The Urbanyst Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 What does it mean when you go on a first date with someone you met online and have sex, then they delete their account the next day? Just asking since I'm currently dating more than one girl. No talk of being exclusive with anyone just yet.
Kamille Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 It means it's their job to manage their dating life the way they see fit. Do what feels right to you. In your shoes, I would consider telling this person that you want to take your time before being exclusive with each other. 2
Gaeta Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Means nothing. During my online dating years sometimes I felt fed up by the whole process so I deleted my profile. If the guy I had a date with the previous night concluded it was about him he was wrong. 1
dumbass2 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Just make sure to be upfront with what you are looking for. Are you just looking to casually date around or are you seeking out a LTR? Even if you are looking for a LTR, you still are open to date others early on until BOTH of you feel like just focusing on each other because you both want to see where it can go. As to why she deleted her account, no one but her can tell you. If she had sex with you on the first date, doesn't sound like she is looking for something serious, but there are exceptions of course. I wouldn't worry about it at this point. Just go out and have fun with her and try not to analyze stuff this early on.
Author The Urbanyst Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 Just make sure to be upfront with what you are looking for. Are you just looking to casually date around or are you seeking out a LTR? Even if you are looking for a LTR, you still are open to date others early on until BOTH of you feel like just focusing on each other because you both want to see where it can go. As to why she deleted her account, no one but her can tell you. If she had sex with you on the first date, doesn't sound like she is looking for something serious, but there are exceptions of course. I wouldn't worry about it at this point. Just go out and have fun with her and try not to analyze stuff this early on. I'm open to both casual and LTR. Which ever comes first. Hopefully the deleted account means nothing. I don't want a stalker.
Gaeta Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I'm open to both casual and LTR. Which ever comes first. Hopefully the deleted account means nothing. I don't want a stalker. If she was a stalker she would have kept her account to better spy on you 1
kendahke Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 What does it mean when you go on a first date with someone you met online and have sex, then they delete their account the next day? Just asking since I'm currently dating more than one girl. No talk of being exclusive with anyone just yet. I've recently had somewhat the same experience, sans the sex on the first dates. First guy and I had two meetings before going on a date. He told me on the second meeting that he was deleting his dating profile. I was shocked because it was only the second meeting and I though "wow, that's a bit soon...", but as it turned out, he was going 500 mph and I"m sure if he could have come over that evening, he would have. I had to slow him down. Turns out, 6 weeks later, his brain caught up with his imagination and he needed to "take a break" because he didn't think he was over his divorce, which had taken place 4 years prior. He was also bi-polar, so I think his manic mindset was given its head and his depressive mindset kicked in at the 5 week mark. I broke up with him because of how he did it. Don't want to hijack your thread with the story. Second guy I met the day after breaking it off with the first guy. Joined a different site and after spending the first 45 minutes stomping scammers, I met this guy who turned out to be real and local. We met that evening for coffee and had a decent conversation, but he, too, was in a colossal rush. He told me right then at that first meeting he was taking down his dating profile and pretty much looked at me as if to say "I expect for you to do it, too". I told him I wasn't ready to take it down because I'd just joined it that day. Turns out, he was overly smitten to the point where he turned creepy. I had to get really strident with him 2 days later because he was talking about how he drove past where I worked and thought about surprising me by coming up to my job. Again, I won't hijack your thread with the details on this one, either. I think it's a massive red flag to take down a dating profile after meeting someone for the first time. I can't speak to sex being a part of the mix because that wasn't my experience, thank God. 1
kendahke Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 (edited) I'm open to both casual and LTR. Which ever comes first. Hopefully the deleted account means nothing. I don't want a stalker. I think it means that she intends upon focusing on you and has found who she is looking for. Why else would anyone take down their profile after one date? I wouldn't take myself out of the pool unless I'd found someone I wanted to concentrate on. Are you sure it was taken down or were you blocked so you can't see it? Edited June 8, 2017 by kendahke
