Should I move far away to escape her?

[Lesliealexzandr]

I am girl that was dating another girl.

Long story short I got the feeling that something wasn't right so I drove 2 hours to see my now ex only to discover she was already with someone else. After everything she said that she never loved me and had beeen using me the entire 2 years plus tbh I feel like I could have been better. Did she mean it? Will she come back? I miss her and cannot believe this has happened

[Zahara]

Does it matter if she meant it? What kind of person treats another that way especially one they've been with for two years?

 

Does it matter is she comes back? Why would you want to be with someone that treated you so poorly?

 

Miss her but desire better for yourself.

[Lesliealexzandr]

Thank you. I'm just not sure how she could have chosen someone else so quickly. Perhaps I am old news.

[Zahara]

Thank you. I'm just not sure how she could have chosen someone else so quickly. Perhaps I am old news.

 

Maybe it wasn't quickly. Maybe she had this other woman on the side for awhile. You were two hours away so chances are you weren't truly present to know what was actually going on in her life. She could have been dating this other woman for sometime -- you just caught her which makes it seem like it was sudden.

[preraph]

She was finally honest with you because she found someone new to use now. She's just not a good person and you are well rid of her. Forget about her because it was just lies.

[spiderowl]

She is not a nice person, that is how she found someone else so quickly. It sounds like she does not easily get attached to anyone. She will probably use the new person too.

 

I am sorry you got hurt like this. There are users around and this is a very tough learning experience for you. Go by what people do not what they say. If you look back at her behaviour towards you, as opposed to whatever nice words she said in the past, what did her behaviour tell you? Some people can just turn pretty cold; they are heartless, cold people.

 

I know this will hurt for a while but cry about it, let yourself grieve the loss of the person you thought she was originally, but learn to look out for signs of the selfishness and psychopathy that this person is demonstrating. I bet there were warning signs: unkindness towards others, jokes about someone else's pain, apparent lack of empathy, nasty talk of exs or ex friends. Signs of lack of empathy should be taken seriously. Some people are very convincing by talking as if they care about others, but they cannot maintain that facade for long. Give yourself plenty of time to get to know the next person.

 

You will be wiser because of this. Unfortunately, we learn from painful experiences. Her behaviour does not mean you are less worthy, only that she is a rubbish person best avoided. You can definitely do better. Hugs.

[Lesliealexzandr]

In my other thread she never loved me I mentioned that I drove 2 hours to surprise my ex only to discover she was already with someone else and she said that she never loved me and admitted to using me.

Since then I have had good days and says and some days in between. I now have a great job with the usps and it pays well. However going to college in New York has been something I've always wanted to do.

I've been accepted into a school and everything. Should I save my usps and take a dive into NY? or should I stay here? I'm 23 by the way aaand this break up had taken a tole on me and tbh. I don't want to be in the same state as her. It's not fair she gets to be so happy so quickly without me.

[preraph]

Go for it if you can afford it. NY is a hella expensive place to try to survive.

[d0nnivain]

You shouldn't move just to hide from her but since you always wanted to go to NY & now you have the chance, go for it! It may be just the change you need.