JuneJulySeptember Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 Anyway, I don't have that many friends but staying friends with him would only make me feel worse right? Depends. Some of us guys have literally been rejected by hundreds of women over the years, many of whom are in our immediate social circle. So, to play keep away from every woman who has rejected us would not only prevent some fun experiences, it is sometimes impractical. And when you reach my age, all of that kind of goes away some. Nobody remembers who rejected who and you're probably not even in touch any more anyway.
OnlyHonesty Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 I never contacted him after the date/first meet and no plans were made. Before the date we barely exchanged a few messages. There so need to initiate contact just to reject me. I didn't respond at all and don't plan to. Some people complain about being ghosted... 1
greymatter Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 I don't agree with this. If guys want sex, and the woman is of the 'back-burner' variety attractive, then that guy will follow through with the full dating ritual until he gets some ... and then he will friendzone the woman. I feel the same as you, I don't agree with it and think it's a gross generalization about men and woman. As if the two cannot ever be friends.
greymatter Posted June 7, 2017 Posted June 7, 2017 Never mind, I messed up quote of smackie's post and the one immediately above. Sorry.
mortensorchid Posted June 8, 2017 Posted June 8, 2017 It's probably for the best that this happened. Are you sure you actually LIKED him or are you just feeling the sting of rejection? Sometimes that's all it is. Once I had an OLD years ago where I knew it was a dead end within the first five minutes. He said he really wasn't interested in dating someone, he had just gotten divorced and he was meeting texting buddies. I thought "That's really lame". After we parted ways, I never heard from him again. Even if he was into being a texting buddy he was a lazy dater / texting buddy.
Author suckered Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 Some people complain about being ghosted... This has nothing to do with ghosting. We barely exchanged few messages on OLD site and met up few days later. No plans or promises were made during the meet up. I never contacted him after. How does he know that I am even interested? I never flirted or touched him. Sending me the "friends" message the next morning was a bit presumptuous. Imagine if I pre-emptively sent every guy I met through OLD a message that I only see them as a friend after a brief coffee meet? WTF I would understand if I contacted him first but I didn't. Anyway, I am pretty sure he is after sex. He has been texting me non stop for the last 2 days and steered conversation towards sex twice. I have now declined dinner and stopped responding.
Author suckered Posted June 8, 2017 Author Posted June 8, 2017 I don't agree with this. If guys want sex, and the woman is of the 'back-burner' variety attractive, then that guy will follow through with the full dating ritual until he gets some ... and then he will friendzone the woman. This is not generally true. Certain guys really want to do "the right thing" and to "not lead you on" but still have no strings attached sex. Usually better looking guys do it because there are girls that are still interested regardless.
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