let's_fly_away Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 (edited) Hello! Lately I reconnected with an ex that I had a short relationship with. We had quite long to talk. I'm still interested in him. I liked a few posts of him and he did like a photo of mine. Few days ago I messaged him in facebook to ask him about something and hoped he would open up a bit more. We now both are busy these days until summer vacation. During our conversation in facebook I asked him when he will be done with work and he told me when. I also told him the exact date I will finish with work and that I can't wait for the vacation. He said he couldn't wait too for the vacation and then he suggested that we go out for a coffee or something when we are both finished with work and of course I said yes and he said that we will arrange it then. I will be finished in almost 2 weeks while him in 1 week. From what I describe above do you think he is interested? Also do you think he will remember and suggest it first to go out after a few days we will be finished with work or I shouldn't have my hopes up? If you have any more questions go ahead! Thank you! Edited June 8, 2017 by let's_fly_away
mikeylo Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Go for coffee and see how it goes. A guy who is interested romantically, leaves no room for doubt.He makes it very clear,either by words or actions. 3
d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I have no idea whether he'll remember. I don't know him. If you are keen to have coffee with him, when you are free reach out & set up the coffee date. You can't just sit back hoping he'll take the initiative. Agreeing to a coffee 2 weeks hence via FB sounds so casual that it's likely something people would flake about because they forgot. 3
Author let's_fly_away Posted June 9, 2017 Author Posted June 9, 2017 I want to also add that this guy dates for more than a year now a girl and I have to say that me and him had something. Why invite me out when he has a girlfriend? What's going on here? From what I know they are still together so if that happens even if he remembers I will refuse to go. I'm not his toy.
d0nnivain Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 If he has a GF this may not be the date you think it is. To him it may be nothing more than catching up with a friend. While he's in a relationship, you probably ought to steer clear of him because spending time with him will only make you long for something you can't have. What's your alternative -- be the person he cheats on his GF with? That's no go because if he cheats with you, eventually he'll cheat on you. 2
preraph Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 If he has a girlfriend, you at least go Dutch and don't try to make him think it's a date by expecting him to pay. He may be looking for just a coffee or he may be thinking that you know he has a girlfriend, so that must mean you are down fora a hookup.
Springsummer Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Hi folk! I think the key words here is that OP still interested in him. she apparently wants something from this guy!
Author let's_fly_away Posted June 10, 2017 Author Posted June 10, 2017 (edited) He doesn't know I know he has a girlfriend. When he asked me out I didn't expect it actually. I messaged him for something else and then he told me that. I don't know his intentions or what he feels about his girlfriend. I just wonder why do such a move when I didn't show at all I'm interested and while he has a girlfriend. Yes, I'm interested in him but that doesn't mean I will hook up with him if he is with someone else. I just wonder how did he even think of telling me this. I mean I'm an ex fling, why need to hang out with me and also he could go out with a friend. Don't get his behaviour. I didn't show any sign of being interested. I was only friendly. Edited June 10, 2017 by let's_fly_away
preraph Posted June 10, 2017 Posted June 10, 2017 Guys don't usually really think of women as only friends and then they assume you don't think of men as only friends either. 1
Author let's_fly_away Posted June 10, 2017 Author Posted June 10, 2017 I agree. I was talking completely friendly with him. Didn't flirt at all during the conversation. We only talked about work. I don't know how he sees me. Anyway I'm not going to do any hookup with him if he is not serious about it and especially if he still has a girlfriend. I'm clear about that. Still don't get his behaviour or what he wants. Whatever.
Springsummer Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Guys don't usually really think of women as only friends and then they assume you don't think of men as only friends either. really? how do we explain guys who keep adding lots of girls/women on his facebook? so if I initiated friend request, is that means I am interested?
Springsummer Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 (edited) He doesn't know I know he has a girlfriend. When he asked me out I didn't expect it actually. I messaged him for something else and then he told me that. I don't know his intentions or what he feels about his girlfriend. I just wonder why do such a move when I didn't show at all I'm interested and while he has a girlfriend. Yes' date=' I'm interested in him but that doesn't mean I will hook up with him if he is with someone else. I just wonder how did he even think of telling me this. I mean I'm an ex fling, why need to hang out with me and also he could go out with a friend. Don't get his behaviour. I didn't show any sign of being interested. I was only friendly.[/quote'] you are on his FB and yet he doesn't know you know he has a girlfriend? so he hides his girlfriend? not good... this guy friend who often posts on fb for a few years. Never notice him explicitly with a woman. then suddenly he put engaging photo and got married. turned out they dated for a few years already. sneaky... Edited June 11, 2017 by Springsummer
InvisiBlonde Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 if he cheats with you, eventually he'll cheat on you. Amen to this!
elaine567 Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 NEVER get involved with people who are still involved with someone else. It will be you that gets seriously hurt. I guess he sees an opportunity to cheat on his gf with a willing subject ie you. You are right to refuse to go, you do not want to get caught up in a mess. 1
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