Stevetb Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months, we met at school and we were casual friends, I was a confident good looking and friendly guy, after a while she said that she loved me, even though relationships weren't one of my priorities back then we became a couple. She was REALLY into me back then and shebloved me to death, she was cringy as hell and I wasn't the type of guy that likes an overly attached girlfriend, I was focused on my studying and the gym, not so much on her, after a while she got fed up with my indifference and we got into a huge argument after which I admitted I was wrong and apologized to her, ever since then I started developing feelings for her and that's the biggest mistake I made, I cared about her and started showing her more attention and affection, and at that particular moment, the leadership and power switched from me to her, she started ignoring all of my messages on facebook and my calls and I kept pushing, I didn't want to lose her so I kept trying, I became very cringy overprotective and controlling, and that caused the second fight to happen, ever since then she has treated me like a second choice, responding to my messages only when she wants to or when she needs a favor, spending time with other guys and not giving a damn about me, she even cheated on me twice, I know its ridiculous, she used to spend all the time with me at school, now almost never and if I go to her she seems very annoyed, whenever we're together she avoids all the love talk and she always tries to get a third person to sit with us. I sacrificed alot for her, spent hundreds of dollar on gifts, chocolate and other things, stood up for her whenever she was in trouble, I was always there when she needed me but she was never there when I needed her, you know once we had an issue at school with the administration and I stood up and fought for her but she left me as soon as the issue started, I left my own exams unattended to her pass her exams, she never cared about me nor my feelings, I've been heartbroken and depressed. Last month, exams were approaching and she got back to normal I thought that I won her heart again but as soon as the exams were over she started ignoring me and treating me like crap again. Yesterday I got really fed up and we had a huge fight and we broke up. This girl is everything for me, I dunno why I still love her and think about her all the time after everthing she did for me, plus she has a very bad reputation on the dating scene, I heard alot of bad stuff about her but I never believed them, its like I was blinded. I feel so heartbroken, clueless and depressed, how can people be this cruel, does she have a heart, any feelings at all ? How can I move on I'm emotionally drained help me please.
d0nnivain Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 Look at this logically. She cheated on you & used her. Why would you want a mean spirited liar like that back in your life? Don't say because you love her. She certainly doesn't love you or she has a horrible way of showing it. Let her go. Dust yourself off. Head back to the gym. Enjoy your summer & start next semester fresh without her. You will get through this even though it hurts now.
kendahke Posted June 6, 2017 Posted June 6, 2017 I believe that's called "getting a taste of your own medicine". When you had her, you didn't want her. Your disdain for her is palatable in how you described her when the sun rose and set around you for her. It appears she got your message loud and clear. Now you want her back and she's chucking the deuces at you. Doesn't feel good to be treated indifferently and not a priority. This has run its course for both of you. Stop investing in it and be done with her. Learn from this.
Rouik Posted June 9, 2017 Posted June 9, 2017 Its hard but you need to let this one go, your relationship with her sounds like it was never healthy. At one point or another you both ignored the other and used them. It will take time but things will get better and the next relationship you can start on the right foot. Good luck and keep your head up.
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