MikeSpace66 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I'm seriously too old for this but it happened so here's my story! So it was just another typical day at work, nothing out of the ordinary and then this girl walks in the door, comes to the counter and says she's reporting to work. I've been working there 3 years and I've never seen her so I guess she's new? Anyway, she goes back to put her things away and came back up to start work cashiering, and she's really good at it, so she didn't need much help except for once, so of course I ran right up to help since I'm always helping everyone! I get along with everyone at work and I'm friends with basically everyone so it's a nice workplace environment. We exchanged a few pleasantries throughout the shift, she's super nice so we talked a while, then she even waved back to me with a huge smile as I was leaving for the day saying goodbye! Like I said, the workplace environment is great so it's not out of the ordinary for us to wave hi and bye and be friendly so she fits right in and I don't want to read much into that! Anyway, when I got outside, got in my car, I literally sat there in a daze for 10 minutes processing what just happened? I could barely remember how to drive.. I've been single for over a year now just because things haven't really worked out and it took me almost this long to get over someone who I was really, truly in love with. She also used to be a co worker at my previous job, are you sensing a theme here? Anyway, we're good friends now and I've pretty much recovered so I think I'm ready to put my heart out there again! See because when I fall, I always fall hard and set myself up for heartbreak and I don't want that happening again, that's why I'm so hesitant now and need advice! About a week ago I was just sitting there, thinking about my single life, about how I think I'm ready to fall in love and settle down. So I just threw it out to the universe, repeating "Isn't it finally time for me to be happy? If you agree, please please just drop an amazing woman into my life randomly, because I need it and I also deserve happiness, so please for once in my miserable life, help me out!" And ever since I first saw her with my own 2 eyes, I haven't been able to stop thinking about her! I see hundreds of random people at work and this never happens, but from the second I saw her, it hit me like a ton of bricks, I don't think anyone has ever brought all these feelings out of me from just one random meeting! She is absolutely stunning and a total sweetheart, such a great personality from the little time I had the privilege to talk with her, I realized she seems like the perfect girl for me! Thing is, I don't work again until Monday so I have to wait until at least then to see her again. And in this job, I've seen so many people disappear after just one day and I'm just praying that this doesn't happen with her because I really want to see her again.. So please people, send out some good karma for me so that I can see her again! How do you think I should pursue this? I'm definitely not gonna come right out and profess my love for her but I do need advice. She is about 10 years younger than me which is another thing I need to keep in mind. So right now I'm just gonna pursue a friendship and go from there, I just need the universe to help me out and not disappear her from my life never to be seen again. Is she the gift the universe sent to me like I prayed for or just another shooting star passing right in front of my face? Do you believe in love at first sight? As you can tell from reading my post that I'm a hopeless romantic.. Is she the same? Is she thinking about me too or is this just one sided? All I know is I just want a chance to see her again, I'm pleading to the universe, please keep her in my life, if she is the one, she will still be there, right?
preraph Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 How big an age difference? Now the part about you telling the universe you're ready is really just you telling yourself you're ready, and so next woman you saw, bang, you were ready. Doesn't mean she's ready. If you're near enough in age and it's okay to date at work and you want to go through THAT again when and if you break up, then there is no big plan to think out. You certainly don't tell her you're in love because truth is that love is in you, not between the two of you with her contributing a part to make it whole. You just decided you were over the last one and ready to give love again. But you can't tell her that without looking like a twit, so don't. Talk to her at work for a couple of weeks, maybe get on each other's social media, and find out if she is married or has a boyfriend or if she is free to date. You can just just ask her, "Do you have a family?" It's fine to do that at work, find out a little about her. That might be the end of the conversation right there if she does or has a bf. Otherwise, be friendly and get on social media and just see if she seems interested back or is just being polite to you and everyone because that's what you're paid to to at work. Good luck. 1
Author MikeSpace66 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 She's probably about 10 years younger, so not old enough to have a family but a BF is more than likely! I already have an awesome plan on how to get to know her better and maybe spend more time together, I feel a lot better just getting all this off my chest and I appreciate all your advice and company, I really need this, I can't keep it all in myself or I'll explode! 1
Author MikeSpace66 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 My advice: never poop where you eat. As much as I love the people I work with, I'd drop this job for love in a heartbeat, especially for a girl like this! ..I could most likely find a better paying job anyway, but I stay here because the work environment is first class!
