Blackie_Chan Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Here's my routine, and I'm desperately looking for ways to break it, so I can meet new people: Monday and Friday - work [ 9am - 5pm] - gym [ 5.15pm - 7.30pm] - go home and watch TV Tuesday - work - gym [ 5.15 - 6.15pm ] - public speaking club [ 6.30pm - 8pm ] - go home and watch TV Wednesday and Thursday - work - go home and watch TV Saturday and Sunday - mostly home and watch TV - go to the gym (to swim for an hour) Now, I live with a roommate but he annoys me so I don't hang out with him. I don't have a gf. The few friends that I have are busy doing other things, (so I need to meet others). Anyhow, what are other people's routines like? what can I add to my routine so I can meet new people, or just do something different?
Outcast Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 Instead of going home and watching TV, join a club of some sort. Or take up a hobby and find other people who have that same hobby. Or take classes in something. Maybe join a theatre group or a choir. Learn an instrument. There are lots and lots of things you can do. Next time you're watching TV, pay attention to the hobbies people have or the activities they talk about and consider trying one for yourself.
dreaming4ever Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 lol. You sound like me...I just got out of a disastruous relationship and when my friends were hounding me to break up with my ex I told them one thing I was afraid of was that I wouldn't meet anyone else, which they totally didn't understand. I was like, "How am I going to meet someone? Is he going to walk up and ring the doorbell?" NOT likely!! I want to meet new people too (not just potential mates) since I have a lot of time on my hands now without a boyfriend, but it's difficult. I'm going to join a gym, hope to meet people at school when I continue in the fall, and maybe join an art class. Not to sure what else to do.....I myself am wondering how I'm going to find a nice guy to be my next boyfriend (victim?) when I'm no longer interested in going to clubs or bars.
Zephyr45 Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 lol. Desperately looking for ways to break your schedule, as if you just can't figure out what you need to change?! Try removing the "go home and watch tv" activity you do 7 freakin days a week!! Now, I don't mean to rag on you. I just found the premise of the post funny after TV was a significant part of your daily schedule. I'll assume you know you need to reduce this but were just being honest with your current schedule. So what new things can you do? That's actually a similar question to the one I posted here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t67500/ I don't so much have a problem with meeting new people, it's that a vast majority of the people I tend to meet are men (I'm male) due to a variety of factors that are quite difficult to avoid. So I too am looking to "break" my schedule/hobbies in some way to meet new people (specifically where the ratio to women is at least moderately reasonable). So far there are good ideas here. Join a sports league, take a class at your local community college. Join a club at work or something - that's one of the things I did that really really helped. Also, you've got to have some hobbies and interests that you didn't mention in your routine. Even if they are just casual ones or even if you don't enjoy them THAT much, you have to have something. Tell us what they are and then we might be able to give more specific suggestions. dreaming4ever, you'll have to keep me posted on what activites you end up trying out. That's exactly what I'm looking for... the things that a girl ends up being drawn towards that I may not think about as a guy.
Author Blackie_Chan Posted August 5, 2005 Author Posted August 5, 2005 I love sports or anything else that's interactive. I thought about joining a sports league (or group), but I don't like the commitment of regular meetings. I actually have to find other hobbies, one thing I would love is to become a wordsmith in the future, so I guess taking a course that would help me do that would be great (but I don't know what kind of course will teach that, or where to go?).
A Fly onThe Wall Posted August 5, 2005 Posted August 5, 2005 You can also mix a new bar/restaurant into your schedule. Sometimes just getting out and talking to people can put you into a more social mode and then when you go into someplace else you are more open and talkative
Author Blackie_Chan Posted August 6, 2005 Author Posted August 6, 2005 Originally posted by dreaming4ever a wordsmith?? wtf is that? someone who is great with words. Someone who knows how to use the right words at the right time.
dreaming4ever Posted August 6, 2005 Posted August 6, 2005 really? There's such a thing? I don't really think that sounds like something you can take classes for besides expanding your vocabulary or something like that.
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