Author The Urbanyst Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 I've recently had somewhat the same experience, sans the sex on the first dates. First guy and I had two meetings before going on a date. He told me on the second meeting that he was deleting his dating profile. I was shocked because it was only the second meeting and I though "wow, that's a bit soon...", but as it turned out, he was going 500 mph and I"m sure if he could have come over that evening, he would have. I had to slow him down. Turns out, 6 weeks later, his brain caught up with his imagination and he needed to "take a break" because he didn't think he was over his divorce, which had taken place 4 years prior. He was also bi-polar, so I think his manic mindset was given its head and his depressive mindset kicked in at the 5 week mark. I broke up with him because of how he did it. Don't want to hijack your thread with the story. Second guy I met the day after breaking it off with the first guy. Joined a different site and after spending the first 45 minutes stomping scammers, I met this guy who turned out to be real and local. We met that evening for coffee and had a decent conversation, but he, too, was in a colossal rush. He told me right then at that first meeting he was taking down his dating profile and pretty much looked at me as if to say "I expect for you to do it, too". I told him I wasn't ready to take it down because I'd just joined it that day. Turns out, he was overly smitten to the point where he turned creepy. I had to get really strident with him 2 days later because he was talking about how he drove past where I worked and thought about surprising me by coming up to my job. Again, I won't hijack your thread with the details on this one, either. I think it's a massive red flag to take down a dating profile after meeting someone for the first time. I can't speak to sex being a part of the mix because that wasn't my experience, thank God. Wow. I see some people are saying that she could be dating other guys and decided to take it down to reduce the noise. Very unlikely though. Her profile was gone by morning.. only a few hours after I had sex with her. One of the first things I do in the morning is check my dating app. 1
coolheadal Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 (edited) Interesting points everyone, but in all everyone has their own strategy (game plan) I feel it's best to just disable after you feel some connection with the few you select from many list. If they don't meet your requirements in my case you shutdown and block them. Go back on OLD enable block them. Start off again. I am disabled now I choose that but a few I had selected turn out to be the same crappy women like always. One I met on FB still ave some questions still up in the air have her her messenger and skype going every day even after work. She's there, she make the effort to be there for me. She's really interested and keen. That's how it all should go right. But I am not looking for issues I am making everything is kosher instead of chaos. We have BAE in place. Saying all that I would like to finally settle down with the right women that can understand the real me as much as I can understand the real her. Edited June 9, 2017 by coolheadal
guest569 Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 What does it mean when you go on a first date with someone you met online and have sex, then they delete their account the next day? Just asking since I'm currently dating more than one girl. No talk of being exclusive with anyone just yet. It means the sex was so bad that they have given up on dating 1
Author The Urbanyst Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 It means the sex was so bad that they have given up on dating No, I'm very good in bed. One of the other girls I'm dating took her profile down today too. I haven't given any of these girls any reason to think we are exclusive yet.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 No, I'm very good in bed. One of the other girls I'm dating took her profile down today too. I haven't given any of these girls any reason to think we are exclusive yet. Could be a lot of reasons. Maybe the girl who slept with you on the first day was embarrassed she did that. Is she still texting you outside of the app? Do you have a criminal record of any kind? Anything else embarrassing they could have found out about you online if you told them your last name? Or, maybe they do think they are exclusive with you.
kendahke Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 No, I'm very good in bed. One of the other girls I'm dating took her profile down today too. I haven't given any of these girls any reason to think we are exclusive yet. Create a fake, no pics profile and go see if you can find them in a search. Then close/delete it. You'll know if they're hiding from you for whatever reason or if it's truly gone, which could mean they think more is afoot than what is really going on.