soyou Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Love the way you look at love! Very cute! Good luck and all the best! Just be yourself. Be nice. Be a gentleman. Dont be a pushover. Know your strength and weakness. YOU WILL GET HER!!!!! 2
preraph Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I just want to caution about the age difference. When I was 28, 33 year old people seemed old to me. When I was 22, anyone over 30 seemed ancient. Now, if you're 50 and she's 40, the maturity levels are the same and it's no big deal but the 20 to 30 range there is a huge level in maturity and young people usually stick with young people. Pace yourself and don't move so fast you freak her out! 4
Author MikeSpace66 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 I just want to caution about the age difference. When I was 28, 33 year old people seemed old to me. When I was 22, anyone over 30 seemed ancient. Now, if you're 50 and she's 40, the maturity levels are the same and it's no big deal but the 20 to 30 range there is a huge level in maturity and young people usually stick with young people. Pace yourself and don't move so fast you freak her out! That is great advice thank you! I will keep all this in mind! Love the way you look at love! Very cute! Good luck and all the best! Just be yourself. Be nice. Be a gentleman. Dont be a pushover. Know your strength and weakness. YOU WILL GET HER!!!!! Thank you, I will definitely do that!
mikeylo Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 So she is the answer to your prayers , lol ! Since you are 10 years older, you have to remember that you will have to be at your best game to keep her Start from getting her number so that even if she disappears, you can contact her because her digits won't be written in the universe at night for you to read Be a friend but do create sexual tension to avoid friend zone. If it's hit you, it's hit you. 1
mikeylo Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 How did it go dude? Was she still there or disappeared ? 1
Noideanow Posted June 15, 2017 Posted June 15, 2017 Such a story lovely to reed of a man with such passion:):) really cross My fingers and have a feeling it is the real deal:) What i dont understand though, coming from another planet why two people who love each other cant Work together? Wouldnt that Be a dream? Not wasting life missing each other, and Even feel sad other people get to enjoy the One you love while you cant, sure sounds like hell to me so Now i ask the universe to send me a man from my planet;) Btw please get some children with her with This kind of passion you have, ohh life has it i want the children i get to meet yours when time for love;) 1
Author MikeSpace66 Posted June 17, 2017 Author Posted June 17, 2017 I got it!! Now here's the thing.. I actually asked for it in regards to a work thing, and she just practically jumped at the chance to give it to me! But then instead of just leaving on a high note, we hung out a while longer and by the end she seemed kind of despondent, I really hope I didn't come off as too overbearing. But it was the end of the day and everyone was tired so I think she was just ready to go home. Now I'm just worried that I didn't screw things up right from the jump! But our interactions have all been so natural and we really love each other's company. Like magnets we seem drawn to each other naturally, it's just the most amazing thing ever. I honestly hope that because of a moment of weakness, I didn't flush it all down the toilet! But if our connection is so strong, hopefully we can get over it and move on. How do you all think she sees it? When I text her next week like we planned, will her feelings still be there? This is my biggest problem, when I act natural, everybody really likes my company but once I start caring for someone it's like I start to lose my mind and try do too much.. How do I have this complex where everybody really likes my company, but I can't have any belief in myself? I keep doubting and second guessing myself, it's like I want to hate myself for no reason at all, and my mind digs for every single thing that maybe I did wrong or how I could have screwed it up and I really really need to get over this or I'll never be happy because if you can't love yourself, how can anybody love you? Right now I should be hanging out with a bunch of my friends by the bonfire having a blast laughing it up with them, but instead I locked myself in this room to type this.. I will not give up on her, I will be taking it slow from now on and do everything in my power not to mess this up! Do you guys have any more advice for me? You guys have been wonderful and sharing this with you makes me feel so much better so right now I'm gonna go out there and have some fun! Thank you all so much for listening! 2
Popsicle Posted June 17, 2017 Posted June 17, 2017 Love to see a guy with this much excitement and hope. :love: I say go for it! 2
Author MikeSpace66 Posted June 18, 2017 Author Posted June 18, 2017 So I went to the bonfire and met the coolest people I could have ever imagined and even better than that, completely blew my mind! The universe is kicking me in the ass trying to show me how lucky I am, I don't think I'm gonna doubt it anymore! 1
Maggie4 Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 The universe is kicking me in the ass... The universe does a lot of ass kicking, that's true. Hey! Don't forget to be natural. With an age difference, you definitely want to avoid staring.
