d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I'm putting this hear rather than in the marriage forum because it's not limited to a marriage although I do think the fact that my husband did this makes it worse. Anyway . . . We travel a lot for leisure. DH wants us to get TSA Pre-check. Seems reasonable. I told him to set it up. A few months ago he was grumbling that the available times for the interview sucked. They are in the middle of the day at the airport near us. DH would have to take the whole day off to make that work; he can't take 1/2 days & he only gets 30 minutes for lunch. He's out of vacation days for the year. One state over they have evening appointments. I told him to make the appoint that worked for him & I'd show up. Two days ago he tells me he has a TSA appointment in NYC, just him, not me. He didn't make me an appointment. No explanation as to why he didn't make me one. He just didn't do it. Said he didn't think about it. What? He has gotten on a plane without me 2x during our marriage -- once for a funeral & once for work. How could he just not think about me? I'm the only one he travels with. I make all of the travel arrangements for us. He doesn't do anything. I even had to fix the travel arrangements he made for my recent surprise birthday trip & he forgot to make ground transportation arrangements so I had to make them on the fly at 2x the price once we arrived. I'm hurt that he didn't make me an appointment. I told him that & he acted confused. He really couldn't understand why I was hurt. He thinks it's no big deal. He got stuck late at work last night & had to cancel. Truthfully I was kind of glad -- in a mean, small way admittedly. How much more trouble could it have been to make me an appointment too? My passport sits next to his in the safe in the home office. I'm not going to divorce him over it I'll probably just go make my own arrangements or even reschedule his but gee I genuinely feel like he doesn't care sometimes. 1
Fresnite Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Sometimes that happens, some things get over looked. If people have been together for awhile it becomes stream lined. It's not necessarily an excuse or right that it happened, but I think it's a quite common situation at that age and stage of a relationship.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I think it's very insensitive and also a bit bizarre! I'd be mad, too. I'd be really mad, probably! I also learned something....I didn't even know TSA Pre-check was a thing. I don't travel much, though.
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