Author The Urbanyst Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 Create a fake, no pics profile and go see if you can find them in a search. Then close/delete it. You'll know if they're hiding from you for whatever reason or if it's truly gone, which could mean they think more is afoot than what is really going on. Seems like too much work. Also, its hard to believe either of them would be hiding from me. I don't come off as a clingy/stalker guy who is hard to get away from. I text them once or twice a week to meet up. And both girls seem very into me. I only go on my dating app to look for other girls. But it shows a list of your conversations with matches. That's how I noticed both of them removed their profiles. 1
greymatter Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 I think that after the date with you, they went right back online to keep looking and hid you so you can't see that they are online. 1
Author The Urbanyst Posted June 10, 2017 Author Posted June 10, 2017 I think that after the date with you, they went right back online to keep looking and hid you so you can't see that they are online. Yeah? Why do you think that?
greymatter Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Yeah? Why do you think that? Because I've done this when I've gone out with someone and I'm not interested in seeing them again. I just did it yesterday after a first date on Thursday. 1
Kamille Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 I don't know why everyone is trying to insinuate this women aren't into the OP. I mean, one of these women had sex on the first date! There are many many reasons why these two women might have deactivated their accounts. One of them is that they're into the OP and they don't multidate, unlike him. It is, actually, the most likely reason for them deactivating their accounts. Where does that leave the OP? I'd say nowhere different than where he started. If he likes them, he should keep dating them. OP, it could be a good idea to talk about your expectations with these women, as in: You want to reserve exclusivity until a time when you know them better. 2
Author The Urbanyst Posted June 11, 2017 Author Posted June 11, 2017 I don't know why everyone is trying to insinuate this women aren't into the OP. I mean, one of these women had sex on the first date! There are many many reasons why these two women might have deactivated their accounts. One of them is that they're into the OP and they don't multidate, unlike him. It is, actually, the most likely reason for them deactivating their accounts. Where does that leave the OP? I'd say nowhere different than where he started. If he likes them, he should keep dating them. OP, it could be a good idea to talk about your expectations with these women, as in: You want to reserve exclusivity until a time when you know them better. Yeah, I was wondering that too. The second girl deleted her account the same day I set up a 3rd date with her. It would be strange for her to agree to meet me again, then block me on her dating app so she can look for other guys. I think a lot of people in this forum are drinking that hater-aid. Whatever.. lol.
greymatter Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Yeah, I was wondering that too. The second girl deleted her account the same day I set up a 3rd date with her. It would be strange for her to agree to meet me again, then block me on her dating app so she can look for other guys. I think a lot of people in this forum are drinking that hater-aid. Whatever.. lol. Not sure what that means, but it sounds like you think that people who have a differing opinion than yours are haters? Please explain. What I see is a lot of people taking the time to respond to your posts. As for my post, you asked and I answered. And I still think it's very likely that the women you are talking about did not delete the profiles they probably took a long time to create, but either hid you so you can't see them online (or perhaps disabled them).
kendahke Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Seems like too much work. Also, its hard to believe either of them would be hiding from me. I don't come off as a clingy/stalker guy who is hard to get away from. I text them once or twice a week to meet up. And both girls seem very into me. I only go on my dating app to look for other girls. But it shows a list of your conversations with matches. That's how I noticed both of them removed their profiles. Well, if you want to continue speculating, then it could be that they both intend upon focusing on you. It does the same whether one removes or hides. You'll find out when you ask them when you take them out again.
JuneL Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I think some people don't have the time and energy to multi-date, so they prefer to focus on one person at a time (even before exclusivity). Women tend to receive quite a few messages, and they may be overwhelmed. They may just hide their profiles so that they won't be bombarded with messages.
greymatter Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 I think some people don't have the time and energy to multi-date, so they prefer to focus on one person at a time (even before exclusivity). Women tend to receive quite a few messages, and they may be overwhelmed. They may just hide their profiles so that they won't be bombarded with messages. That's true for me, I did that in April/May when I was newly going on dates with two men around the same time. 1
Author The Urbanyst Posted June 12, 2017 Author Posted June 12, 2017 Not sure what that means, but it sounds like you think that people who have a differing opinion than yours are haters? Please explain. What I see is a lot of people taking the time to respond to your posts. As for my post, you asked and I answered. And I still think it's very likely that the women you are talking about did not delete the profiles they probably took a long time to create, but either hid you so you can't see them online (or perhaps disabled them). What I'm saying is there is no reason for anyone to think these girls are not into me based on my posts and based on me having sex with them and them agreeing to future dates. So people claiming these girls secretly dislike me are just coming off as being haters.
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