posted June 10, 2017 Author Posted June 10, 2017 Babysacay, I'm 35 and have been through this a few times. Last Friday my ex came over and told me that the spark was gone and he needed some time to take care of himself. He went on to say that he thought we moved way too fast and that we were just settling for each other. He said he still loved me and wanted to be friends but I said no to that because it would hurt too much. Then I helped him get his stuff together to leave. I didn't cry or become emotional at all, I sort of knew this was coming. We have some problems that can't be solved and it was sort of inevitable. He cried and I could tell that he was upset, he frequently is. Its been a week now and I'm total NC.
babysacay Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Stay strong:) I'm only 26 and wonder how many more times I'll go through this.
Sweetfish Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Its way too early to be awake. Im lying here in bed alone on my first weekend as a single woman in a long time. I'm not hurting or crying just sort of melancholy. I'm amazed to find that I'm still sort of used to being single. Although I've spent every Saturday morning with my ex for the last 15 mos. it feels familiar to not have him here. Maybe I'm one of those life long singletons who never finds a relationship that works. I've read some of your threads. I suggest you focus on your self-esteem. There is a difference with accepting your faith and knowing what you want out of life. Don't confuse them. Also, yes weight and looks are an important factor of maintaining a relationship and holds more load on women than men. Just as many women want an educated working man who is confident. Many men want a healthy and beautiful woman. Also, I hope you are not providing for these men.. as this is one way to kill a relationship for a woman. Men like to provide and let them.. give him a purpose. Usually, kids are the adhesive that keep men around for the long haul. It will be harder for you to find a reliable man as you get older.. 2
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