jarsofclay Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 (edited) I am a very good listener and I am basically surrounded by tons of friends. I came in contact with this girl in my university about a year ago. During this time, we were just casual friends. I began meeting her in library quite often and slowly he had mutual friends, and now after a year, I got to know her better and she is one of my best friends. We even have a group where we hang around with couple of friends regularly. To my background, I have recently been single (well 8 months already) after 4 year long relationship. I am not a guy who hunts for girls & I go with the flow. Couple of months ago, I had one night stand with a good friend of mine, who don't live in the same country where I live. We still have a good chat now and then but due to the distance it is almost impossible to start anything with her, although I like and respect her. So as I have mentioned earlier, I am a very good listener, so this girl came one day to me (earlier friendship days) and told me she likes a guy whom I know as well and they both have had some romantic time together but he is not into her and she was sad. It didn't matter to me alot at that time, I mean I wasn't jealous. As time passed by, I began to know her and like her more and more. Me personally, I am crazy about girls who laugh at any stupid jokes I make. She laughs like crazy, whatever I say. Anyways, I told her one day, that I am falling for her and have started liking her. She was out of answer and told me that she likes me too but she is not sure where her feeling is, and how deeply. I didn't want to stress her out. One day while we were out in a club, we kissed. After that she stopped contact with me for couple of days but after that we were normal again. So I am just confused where this is heading. I talk to her regularly, I mean we have mutual friends, we chat, we laugh , hang around but I am scared that I am going to be sad if she has a boyfriend in future, out of jealousy (she is single). Mind says don't care too much about her but heart says shes the one. I don't know what to make out of this. I am pretty sure I have landed or soon to be landed in a friendszone, this thing called love is so strange.. Any suggestions what I can do now? Save Edited June 8, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs ~T
xenagirl Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 Hi there, I would say communicate with there clearly how you feel about her. The problem I see here is about her being not sure what she wants. Once you tell her how you really feel about her be ready to let go. If that is not what you want presently then hang in there and see how it proceeds but it ca just make you more frustrated. Up to you to decide.
basil67 Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 You started as friends and she still relates to you as a friend. She simply hasn't grown feelings i the way that you have. Sorry
smackie9 Posted June 24, 2017 Posted June 24, 2017 You never ever tell someone you are not dating that you are falling for them. If you are a go with the flow kind of guy, you simply just ask her out on a date and see where it takes you. From what I see, she doesn't feel the same way or she would have been in bed with you that night.
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