Fresnite Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 So, I have a concern. Is not going for the first kiss within a first or second date adeal breaker for woman? Also how is the first kiss generally given in what setting? I have no problem with kissing, but the most recent girl I've seen, the only two possible times she gave me 1 sign between each of our two dates which were back to back. It was in open public, once we were in like a arcade/bar. She was looking at me with like puppy dog eyes pursed lips. I failed lol. Second time it was the same thing in a build-a-bear shop where she was looking at me longingly and I felt like those were her two signs she wanted to be kissed. I do not mind PDA at all, but for the first kiss in those settings I'm not to sure. But maybe that's what she wants as a first kiss and I'm wondering if because i wasn't forward enough or confidant enough to go for it in those vulnerable settings if that pushed her away.
CptInsano Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 The kiss doesn't happen out of the blue. Things are going great, she looks into your eyes and you slowly move closer. She either closes her eyes and moves in also, or she turns her head away. You're overthinking again. There is no set timeline or a particular setting. 7
Author Fresnite Posted June 6, 2017 Author Posted June 6, 2017 The kiss doesn't happen out of the blue. Things are going great, she looks into your eyes and you slowly move closer. She either closes her eyes and moves in also, or she turns her head away. You're overthinking again. There is no set timeline or a particular setting. I know that per say, but i feel out of those 2 situations those are the only two times she looked into my eyes that way. But because i missed them is that enough for her to draw away from me?
Gaeta Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 I know that per say, but i feel out of those 2 situations those are the only two times she looked into my eyes that way. But because i missed them is that enough for her to draw away from me? When you feel she is giving you the look than go for it no matter where you are. The first kiss does not need to be a full blown french kiss. My BF gave me a kiss for the first time when we were waiting in line at the movie. I did not expect it at all, he kissed my lips in softest way just like that out of the blue, I cherish that memory. No it's not a reason a woman would draw away. 2
morrowrd Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 The first kiss happens, when it happens. With anything, if it's forced or awkward, follow my rule of thumb, "doing nothing is better than doing the wrong thing." In the game of "getting the girl" one has to go with the flow. Girls like security, girls like to trust - both of these things are earned things, and the best plan is to go at her pace. Don't force your tongue down her throat thinking "damn, it's date 3 and if I don't kiss her, that's bad." It could be a month or two depending on the girl. It might be the first date - there is no set rule for when it happens. Instead of worrying about small potatoes like that, focus on getting to know her, that's the best plan. All the rest will naturally fall into place, or not. 1
Author Fresnite Posted June 6, 2017 Author Posted June 6, 2017 The first kiss happens, when it happens. With anything, if it's forced or awkward, follow my rule of thumb, "doing nothing is better than doing the wrong thing." In the game of "getting the girl" one has to go with the flow. Girls like security, girls like to trust - both of these things are earned things, and the best plan is to go at her pace. Don't force your tongue down her throat thinking "damn, it's date 3 and if I don't kiss her, that's bad." It could be a month or two depending on the girl. It might be the first date - there is no set rule for when it happens. Instead of worrying about small potatoes like that, focus on getting to know her, that's the best plan. All the rest will naturally fall into place, or not. No i know this, i mean if she gave me a sign both dates she wanted a kiss and i didn't did it, is that a deal breaker?
mightycpa Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 If you miss two invitations, and you don't make your own move, then you might get a third invitation, but in the interim, you are either sending signals that a) you're not interested or b) you are too timid or c) you are a doofus. None of those gets you to first base, and I have to believe that in general, 3 times is your max. 1
devilish innocent Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 If she likes you, I think she'll give you another chance. It would be weird if you'd been going out for a month, and you still hadn't picked up on her advances. After the second date, though, I think you're still fine.
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