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The Urbanyst Established Member

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Are most women uncomfortable with dating a guy who is better looking than they are?

basil67 Established Member

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I'm a woman. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

 

Out of curiosity, why do you think it would bother a woman?

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The Urbanyst Established Member

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I'm a woman. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

 

Out of curiosity, why do you think it would bother a woman?

 

I've heard women say they don't want their man to be "prettier than them" and take away attention they should be getting.

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Some women don't like it if a guy is in perfect shape, because it makes them feel self conscious about their own body. But there are others who don't care at all and just love they're dating an "extremely" attractive person, (like most guys would in that situation) so it just depends on the girl

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I've heard women say they don't want their man to be "prettier than them" and take away attention they should be getting.

 

Bahahaha. I can't even begin to relate to this degree of self absorption.

 

If that's how a particular woman feels, then it's best to avoid her.

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GemmaUK Established Member

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Doesn't bother me but then attraction is subjective.

People say Brad Pitt is good looking but I've never found him to be attractive looking.

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i believe all the guys i have dated an d been in a relationship with were good looking and handsome....they were to me and that is all that counts i dont care what others think about them.....doesnt change how i see them...deb

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the wierd thing is the guy only starts to get more attention if his seen with a female for some reason it makes other females curious dunno if the better looking thing got anything to do with it dont think it matters

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JuneL Established Member

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Some women don't like it if a guy is in perfect shape, because it makes them feel self conscious about their own body. But there are others who don't care at all and just love they're dating an "extremely" attractive person, (like most guys would in that situation) so it just depends on the girl

 

If a guy is in PERFECT shape, that means he's super conscious about his shape, and always has to exercise and eat right to maintain his perfect shape. This screams high maintenance and can be a turn off to some women. The same applies to those who always wear designer outfits and drive an expensive sports car. These guys, if they have good looks in addition to perfect shape, would be great for a ONS or FWB (not that I do either). But some women may not take them seriously as relationship material.

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If a guy is in PERFECT shape, that means he's super conscious about his shape, and always has to exercise and eat right to maintain his perfect shape. This screams high maintenance and can be a turn off to some women. The same applies to those who always wear designer outfits and drive an expensive sports car. These guys, if they have good looks in addition to perfect shape, would be great for a ONS or FWB (not that I do either). But some women may not take them seriously as relationship material.

 

 

why do women think us type of guys wouldnt be relationship material . i always go to gym i wouldnt say i have perfect shape but people do notice that i train i always get compliments on my arms if im wearing a shirt for example . my car not super expensive although it a sports car cost around 45000 it doesnt change the person we are those are just things we like to have i sure as hell dont go to gym to impress women do it for myself its just a hobby for me and as for the car it cause im really into cars so of course i would want to drive something nice . i really hope random women dont think im only good for ons or a fwb sort thing cause not all of us are like that

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JuneL Established Member

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why do women think us type of guys wouldnt be relationship material . i always go to gym i wouldnt say i have perfect shape but people do notice that i train i always get compliments on my arms if im wearing a shirt for example . my car not super expensive although it a sports car cost around 45000 it doesnt change the person we are those are just things we like to have i sure as hell dont go to gym to impress women do it for myself its just a hobby for me and as for the car it cause im really into cars so of course i would want to drive something nice . i really hope random women dont think im only good for ons or a fwb sort thing cause not all of us are like that

 

Rest assured a 45k car doesn't count as an expensive one, at all.

 

By the same token, going to the gym to keep yourself in shape is different from keeping yourself in perfect shape.

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Rest assured a 45k car doesn't count as an expensive one, at all.

 

By the same token, going to the gym to keep yourself in shape is different from keeping yourself in perfect shape.

 

i do diet dont go gym without diet as that would be pointless gym is like mostly about what you eat anyway so of course you got keep track to stay in shape aka stay around 10 percent bodyfat for example it way to hard once it goes under that no way in hell am i gonna just eat meat and veggies only that if u want to be super ripped which i have no interest in as that type of diet is very hard to maintain also to stay very low body fat all year around is very hard lol

 

im just saying women shouldnt judge guys based off what there appearance is or what car they drive or automatically think thats all there good for .

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The thing I find odd is that women could post the sexiest of sexy pictures of themselves, ass and tits poppin', smoochieface, and it's all good, everyone heaps the high fives and back slaps, and the "you go girl".type of stuff..

 

If a guy does something similar, he's just a self absorbed douchebag...

 

 

Oh well.......:laugh:

 

TFY

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The thing I find odd is that women could post the sexiest of sexy pictures of themselves, ass and tits poppin', smoochieface, and it's all good, everyone heaps the high fives and back slaps, and the "you go girl".type of stuff..

 

If a guy does something similar, he's just a self absorbed douchebag...

 

 

Oh well.......:laugh:

 

TFY

 

And guys seriously consider these women relationship material?

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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And guys seriously consider these women relationship material?

 

 

I can't see how a woman posting a pic that shows her assets as being something deal breaking...Good and otherwise desirable women do it all the time....At least the ones that can pull it off..

 

Cosmetic surgery for women is a multi billion dollar industry...

