morbot_k Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 just more out of curiosity..... someone texts... 'I haven't been on a date in a while but I was "dating"' I laughed
Author morbot_k Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 If a girl sent you this, it means that guys don't actually want to take her out on real dates, but she does the Netflix and chill. Ah...I think the second part makes sense. 1
PegNosePete Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Yeah I would assume she hasn't actually been on any real dates but has been doing hookups. Respond: Would you like to go on a "date" with me? 1
act00 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 I would say that it's not "real" dating. Hookups or hanging out, but no one is really taking her out on dates or treating her as a girlfriend or someone they want to pursue for the long term.
J21 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Maybe she meant she went out on dates for a free meal. I've had friends (that are girls) tell me they've done that.
Author morbot_k Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 Seems that going out to dinner would mean a date and not a "date". Truth is I don't know exactly what she meant but it does seem to imply strongly that she is hooking up with someone but they have not gone out on a date. Regardless, it's a strange thing for her to tell me and doesn't seem to communicate much interest at least on a romantic level in me which I suppose is the bottom line. Or at least, I am no longer seeing her as a romantic interest but I probably should get clarity from her on "dating" before I completely axe her.
J21 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Seems that going out to dinner would mean a date and not a "date". Truth is I don't know exactly what she meant but it does seem to imply strongly that she is hooking up with someone but they have not gone out on a date. Regardless, it's a strange thing for her to tell me and doesn't seem to communicate much interest at least on a romantic level in me which I suppose is the bottom line. Or at least, I am no longer seeing her as a romantic interest but I probably should get clarity from her on "dating" before I completely axe her. Going out on a date to get a feel meal is a "date" if there is no romantic interest.
Author morbot_k Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 Sadly, if no one is taking her out on actual dates, there is likely a good reason for it. Doesn't hurt to keep talking to her anyway, but she is probably just not relationship material, which is why those guys don't treat her to actual dates. You know how it is, if you are really into a girl, you take her somewhere nice, you show her off to your friends, the whole nine. You want to impress her. If she isn't all that to you....Netflix and chill at 11pm it is. For most guys she talks to, this girl is plan B. You could be right. But I feel that reading that much into who she is based on the use of "" might be a bit pre-mature. My reply to her was...Just out of curiosity...are we dating or are we "dating"? 1
Bastile Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 I would take it as having sex. My reply to her was...Just out of curiosity...are we dating or are we "dating"? Are you trying to define the relationship?
Author morbot_k Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 I would take it as having sex. Are you trying to define the relationship? no just curious and having fun.
Imajerk17 Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 (edited) It means that she hasn't been going on any formal dates aka Match, but that she has been physically/romantically involved w someone. Not as witty as the other responses here. But isn't that how many couples get together though. As in you and she first meet via social circle, you both realize you feel chemistry, and then you hang out, one-on-one. I once "dated" someone at work for 2 years, but by the time we went on our first formal date, we really were already exclusive. ETA: Saw later posts. OP *why* would you try to have a conversation like that *over text*. You know how much is likely to be misinterpreted by BOTH of you? Hell look at what already happened--you already had to come to this forum to figure out what she meant by one simple word. Communication balls up indeed! Edited June 10, 2017 by Imajerk17
Bastile Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 (edited) no just curious and having fun. Then the response is: "Explain to an innocent lad like me the difference?" Same thing whilst avoiding the talk . Still a bit awkward though. Would prefer to stack to something different. Edited June 10, 2017 by Bastile
Author morbot_k Posted June 10, 2017 Author Posted June 10, 2017 Then the response is: "Explain to an innocent lad like me the difference?" Same thing whilst avoiding the talk . Still a bit awkward though. Would prefer to stack to something different. Yeah that is a better way to put it. Hey man, you are pretty good at this dating stuff. Anyway, I am not too worried about it. 1
Bastile Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Yeah that is a better way to put it. Hey man, you are pretty good at this dating stuff. Trial and error. And I'm not that good, because my head's done in and I'm needing to detox from everything Anyway, I am not too worried about it. That's the spirit
Kamille Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Seems that going out to dinner would mean a date and not a "date". Truth is I don't know exactly what she meant but it does seem to imply strongly that she is hooking up with someone but they have not gone out on a date. Regardless, it's a strange thing for her to tell me and doesn't seem to communicate much interest at least on a romantic level in me which I suppose is the bottom line. Or at least, I am no longer seeing her as a romantic interest but I probably should get clarity from her on "dating" before I completely axe her. There is a possible different take. In my city, "hanging out" (in quotation marks ) seems to be the thing for many people. As in, you meet someone on OLD or IRL, they tell you: hey I'm at such event with pals, come along if you feel like it. These are not dates and personally, I prefer a date. And yes, this way of functioning can lead to hookups. If this is what she means as the difference, then it's actually a compliment that she would like to go on a real date with you. You've met her so you know best what she could mean.
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