Should I go for her or not?

[Tuck27]

Hi guys..

 

I'm a 25 yrs old guy.

 

There's this lady that I would like to approach. She's working as a pharmacy assistant in a pharmacy store I usually get to pass by everyday I goes home from work.

 

After graduating last year in college.. I decided I would not look for a relationship as I would like to pursue my career because I would like to help my family.

 

I'm the eldest son and our family is in a bit of a tight situation financially. My family is rooting for me to be able to help them.. I'm an engineer and I am expected to work up the ladder to help our family - and that's what I also want to do.

 

But for the past 5 months that I am seeing her everytime I pass by at that pharmacy store.. and as I have observed her attitude, her looks and her character everytime I buy something just to have a reason to go to their shop -- I have come to like her very much..

 

Now I can't seem to stop thinking about her.. she seems to have a positive attitude, she is confident in her actions.. she's always smiling plus she's beautiful..

 

I'm finding it hard to control my feelings anymore.

 

Whether she will reject or entertain me is not the question..

 

I just want to try.. I don't want to regret it later on that I didn't try.

 

But there's this thing that I also want to build myself first (financially, career-wise, emotionally etc.) and I also want to help my family first financially.

 

Can I be friends with her while working towards my goals?

 

Or should I pursue my goals first before I approach her?

 

There's a possibility that next year I would be working abroad as the salary is higher.. I heard it would take a minimum of 1-2 years before I get to come back.. I'm afraid that after that time I can't see her anymore - maybe she'll get transferred to another branch and I won't be able to find her..

 

Looking forward for any suggestions guys

[TheAntiHero]

You're young, even though I'm only 5 years older.

 

You need to lose the idea that this female is the love of your life because that's how you're coming off in your post.

 

You don't even know her and it sounds like she's the greatest thing to have ever walked into any building.

 

Value yourself the most until a partner has proven themselves during the stages of dating.

 

Good luck, man.

[smackie9]

You don't approach people for a date at their job, it will be met with negative results. You are obsessing over someone you know nothing about...that's not good. It's a tough world out there for people to meet yes, but it's even harder for women because there's a safety factor....we are weary when approached by a stranger.

 

Just me but stop planning your life around someone you have never gone out on a date with. I think you need to keep your feelings in check and focus on other things. If you never date her, oh well there are plenty of other opportunities.....nothing wrong with taking other women out on dates and date casually.

 

It's very possible she has a BF....what would you do then?

[live2ndin]

Hi @tuck27, I don't think it would be inappropriate for your to ask her, and perhaps you could stay in touch while you pursue your career abroad. If it is meant to be, you will find each other again. Just be calm, take things slow, and be encouraged that all things will be worked out for the good.

[d0nnivain]

Career & romance are not mutually exclusive. You can have both but you may need to tweak your budget to be able to afford dates. It's lovely that you want to help your family but at what cost? You can't give up your whole life.

 

 

Smile & say hi. Don't try to be just her friend but do be friendly. Ask her on a date. A date is the social convention whereby you get to know somebody. You don't have to be friends first after high school. It does help when you are younger. She may say no but you never know. Since you don't know here, you also don't know if she has a BF or even if she likes men vs. women at this point. You won't know if you don't ask.