Fresnite Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 Ok so you get a woman to go on a date with you. You are generally classified a "nice guy". How do you increase sexual appeal? Like regardless of why my recent date didn't work out, what's with sexual appeal? Like she told me she loves sucking penis (that word sucks, but filters) I just listened. Had no comment for that. But we got on the topic of butt eating and i do that but she doesn't like it. Anyways that was about it for any sexual talk between two dates. She is self described as intimate and affectionate. I believe among other things i failed to create any sexual chemistry or sexual appeal. How important is this in first two dates? I mean she told me she had bad experiences and rough pasts with guys so I'm trying to take it easy, but is taking it to easy bad? Both dates she slyly told me i was cute. The very first thing wr did was mini golf, on my card she put my name as "cutie" the second day and date we played hangman in a restraunt and her letters for me to guess were "you are a cutie" So even though this may not be the reason for this relationship fail is it a contributor? Also on it's own is it enough too kill a new date/romance and relationship?
Imajerk17 Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) OP, I am curious: Don't you like Nice Girls? If there is anything I have learned, it is that there are very few victims when it comes to dating. This girl likely didn't have experiences w rough guys due to "bad luck" so much as bad DECISIONS. Maybe on some level she really likes drama and associates rough behaviour w masculinity. Probably not the girl for you. Anyway not all women are like the last girl you went on a date with. Nice Girls are out there. Edited June 7, 2017 by Imajerk17 1
grays Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 I think id never tell a guy I didnt want to **** that I like to give head. Apparently you were appealing. 1
Author Fresnite Posted June 7, 2017 Author Posted June 7, 2017 I think id never tell a guy I didnt want to **** that I like to give head. Apparently you were appealing. I am very attractive, in a manly way, think something like Jason Statham, like I've literally been approached in the street and a random guy said i looked like him, think he was high but still i get that compliment. I'm much younger though. But regardless of my looks. I do amazing on the first date, but i screw it up every time after that, i freaking suck at this lol and it's not funny, but the wording sounded funny.
Author Fresnite Posted June 7, 2017 Author Posted June 7, 2017 I think id never tell a guy I didnt want to **** that I like to give head. Apparently you were appealing. So yeah, i actually contacted her through Instagram and told her i find her attractive and want to get to know her. on the first day and asked her out that same day and she agreed, she was 50 minute away drive. So yeah. I picked up this girl randomly on Instagram and she gave me her home address and we even went to where she worked. So She felt comfortable with me. Did She look desperate at all in this? She probably just wanted straight sex and that's why she wanted nothing else to do with me because i made no advances to even kiss her.....dam i suck at this, she is smoking hot too, body and face wise. Like She is so exotic and unique there isn't anyone to compare her too. all her pics though are RBF not one smiling lol
Imajerk17 Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 I am very attractive, in a manly way, think something like Jason Statham, like I've literally been approached in the street and a random guy said i looked like him, think he was high but still i get that compliment. I'm much younger though. But regardless of my looks. I do amazing on the first date, but i screw it up every time after that, i freaking suck at this lol and it's not funny, but the wording sounded funny. Maybe because you are trying too hard to please them? This is a great example of how really good-looking guys can have a DISadvantage over more average-looking guys, by the way. Women may take your good looks and think that you are a player who knows his way around women, and then when the (young, immature) women you date see you aren't really that after all, they tend to lose interest. More average-looking guys don't have this issue. They aren't expected to be James Bond by the women they meet, which means they actually can get away w a bit more social awkwardness than Hot Guy can. Something for you to think about. 1
Author Fresnite Posted June 7, 2017 Author Posted June 7, 2017 (edited) Maybe because you are trying too hard to please them? This is a great example of how really good-looking guys can have a DISadvantage over more average-looking guys, by the way. Women may take your good looks and think that you are a player who knows his way around women, and then when the (young, immature) women you date see you aren't really that after all, they tend to lose interest. More average-looking guys don't have this issue. They aren't expected to be James Bond by the women they meet, which means they actually can get away w a bit more social awkwardness than Hot Guy can. Something for you to think about. That is so true and i believe it. But i wouldn't classify myself as pretty boy But yeah I try to hard to please and when they see I'm not that guy who can have his way with woman they lose interest. This freaking sucks. I didn't want to be that kind of guy, i liked being nice lol. I mean i don't just want to sleep around and have a high number i want something real and steady Edited June 7, 2017 by Fresnite
CptInsano Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 [...] This freaking sucks. I didn't want to be that kind of guy, i liked being nice lol. I mean i don't just want to sleep around and have a high number i want something real and steady Nobody is asking you to sleep around. You can have a lot of sex with just one woman. What you need to learn is to be a little flirtatious. If you find her attractive and sexy, and she drops a line like that, then please...let her know that you'd enjoy that too, in whatever form you choose to communicate that. 1
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