mopar crazy Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 I was the OW to a man in a CR. He was engaged to her and M her when she got pregnant with his baby. Before they got M I ended it. Well, I didn't tell him it was over, I just stopped contacting him and he let it go at that. The last time I seen him I was in town and stopped to see him but he had a bunch of other girls there partying, he was probably sleeping with one or more of them. That was the last time I spoke to him and then he got M a few months later. I hadn't heard from him in about 7 or 8 years when he found my name on a HS site and emailed me. We kept in contacted via email and chatting and yes, he tried getting me to meet up with him. He said we could meet in our hometown and rent a motel, no one would know. I told him no, we were both M. I don't know if he was serious but he started talking about us, how much he loved making love to me, things like that. He even called me one day but I told him I couldn't talk because my mil was over. He never called back after that and we drifted a part which was for the best. I told him I was getting uncomfortable with the way he was talking. He apologized and we stopped emailing and chatting shortly after that. So, he did come back to me like a lot of you say they will. I was just wondering how many MM or men in a CR try to get back with the OW. My H had an A a few years ago and he never contacted the exOW after he broke it off with her.
newbby Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 i think it is more likely they will try to come back if the affair is undiscovered. if it is undiscovered, not only did they get away with it, but the marriage has unlikely changed, because there is no reason for it to, from the wifes point of view. and in an article i just read, women are always in charge of relationships. if you found out about the affair and made it clear that it is not acceptable and your relationship has improved as a result, i doubt that he will ever try to recontact the ow.
Author mopar crazy Posted August 6, 2005 Author Posted August 6, 2005 Originally posted by newbby i think it is more likely they will try to come back if the affair is undiscovered. if it is undiscovered, not only did they get away with it, but the marriage has unlikely changed, because there is no reason for it to, from the wifes point of view. and in an article i just read, women are always in charge of relationships. if you found out about the affair and made it clear that it is not acceptable and your relationship has improved as a result, i doubt that he will ever try to recontact the ow. TY newbby for replying. What you said made sense to me. Guess no other MM have went back to the OW since no one else replied.
newbby Posted August 7, 2005 Posted August 7, 2005 there are some ow here whose mm have returned to them, sometimes threads just get overlooked for no real reason. i know though, that in these cases, the relationship between mm and ow, has not been any better, in most cases worse. i guess some mm do fall in love with the ow to an extent and wonder if they made a mistake, but most mm that i have heard of or experienced (my mm came back after not long, 4 months or so?) come back just to see if they still can, a huge ego trip.
erika2610 Posted August 8, 2005 Posted August 8, 2005 I was with my exMM for a year.. we broke up, and he came back to me maybe 2 months later. We fortunately broke up like 3 months later though.
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