thewonderyears888 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I've seem before a guy should never tell a girl that he is interested in her or how he fels because it comes off as cringy and makes him look weak example"im really interested in you and would like to get dinner to see how it went and if it could lead anywhere" is that bad to express that?
d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 Saying "I like you" or "I'd like to get to know you better" or even "I'd like to see where this leads" are fine. What people are cautioned against is big dramatic announcements. Never proclaim your love for somebody you are not dating. 2
mortensorchid Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 A declaration like "I like you" or "I'd like to get to know you" is not the worst thing to say to someone. Avoid criticism without knowing all the facts.
basil67 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 I've seem before a guy should never tell a girl that he is interested in her or how he fels because it comes off as cringy and makes him look weak example"im really interested in you and would like to get dinner to see how it went and if it could lead anywhere" is that bad to express that? When people talk about not telling a girl how you feel, it's more about not professing love to someone you've not dated yet. What you are talking about is perfectly fine - although I would shorten it a little. "I'm really interested in you. Would you like to have dinner with me so that I can get to know you better?"
Author thewonderyears888 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 I've seen on other forums, if aguy says that it makes him look weak and clingy. But I dont see that In todays world, it seems like alot of people just want hook ups no strings attached i dont want that i like to talk to a girl , get to know her and then ask her on a date If it seems shes just interested in "no strings attatched" ill make it clear that Im interested in going on a date and seeing if anything develops. if she says "Well i dont want a relationship at all so that wouldnt work" then i know to move on
d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 i like to talk to a girl , get to know her and then ask her on a date No no no. You ask her on the date then use that time to get to know her. This does require some interaction before the ask . . .1 -2 conversations max. You date to determine if you both want a relationship. 3
smackie9 Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 No no no. You ask her on the date then use that time to get to know her. This does require some interaction before the ask . . .1 -2 conversations max. You date to determine if you both want a relationship. This^^^^ and when you ask a girl out on a date that already indicates to her that you like her and want to get to know her because (duh) that is what you do on dates as stated above. It doesn't have to be complicated you know.... 1
Author thewonderyears888 Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 ok but what if you have been seeing her ask her on a dat ebut shes kinda showing she doesnt want a relationbship? should you just say all that?
d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 If you have been going on dates & you want a relationship, it's fine to express that desire to her. However, if she says she doesn't want a relationship you can't push the issue. You either have to continue along as you are (not exclusive) or you need to walk away. It doesn't make you weak to be the first person to talk about what you want, a relationship. You're only weak is you beg & chase after being told no
Author thewonderyears888 Posted June 11, 2017 Author Posted June 11, 2017 What if you've been talking to a girl for awhile, you've met a few times but you wanna go on a date, not as friends or f buddies but as an actual date i sit weird saying "hey im intereste din you, lets go to dinner?"
Maggie4 Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 Just say, "I want to date you." This makes your intention clear. It is unnecessary to say "I like you" because that's implied when you say you want to date her.
LivingWaterPlease Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 What if you've been talking to a girl for awhile, you've met a few times but you wanna go on a date, not as friends or f buddies but as an actual date i sit weird saying "hey im intereste din you, lets go to dinner?" No, it's not weird but it seems you're having some uncomfortable feelings about it so rather than say something you feel uncomfortable with why not say, "I hear such and such a place serves great pizza (tacos, salads, whatever). Why don't you and I have dinner(or lunch if you want to move more slowly) together there Thursday (Friday, whatever) evening? Or "Let's have dinner there Thursday or Friday if you're free." Something like that. Let your voice sound upbeat and enthusiastic! Like you're anticipating having fun! That approach is pretty contagious with many people!
d0nnivain Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 What if you've been talking to a girl for awhile, you've met a few times but you wanna go on a date, not as friends or f buddies but as an actual date i sit weird saying "hey im intereste din you, lets go to dinner?" Asking her to dinner implies that you are interested in her. There is no need to actually state that. Also asking her for dinner as opposed to Netflix & Chill telegraphs that this is more than a casual hookup
Rach_and_roll Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 THose examples are perfect. I have had a wonderful dating life and am always direct and honest. Just be yourself and be respectful! social ques are important some people love direct communicating and some like subtlety like an example is this Hey, how are you today? im feeling alittle hungery you wanna grab a bite to eat?-subtleish Ive really enjoyed spending time with you, if your interested id love to take you out on a date- Direct as hell 1
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