Ocelotsid Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 greetings everyone, My relationship with my girlfriend recently ended. it lasted almost 2 years and everything was great. Few weeks ago she claimed that she needed time apart, naturally i panicked and got confused and I wanted to know the reason. After talking, she said that she has lost her feelings for me and she doesn't think that we belong to each other anymore. The reason she felt this way, is because I didn't show her the love she deserved. I did love her like crazy, i just had troubles expressing it to her. I told her that this can be fixed and I promised her to change. I know I can change and give her the love that she deserves, but she would not give me the chance. we're on the no-contact period cuz i believe she deserves sometime without me to think things through. she was crazy about me once and I am certain of that. could her feelings really fade? and if they do, can I ever restore them? we didn't end things on bad terms, we still enjoyed each-others company after she lost her feelings. and she said that we will talk again someday, maybe as friends. I still love her and I believe I can fix this relationship, how can I change her mind when we talk again? I don't wanna come off as needy or impulsive, I just want her back.
Hurtingguy Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 greetings everyone, My relationship with my girlfriend recently ended. it lasted almost 2 years and everything was great. Few weeks ago she claimed that she needed time apart, naturally i panicked and got confused and I wanted to know the reason. After talking, she said that she has lost her feelings for me and she doesn't think that we belong to each other anymore. The reason she felt this way, is because I didn't show her the love she deserved. I did love her like crazy, i just had troubles expressing it to her. I told her that this can be fixed and I promised her to change. I know I can change and give her the love that she deserves, but she would not give me the chance. we're on the no-contact period cuz i believe she deserves sometime without me to think things through. she was crazy about me once and I am certain of that. could her feelings really fade? and if they do, can I ever restore them? we didn't end things on bad terms, we still enjoyed each-others company after she lost her feelings. and she said that we will talk again someday, maybe as friends. I still love her and I believe I can fix this relationship, how can I change her mind when we talk again? I don't wanna come off as needy or impulsive, I just want her back. You know you had a lot of time to show your affection for her and never did..not that she's gone you realize what you had and what you should have done..life's crazy like that...she's was thinking about this for a ,one time before she ended it she gave you lots of chances 2 years worth and now that she left you wanna change...the thing is she didn't just stop loving you this has been running through her head for a while and she slowly started losing affection for you.as for trying to restore her love that could be tough to do my friend it can take a long time for you to win her heart back again and the chances are pretty slim... My advice give her space let her think what she really wants she will miss you and think about you but don't put any pressure on her let her come to you.. I would wait 15 days then ask her out for dinner or drinks or a walk in the park and show her that you will love her you have a chance but you have to play it right
Author Ocelotsid Posted June 10, 2017 Author Posted June 10, 2017 You know you had a lot of time to show your affection for her and never did..not that she's gone you realize what you had and what you should have done..life's crazy like that...she's was thinking about this for a ,one time before she ended it she gave you lots of chances 2 years worth and now that she left you wanna change...the thing is she didn't just stop loving you this has been running through her head for a while and she slowly started losing affection for you.as for trying to restore her love that could be tough to do my friend it can take a long time for you to win her heart back again and the chances are pretty slim... My advice give her space let her think what she really wants she will miss you and think about you but don't put any pressure on her let her come to you.. I would wait 15 days then ask her out for dinner or drinks or a walk in the park and show her that you will love her you have a chance but you have to play it right I know I had a lot of time. I know it's my mistake here, all i'm askin is a second chance to atone for my mistakes. My problem is fixable, and I know I can fix it if she gives me that chance. The way I see it, I'm still the she fell in love with, only with less defects. I would go to the end of the world to show her that i have changed. it's been more than 15 days since we last talked, and I don't know what to do, if we ever talk again. Should I act all cool like nothing happened? or Should Fight for her and show her that I still think we belong together ?
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Once somebody loses feelings nothing in the world will get them back. Had she spoken up or had you listened and acted before the breakup, this may have been fixable. Now, almost anything you do will look clingy & needy. That said, you know her. We don't. If there is any chance that she's running to see if you will chase her (as in she's testing you), by all means chase. I wouldn't go hog wild but perhaps send her flowers with a message that says something like: "I can do romance. Give me a chance to prove it to you." If she gives you that chance you better bring your A game.
Marc878 Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 If you give chase they just move farther away. At least you haven't done that yet. As far as just being friends after don't go that route. It'll just hold you in limbo. You can't make anyone love you that's up to them. Don't be surprised if there is someone else in the mix. There usually is. Sounds like she's moved on. If she doesn't reach out you don't have anything to work with.
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