 

TFY

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Who cares if he or she is getting someone's attention or not ? Their attention should be on their partner. That's all that matters. If they are attention seekers then that's bad news anyway.

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If a guy is in PERFECT shape, that means he's super conscious about his shape, and always has to exercise and eat right to maintain his perfect shape. This screams high maintenance and can be a turn off to some women. The same applies to those who always wear designer outfits and drive an expensive sports car. These guys, if they have good looks in addition to perfect shape, would be great for a ONS or FWB (not that I do either). But some women may not take them seriously as relationship material.

 

Why would a good looking guy who works out, eats right, dresses well, takes care of his car and generally takes care of himself be high maintenance? This seems to be a quality that both men and women would appreciate in their mate. I do.

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The thing I find odd is that women could post the sexiest of sexy pictures of themselves, ass and tits poppin', smoochieface, and it's all good, everyone heaps the high fives and back slaps, and the "you go girl".type of stuff..

 

If a guy does something similar, he's just a self absorbed douchebag...

 

 

Oh well.......:laugh:

 

TFY

 

Because women are socialized to think that looks are pretty much all they have to offer...mostly thanks to men's obsession with the physical.

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i do diet dont go gym without diet as that would be pointless gym is like mostly about what you eat anyway so of course you got keep track to stay in shape aka stay around 10 percent bodyfat for example it way to hard once it goes under that no way in hell am i gonna just eat meat and veggies only that if u want to be super ripped which i have no interest in as that type of diet is very hard to maintain also to stay very low body fat all year around is very hard lol

 

im just saying women shouldnt judge guys based off what there appearance is or what car they drive or automatically think thats all there good for .

 

I wouldn't judge you for that, but I would assume it would be the topic of 90% of our conversations and that would start to really bore me. (Been there)

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thefooloftheyear Established Member

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Because women are socialized to think that looks are pretty much all they have to offer...mostly thanks to men's obsession with the physical.

 

No argument...:)

 

But then why crap on a guy that may just be proud of his looks/body??

 

TFY

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The thing I find odd is that women could post the sexiest of sexy pictures of themselves, ass and tits poppin', smoochieface, and it's all good, everyone heaps the high fives and back slaps, and the "you go girl".type of stuff..

 

If a guy does something similar, he's just a self absorbed douchebag...

 

 

Oh well.......:laugh:

 

TFY

 

Now if a guy did the above he would be a self absorbed douchebag but I feel the same way about women who do that stuff.

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I wouldn't know. I've generally dated women who were a hell of a lot better looking than me, especially the woman I married. 33 years later she's still hot, and I look like some monolithic (or paleolithic) Easter Island statue.

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But then why crap on a guy that may just be proud of his looks/body??

 

 

Because to some people, "men" are supposed to be rugged and tough and "natural", they are not supposed to be spending their lives preening in front of the mirror.

To some a man worried about wearing the "right" designer wear, concerned about manicures, the circumference of his biceps and which hair product to use is not a "real" man.

He may also spends hours in the gym trying to increase his "beauty", which to some is just ridiculous. Health yes, obsession with his muscles and how he looks. Er no...

 

Those pursuits are seen by some as essentially "feminine" or "gay" or "narcissistic", and thus why some will give him a hard time over it.

 

A man who is in love with himself has usually no time to devote to a woman, hence why some women will seek to avoid, no matter how good looking he may be.

To some it is better to curl up with a chubby guy who loves to spend time on the sofa watching Netflix and eating pizza, than spend every night alone as a gym widow...

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If a guy is in PERFECT shape, that means he's super conscious about his shape, and always has to exercise and eat right to maintain his perfect shape. This screams high maintenance and can be a turn off to some women. The same applies to those who always wear designer outfits and drive an expensive sports car. These guys, if they have good looks in addition to perfect shape, would be great for a ONS or FWB (not that I do either). But some women may not take them seriously as relationship material.

 

I have been told by several women that they don't date guys who hit the gym consistently.. They've said that these men are "self-absorbed" and "arrogant"... I'm no Adonis but I enjoy the gym as a stress reliever and I watch what I eat. I don't do so because I am in search of a six-pack: I just feel better emotionally when I take care of myself.

 

But, back to the original question... I have met more women that date guys that they feel are less attractive than they are. I get the impression that it provides them with a sense of security. "I'm better looking than him, he realizes it and he'll cherish me/won't screw around/will always be there."

 

But, either way, it's a shallow thought process..

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My sister only dates guys that are less attractive than her, she hasn't always been this way but after a couple of really bad heartbreaks, she decided to seek people who think she is a goddess. She actually told me to be with somebody who loves me more than I love them. I guess that makes sense in a way but I don't fall in love easily and when I do I certainly don't have any control over it. She is way more disciplined than me.

 

My current boyfriend is very good looking, he is subjectively the best looking guy I have ever dated, but I don't consider him my most attractive boyfriend. I've always had weird taste and have been attracted to guys that aren't everyone's cup of tea. I like weird quirks and awkwardness. Although I can appreciate that my boyfriend is attractive, it is kind of annoying in a way haha, I don't know why and I feel so mean for thinking it!!

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