M3ll0 Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 Since I wrote on here recently about my horrible relationship with my ex, I been on NC. It's been 2 days and he has called twice today, text me in the morning a stupid joke and even emailed right now asking me if I "disappeared? ". I don't know if I should respond to these messages. I don't even know how I feel. I guess I mostly writing on here to hear different experiences on breaking contact. I don't know if it's even worth it anymore. I'm trying to move on even though I cheated. Yet as I described my relationship and heard people's opinions about it being toxic. I feel like I had to escape. I guess I'm writing on here to distract myself from talking to him. Is anyone on here on the same boat ?
djung87 Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 Since I wrote on here recently about my horrible relationship with my ex, I been on NC. It's been 2 days and he has called twice today, text me in the morning a stupid joke and even emailed right now asking me if I "disappeared? ". I don't know if I should respond to these messages. I don't even know how I feel. I guess I mostly writing on here to hear different experiences on breaking contact. I don't know if it's even worth it anymore. I'm trying to move on even though I cheated. Yet as I described my relationship and heard people's opinions about it being toxic. I feel like I had to escape. I guess I'm writing on here to distract myself from talking to him. Is anyone on here on the same boat ? Hey OP I read your story in another thread. Stay no contact it sounds like you are really attached and so does he. 7 years you get very comfortable and of course you miss each other. I definitely want to reach out to my cheating ex daily but it does get easier. First continue NC and make sure you get 0 and I mean 0 info about him. If you really love him and vise versa give each other sometime to cool off and weigh the negatives and positives go from there. First need to get out of the fog then it will be more clear what is best for you and what you want. You cheated on him and broke up for a reason until those issues are addressed you will contiue to hurt each other in a toxic relationship. It is hard but you have friends and family to help you. Just give time to get some clarity wounds are still fresh you can't think straight can only do that by doing NC and getting space. Ignore the messages or demand space.
Author M3ll0 Posted June 7, 2017 Author Posted June 7, 2017 Thanks. I guess that's what I am doing but how do I know when it's alright to contact. I feel like I'm going to lose him even more. I told him I should staY away because I don't want to be friends and he told me he rather be with me then other women yet he doesn't want me. I know NC is not a group decision but I don't want to be there like a sick puppy waiting for him to give me a chance. I want to know how you get through NC. Hey OP I read your story in another thread. Stay no contact it sounds like you are really attached and so does he. 7 years you get very comfortable and of course you miss each other. I definitely want to reach out to my cheating ex daily but it does get easier. First continue NC and make sure you get 0 and I mean 0 info about him. If you really love him and vise versa give each other sometime to cool off and weigh the negatives and positives go from there. First need to get out of the fog then it will be more clear what is best for you and what you want. You cheated on him and broke up for a reason until those issues are addressed you will contiue to hurt each other in a toxic relationship. It is hard but you have friends and family to help you. Just give time to get some clarity wounds are still fresh you can't think straight can only do that by doing NC and getting space. Ignore the messages or demand space.
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