Eddie007 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Try to make this short and sweet. I went on a first date a few days ago. Met the girl online and we talked for about a week. She texted pretty regularly but not super often. We decided to go to a baseball game. It was a good time. At the game I gave her a back and neck massage (at her request) and on the way back to the car she grabbed my hand as we walked. At the car i gave her a few goodnight kisses and we both agreed to see each other again. Now a few days later she already seems more distant. Everything seemed to go fine but my gut tells me she may be doing the slow fade. Could it just be my imagination?
J21 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Is she replying back to text messages or phone calls? What's the reasoning behind the gut telling u she's doing a slow fade?
Purepony Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 I don't understand when a first or second date goes well then they fade any more info you can give us ?
Author Eddie007 Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 Yes she replies, but it typically takes longer than usual. Maybe she's busy. I've had it happen in the past. I think things went or are going well and then the texts slow, then stop all together.
Author Eddie007 Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 I don't understand when a first or second date goes well then they fade any more info you can give us ? I think it's the way of online dating. There are so many choices. Even if they have fun there are so many options.
Purepony Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 That's a good point Eddie because I had something similar happen a few weeks back and she slowly faded so I just didn't bother I just don't understand how it works because if I usually have a good time with someone I try and make time for them but I see more everything going good then suddenly it fades
The Urbanyst Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Stop worrying so much. Go back to focusing in your normal life for a week or so, then ping her again and see what happens. There is no reason to be breathing down a woman's neck so hard after only a few dates.
Erik30 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 I don't understand when a first or second date goes well then they fade any more info you can give us ? You think it went well, that's your own impression of the date. The only way to be sure if she's doing the slow fade is asking her out again. If she's "too busy," or has some other lame excuse, she probably lost interest. 1
Author Eddie007 Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 I did ask for a 2nd date but she is working on the day I suggested. I suggested she get in touch when she's free and she said she would. We will see.
mikeylo Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Just see how it goes but I agree, online dating gives people a lot of options and most of them are multi dating.
Purepony Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 You think it went well, that's your own impression of the date. The only way to be sure if she's doing the slow fade is asking her out again. If she's "too busy," or has some other lame excuse, she probably lost interest. Yes it could be only my own impression but what about when you go out on a double date with a friend and even they tell you they see everything going well ? Not to hi jack but just a thought.
hercules22 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 some people may have had a good time but they just dont want to say it outright they are not into you it to early to say as you only been on one date just assume shes busy and see how things go if u do get the 2nd date and if possible more dates after.
J21 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 If it only has been 1 date, I don't think it really is a "slow fade". Slow fade (to me) would be after like 3-4 dates, or maybe a month of continual dating/contact. After one date, she is more likely assessing how much chemistry there was between you and her. You can like her all you want, but the feeling has to be reciprocated. She could be talking to other guys too, so she's taking the time to weigh her options. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 As long as she is responding you are fine. It's not a slow fade. It's life. Plan another date.
Maggie4 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 It sounds like the date went well, and you are dateable. But she didn't get all excited about you. Nothing wrong with you.
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