A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 A Fly onThe Wall - haven't you heard, Woggle served me divorce papers. he's marrying someone else. Has he slept with her yet ??.. If he did he is cheating on ya !!.
dreaming4ever Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Canada is definitely the place to be Woggle, you'll love it here! 2 months will feel like forever without you here...can't wait
Merin Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 sorry Merin, I can't even imagine. that must have been rough. Thanks JS... It happend a few years back, and yes it was very difficult to deal with for a lot of reasons. It did change how I looked at infidelity and in some ways People in general.. made me more cynical I think.
Author JS17 Posted August 4, 2005 Author Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall Has he slept with her yet ??.. If he did he is cheating on ya !!. well he's moving to Canada for her! bastard
whichwayisup Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 A Fly onThe Wall - haven't you heard, Woggle served me divorce papers. he's marrying someone else. AM I missing something here?? You and Woggle are or were a couple?
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Merin It happend a few years back, and yes it was very difficult to deal with for a lot of reasons. It did change how I looked at infidelity and in some ways People in general.. made me more cynical I think. Witnessing infidelity with the pain and destruction that comes with it can move mountains. I grew up in a houshold where my dad cheated on my mom and then cheated on my step mom and have witnessed the pain myself and it still has a profound impact on my life today
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup AM I missing something here?? You and Woggle are or were a couple? Internet marriage and divorce on ls
Author JS17 Posted August 4, 2005 Author Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup AM I missing something here?? You and Woggle are or were a couple? nah, scratch called me mrs. woggle b/c of my bitter week or two recently (shhh...he's bitter, i'm not sure he knows) Witnessing infidelity with the pain and destruction that comes with it can move mountains. I grew up in a houshold where my dad cheated on my mom and then cheated on my step mom and have witnessed the pain myself and it still has a profound impact on my life today sounds exactly like my ex, exactly. my sister and i have talked about cheating ad nauseum (me=cheated on, she=one time cheater). we laugh at the thought of my parents actually cheating on each other. they have a fantastic relationship, everyone is always jealous of them, that can screw you up too though.
Merin Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall Witnessing infidelity with the pain and destruction that comes with it can move mountains. I grew up in a houshold where my dad cheated on my mom and then cheated on my step mom and have witnessed the pain myself and it still has a profound impact on my life today I feel you on that FOTW. To this day it still impacts choices and decisions I've made... and not always in a good way. I don't believe people for the most part realize the impact that infidelity has on more than the 2 people involved.
alphamale Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall Internet marriage and divorce on ls yes, they were married by MOOSE, he is the LS justice of the peace
Author JS17 Posted August 4, 2005 Author Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Merin I feel you on that FOTW. To this day it still impacts choices and decisions I've made... and not always in a good way. I don't believe people for the most part realize the impact that infidelity has on more than the 2 people involved. That's what kind of brought me to this post. I get my ex cheating, he was a numbnuts and our relationship was going bad. I still can't comprehend my friend who cheated on her boyfriend....which should have no effect on me but does. Of course it's nothing compared to your parents but I kind of felt like if she could do it then anyone could and how could I ever trust anyone again?
whichwayisup Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale yes, they were married by MOOSE, he is the LS justice of the peace
Merin Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 That's what kind of brought me to this post. I get my ex cheating, he was a numbnuts and our relationship was going bad. I still can't comprehend my friend who cheated on her boyfriend....which should have no effect on me but does. Of course it's nothing compared to your parents but I kind of felt like if she could do it then anyone could and how could I ever trust anyone again? Infidelity has far reaching effects... For me I have to make the choice everyday to trust, to give the benefit of the doubt. IF you're unable to make the choice to continue to give trust, or give of yourself out of fear of being hurt and/or betrayed then you're not really living life, only going through the motions. Sometimes it is a hard choice to make... and to this day I still have so much fear in trying but I would still rather take the risk than to go through the motions of living... I might fall down and I might get hurt but if I don't try and I don't make that choice today then I have cheated myself.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 That's what kind of brought me to this post. I get my ex cheating, he was a numbnuts and our relationship was going bad. I still can't comprehend my friend who cheated on her boyfriend....which should have no effect on me but does. Of course it's nothing compared to your parents but I kind of felt like if she could do it then anyone could and how could I ever trust anyone again? Trust can be tough.. One of my many sisters (4) was born illegitimate and I got to witness the pain that it caused in my moms life.. and then my stepmom had to raise her because her bio mom died.. I trust by Believing that people are basically good. Your friend is quite possibly one of the few that are just cheaters.. My dad was.. Till the day he died he had a mistress and never once admitted that he did..
