ljn1650 Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 I have quite an embarrassing problem, but will keep it as brief as possible... it's silly as a grown woman, but please bear with me. Man at work (in his early 30s, who I don't work directly with and have not had a full conversation with) who I am very attracted to, I can't really explain why I am so attracted to him, but my heart races and I get very flustered when he shows up. There has been a bit of a vibe between us over the last couple of months, began with eye contact, stolen glances from him and me catching him out, him looking away sharply when I look up. Call it intuition, but I'm absolutely convinced I have not imagined this. I began to say hello to him, and so it graduated to us saying hey when we passed, nod at each other, smile etc he has always seemed slightly nervous around me, for example if I smile at him or make eye contact without him expecting it he would turn red, not know what to do with himself, look flustered. However, almost overnight, he won't even look me in the eye. In the past he would at least say hi. He refuses to look at me if I walk by, or he is in the vicinity. I have been told he is quite shy, and I've always had the impression he was slightly unsure of himself due to the perceived nervousness. I'm positive I can see him glance up when he thinks I'm not looking, but I suppose that could be wishful thinking. For the most part, he consciously avoids looking at me now, and it's rude. Considering we don't work together, I wouldn't think this is weird, but we've been saying hi for a while. I feel like I am insane, and then second guess imagining the whole thing. I can't imagine I've scared him off, as I tend to avoid his gaze too when I walk by unless I've built up the courage, as he scares me a bit! Any offerings on how a mans mind bloody works!!!
hippychick3 Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 My first thought is that he is either married or dating someone else.
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 Once this became possible he may have thought better about dating somebody at work but more likely than not he has a GF & has pulled back to avoid temptation Either way, if he stopped you have to because it's at work.
preraph Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 He's decided he doesn't want to deal with this at work at all. Which is wise. He may be otherwise taken, but my feeling is he just knows you are all over him and though he may have been curious and flattered at first at the novelty, he now realizes this could turn into a mess that he doesn't want to have to deal with at work so he's telling you to back off and leave him alone. You should avoid him unless it's work-related and at that time you should be nothing more than professional and polite and stop blushing and giving yourself away. You're at work. Respect that he is too.
alphamale Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 he's probably on some anti-psychotic medications for either bipolar or schizophrenia
Author ljn1650 Posted June 7, 2017 Author Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) He's decided he doesn't want to deal with this at work at all. Which is wise. He may be otherwise taken, but my feeling is he just knows you are all over him and though he may have been curious and flattered at first at the novelty, he now realizes this could turn into a mess that he doesn't want to have to deal with at work so he's telling you to back off and leave him alone. You should avoid him unless it's work-related and at that time you should be nothing more than professional and polite and stop blushing and giving yourself away. You're at work. Respect that he is too. I think this response is slightly unfair, considering there is nothing in my post to suggest I am 'all over him'. I understand the point you are trying to make though Edited June 7, 2017 by ljn1650
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