jzohaib Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 (English is not my first language, therefore please ignore the grammatical mistakes) Hello, I have been engaged for about 3 years now. We were suppose to get married later this year. My fiance loves me a lot. She forces me to spend time with her. I don't know how else to say it but she is the clingy type and I am more of a reserved guy. But I love her none the less, may be not as intensely as she does. But here is what happened that really broke my heart. A week ago I found her receiving sex messages from her ex-class mate. It was going on for about a month. I was devastated to find out this. I immediately told her that it's over and we wont be getting married. But she begged me not to do that. She said that it was a mistake and it will never ever happen again. I know that she will never do that again. I am also sure that this was only through texting and they never did anything physical. But I am completely devastated and can't believe it, that she could do something like that. So I was firm that marriage is not gonna happen and it's over. Here is when things got complicated. After 1 day of my refusal, she started getting seizure attacks. When I took her to the hospital they said that she has 'Conversion disorder' - means these seizure attacks are due to a trauma ( breakup). So during her treatment I told her that I forgive her and we are not breaking up. Only after that she started getting back. She is improving now. I don't know what should i do? To be honest after that incident I don't trust and like her anymore. But since I love and care for her I keep telling her that I am not leaving her, so that she can recover from her condition. Please help. Thank you so much!
preraph Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 My dog has stress seizures. They're real if there's any doubt in your mind, but that doesn't mean you should never ever get to upset her. Life is full of stress. She kinda brought this on herself. If you know it was a one-off thing with her, then up to you to forget it and move on, but sounds like you're kind of over her. You know, clingy people are attention seekers and can't get enough attention, so that is all one big ball of wax there. 1
avvril3000 Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 whether or not her seizures are to do with what happened,you can't live your life in fear that she will be sick due to you not wanting to be with her. If you truly cannot be anymore with her, you have to move on and she needs to adapt. That's life. Its like if someone said they were going to kill themselves if you leave them, you cant live your life based on their own problems. i hope you are able to move on and she will be able to physically handle it
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Get a second medical opinion. I can't imagine that you will have a happy fulfilling marriage with a clingy woman who gives herself seizures in the face of a break up who has been sexting another man while engaged. What is she going to do in the face of a genuine crisis? You certainly can't marry her just to stop her from having seizures.
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