Infern0121 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Just wanting some input. Recently hooked up with a girl who i have had a bit of a "history of flirting" with, shall we say. She has just got out of a LTR a couple of weeks ago that was over a year and co-habiting We had flirted a lot before then and "almost" got together but i was just out of a B/U myself and didn't persue things and we drifted apart. Anyway we met for a coffee on thursday last week and were flirting and having fun like we used to. Then on friday went to see a movie, then back to mine had dinner, and had a great night together, she stayed until lunch time in the morning, kissing and cuddling. After she left i didn't text first as didn't want to be needy, and also just letting her get her bearings as just out of a B/U but she texted me that evening saying she had a great time etc etc, i said me too. she said "i cant belive it took us this long" Anyway the next day no text, day after i text her to ask her how she is but the replies were short so i just left it. And not heard anything since.......... Just seems odd as i wasn't getting "ons vibes" from her, so left kind of flummoxed. I realise the recent b/u may have some part in it. Any input??
GemmaUK Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Sounds like a BU ONS to me. I don't think she sees you as boyfriend material. It would be incredibly soon post BU and cohabiting to get into something serious with someone else. Most people need a break before any new relationship.
Author Infern0121 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 Sounds like a BU ONS to me. I don't think she sees you as boyfriend material. It would be incredibly soon post BU and cohabiting to get into something serious with someone else. Most people need a break before any new relationship. Strange cos like i say i did not get that vibe (and i've been there) but alright cool i'll just leave it then. 1
smackie9 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 She was digging the attention but she snapped out of it realizing she's just not ready to get involved with you. Give her some space. Looks like it was a quick little rebound.
Author Infern0121 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 She was digging the attention but she snapped out of it realizing she's just not ready to get involved with you. Give her some space. Looks like it was a quick little rebound. Weird thing was it was her who came after me, which is cool, but her reactions AFTER were what lead me to think "ok more than a ons then" Original plan was to leave it to her due to the recent b/u but considering she was talking about how we "should have got together before" and other stuff, in the morning, sober... i am slightly gutted as i like her but yeah i'll just leave the ball in her court and see if it comes back.
GemmaUK Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 "should have got together before" I'd say she just meant this in a sexual way, not in a relationship way. You were a safe option for some closeness as she has known you a while. It's possible she may get in touch but if she does it make well just be for a repeat session. I highly doubt at this point she is thinking of a relationship.
Author Infern0121 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 I'd say she just meant this in a sexual way, not in a relationship way. You were a safe option for some closeness as she has known you a while. It's possible she may get in touch but if she does it make well just be for a repeat session. I highly doubt at this point she is thinking of a relationship. yeah that's cool its a bit weird because there is a bit of a friendship there too. like for a while we used to talk everyday hang out a lot text all the time etc but as i say this is when i was going through my B/U and was being sensible about things. I think the pair of us just have terrible timing really, but you guys are right.
hercules22 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 timing can really suck especially if the girl is awesome yet nothing will come of it
smackie9 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I don't think you should ask her out but you should confront her to clear the air and get her side as to what her expectations were. Only she has the answers....we are only assuming.
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