sleeplessincnd Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 I am just very confused tonight...... I am over my ex - I have decided to get on with my life and have a new boyfriend. I go through everyday and still think about my ex tho - but not like I used to. I know that he obviously didn't want what I wanted or we would still be together. But I saw him today - just across the parking lot and it made me cry, all the feelings came rushing back. Now all I can think about is him and I am even considering writing him an e-mail or something. I have even removed his numbers from my phone and had no intention of ever talking to him again. I just wonder about these feelings - we were only together for 2 months but I thought it was going to be much longer - things were good. We have been broken up for 2 months and I just wonder... if I still have these feelings does it mean that there is really something there? Is it my intuition telling me to fight for him? or I am just that broken up about it that I still want him back just to comfort my broken heart?? Thanks, I know I am not alone in this one so your thoughts are appreciated!
upsetnhurt Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 You might want to reconsider being in a relationship at the moment as your new bf is going to be in store for quite a heartbreak. Think about how you are feeling and multiply it by 10 and that is how he will feel when it does not work out between you. Please don't think that your feelings are a sign of your love for your ex....it simply is wishing for something you just don't have anymore....the comfort, the good times, etc......remember you broke up for a reason and you need and deserve to get what you want in life.
sanne Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 i agree with upsetnhurt, why exactly are you even in a relationship when your clearly not over your ex? your only causing yourself and your new and current boyfriend harm. if i were you i wouldn't enter any kind of real committed relationship until i was completely over my ex.
Author sleeplessincnd Posted August 4, 2005 Author Posted August 4, 2005 Yeah I guess I didn't make it clear that the new guy is not really all that permanent - we are just hanging out and having fun, I called him my bf above for simplicity sake - I don't call him my bf - we are dating I guess. I am with him b/c I don't want to be that person that sits a home and pines for an ex who is not sitting at home pining for me - the ex has a new gf already too! But I just never thought I was still that attached to him, and I wonder if the prolonged attachment means it is something more than just a broken heart!
dreaming4ever Posted August 4, 2005 Posted August 4, 2005 I really don't think that the fact that you still feel attached to him means that you guys could really make it or that you were in love with him or whatever. It's simply the fact that you aren't over him yet. Believe me, I've experienced that feeling before many times. I broke up with my ex (who i dated for 2 years) only 2 weeks ago but it was a hellish relationship and I haven't been crying so I actually have been thinking I'm ok now....until last night. I was working in a video store that I don't usually work in as a substitute manager and I saw a guy that kind of looked like my ex walk in and I almost puked all over my shoes right there, I seriously felt like I'd just been kicked in the stomach. It was the worst feeling....luckily, I was able to prevent myself from crying. But at least I know now I am SO not over him yet.....and the same goes for you. You're likely to feel sad when you see him for a while still.....it's totally part of the break up process.
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