mikeylo Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 Happy for you dude ! Like I said, take it slow but don't fall in friend zone by creating sexual tension. You don't have to bring in sex early on. Develop more emotional bonding. While being older you have to got to keep game up but also have an advantage if you know how to use it. I'm a believer of soulmate connection. Google it and you might be ticking some boxes! 1
Chilli Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 (edited) Well this is nice to see for a change. But l can't believe everyone is getting so touched and mushy about this one. Every time l see a thread of someone falling for someone everyone around here seems to basically be telling them their a fool getting too carried away they don't even know them yet and rah rah rah, warnings warnings warnings all round as soon as someones exited about anyone new. And they usually run the whole soul mate thing into the dirt too and any love at first sight stuff. What gives Anyway , l too hope it all goes great for you too M and just for the record, l do believe in the soul mate and love at first sight stuff, and also in the universe looking after us when it's in the mood. Good luck man. But hey , l'd still like to know what's come over the ls crowd haha. Edited June 18, 2017 by Chilli
Noideanow Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 If she loves you as it soounds you Can do nothing wrong only maybe do Too little, you think to much leaving on a High note what you do is break her Heart and yours if you two just want to Be together:) she feels like you and Will only feel sad and maybe Even that youre not that intetested if you dont show her exactly How you feel, follow your Heart dont play games thats for insecure people. That you analyse so much i think is because your Heart wants to Be with her Now and you have to follow that:love: A woman who loves you want to Be close to you all the time afterall its natures way to Make a team that Can Be there for their children to survive*
joseb Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 Well this is nice to see for a change. But l can't believe everyone is getting so touched and mushy about this one. Every time l see a thread of someone falling for someone everyone around here seems to basically be telling them their a fool getting too carried away they don't even know them yet and rah rah rah, warnings warnings warnings all round as soon as someones exited about anyone new. And they usually run the whole soul mate thing into the dirt too and any love at first sight stuff. What gives Anyway , l too hope it all goes great for you too M and just for the record, l do believe in the soul mate and love at first sight stuff, and also in the universe looking after us when it's in the mood. Good luck man. But hey , l'd still like to know what's come over the ls crowd haha. Yeah im not sure why either. Everyone seems to be acting like a teenager on this one. It's kinda nice op is so excited, but I think he is getting totally carried away. He put this girl on a pedestal immediately he saw her. He claims to love her already. For all we know, she could be married, or have a bf. OP take a step back. By all means, pursue her, but be realistic. You don't love her, because you just met her. You are attracted to her and she seems nice, so go ahead and ask her out, but don't make it into some fairy story that has no chance of living up to reality. As for the other problems like age gap and the fact you work together, well I personally don't date coworkers, but if you are are willing to change jobs if need be then thats less of an issue. As for the age thing, it depends a lot on your age - if you are 30 and she is 20, may be an issue. Less so if you are closer to 40. 1
Purepony Posted June 18, 2017 Posted June 18, 2017 I get your excited but don't push this and take this too serious Last thing you want to do is push her or scare her away with all this excitement early on, take it slow and play it cool 1
Author MikeSpace66 Posted June 20, 2017 Author Posted June 20, 2017 You guys have all been absolutely wonderful, I really appreciate all your help and advice! Looks like the universe also brought us together because of this and I will definitely be sticking around! So finally I had some time to reflect after such a whirlwind week and luckily my cooler head has prevailed. I decided that I'm going to take this as slowly as possible, I'm just going to text her saying hi and we will go from there. I'm happy that I worked up the courage to ask for her phone number and now I don't have to worry about her disappearing! So there is going to be absolutely no pressure from me, I'm just going to be myself with her. And if it lands me in the friend zone, so be it, we have this crazy personal connection and if we are meant to be together, we will be! I just know that I care for her very much and I'm just blessed to have her in my life. Maybe she will become my best friend and love will grow from that, who knows? If it's real, it will work out perfectly! Thanks to everyone for all of your support! 3
mikeylo Posted June 21, 2017 Posted June 21, 2017 You know that you are going to get emotionally attached, right ? The slow brew is going to hot up before you know it. It will happen.
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