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Merin and to this day I still have so much fear in trying but I would still rather take the risk than to go through the motions of living... I might fall down and I might get hurt but if I don't try and I don't make that choice today then I have cheated myself. Me too !! there is more than one of us out there
Author JS17 Posted August 4, 2005 Author Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Infidelity has far reaching effects... For me I have to make the choice everyday to trust, to give the benefit of the doubt. IF you're unable to make the choice to continue to give trust, or give of yourself out of fear of being hurt and/or betrayed then you're not really living life, only going through the motions. Sometimes it is a hard choice to make... and to this day I still have so much fear in trying but I would still rather take the risk than to go through the motions of living... I might fall down and I might get hurt but if I don't try and I don't make that choice today then I have cheated myself. i know that in my head and i'm working on getting my heart to catch up. it is a frightful thing. i'll get there one day soon
Marshbear32 Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Infidelity has far reaching effects... For me I have to make the choice everyday to trust, to give the benefit of the doubt. IF you're unable to make the choice to continue to give trust, or give of yourself out of fear of being hurt and/or betrayed then you're not really living life, only going through the motions. Sometimes it is a hard choice to make... and to this day I still have so much fear in trying but I would still rather take the risk than to go through the motions of living... I might fall down and I might get hurt but if I don't try and I don't make that choice today then I have cheated myself. Well said Merin. Cheaters have no idea what their cheating does to the ones they love.
alphamale Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear32 Cheaters have no idea what their cheating does to the ones they love. another good reason to never get married
SoftDrink Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear32 Well said Merin. Cheaters have no idea what their cheating does to the ones they love. i think they do know...or they wouldn't feel compelled to hide it.
scratch Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 I would never flirt with you. You would also never forever stay my friend because I would never be friends with a pompous twit such as yourself. Imagine my disappointment, I thought we were going to be BFFs. I don't mean to be pompous. In fact, you began by criticizing my lack of understanding. All I did was ask you questions, or ask you to correct my hypotheses. Are my questions really that threatening that the mere inquiries make you feel the need to jump to the defensive? Originally posted by JS17 Personally I preferred: to crush or to pulverize. But, but, but-- "stamp" only means "to affix a seal" according to you! What are you talking about? Do you mean stomp? Ok, here's the fun part. I know you. Perhaps not you personally, but I know you. You have a four year degree from a SUNY school, have a job you don't mind going to but would prefer to stay at home, live in a three bedroom apartment with two roomates, and have no clue how you could possibly not be appealing to every single man in our fair city. But it doesn't work that way, becuase it's the same package every other girl offers, and guys get bored and tired of having to work for it. So your clock starts ticking, and we smell the desperation, and you end up with a roofer from Staten Island who's the last guy willing to knock your 35 year old ass up and actually be there in the morning. Enjoy it, kiddo.
loony Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by scratch Ok, here's the fun part. I know you. Perhaps not you personally, but I know you. You have a four year degree from a SUNY school, have a job you don't mind going to but would prefer to stay at home, live in a three bedroom apartment with two roomates, and have no clue how you could possibly not be appealing to every single man in our fair city. Did your crystal ball tell you this, you old hag? But it doesn't work that way, becuase it's the same package every other girl offers, and guys get bored and tired of having to work for it. It sucks when you work your butt for it and still don't get it, eh? So your clock starts ticking, and we smell the desperation, and you end up with a roofer from Staten Island who's the last guy willing to knock your 35 year old ass up and actually be there in the morning. You're not a roofer?
Author JS17 Posted August 4, 2005 Author Posted August 4, 2005 Originally posted by scratch Actually, I'm Ivy League educated and getting my masters at another Ivy league university in our fair city. I also have a high paying corporate job that I will hopefully be leaving shortly for a more gratifying work environment. AND, as much as I hate to disappoint you I own my own apartment (with no roommates), have tons of friends and plenty of guys knocking on my door. oh well, guess you're wrong again What I can say is that not every guy in this city has the same package as you, thank gAd.
clandestinidad Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 I havent read all the posts here yet...wanted to stay with the OP for now..... Nope, I've never cheated.....but have been cheated ON by 2 people
Marshbear32 Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 and you end up with a roofer from Staten Island who's the last guy willing to knock your 35 year old ass up and actually be there in the morning. Hey. I used to know a couple of guys from Staten Island and they were not roofers. They worked in the city and took the ferry everyday. They were good people...
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