Anthnyhgn Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 (edited) Ok...long story! Me and my woman met on pof a year and a half ago. Neither one of us have a place as we both moved back home due to failed relationships. When we first met, things were crazy...we would get rooms from time to time. Have sex in the car..bjs all the time...she really enjoyed it...we are both sexual and she was before we met by the looks of her fb...then one weekend suddenly it all stopped..i asked about it many times..she said it might be her medicine ( lexapro), she doesn't like her body anymore ..etc. It's caused arguments and and I do everything for this person...i even proposed. I don't want it to seem like it's everything but sex and such is important and when it is just gone. It makes it hard not to want to leave ... Please help. I need to know other advice on how to get back my sex life. She says its not me, theres no one else, she's attracted to me but I feel like I'm just here Edited June 5, 2017 by Anthnyhgn
preraph Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 If she's on lexapro, well that's an antidepressant, so she's depressed, so that's why she doesn't feel sexy. Depressed people are just really dulled down and they do not feel up and sexy. So let her see if the med helps her feel better and stop nagging her about sex. If that drug doesn't work to help her depression, then she will tell the doctor and try something else. She has a bigger problem than you wanting sex, so put that into perspective and help her all you can in other areas. 1
Author Anthnyhgn Posted June 5, 2017 Author Posted June 5, 2017 Ok, well she was on other antidepressants before and was fine...she doesn't even know why she is depressed...
todreaminblue Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 Ok, well she was on other antidepressants before and was fine...she doesn't even know why she is depressed... most people who are depressed cant explain how they got there....thats normal...... they say it takes a good twelve weeks for an anti depressant to be in sync with your body and working.......so give her a chance for the meds to work before you ask for sex....be supportive ...nothing sexier than a man who knows how to support and acts a bit selfless.....good luck....deb 1
basil67 Posted June 5, 2017 Posted June 5, 2017 Well, having arguments over it isn't going to help matters. I know I certainly don't want to shag anyone I've been arguing with. You say you're doing everything for this woman. But could it be that you're doing things in a way which isn't her 'love language'? (Google the five love languages) It took me a really long time to connect lack of physical desire with lack of emotional attachment. And from personal experience, it can be really hard to admit to myself that I really no longer cared for him. What does the rest of your relationship look like? Do you have a smooth relationship, or does it have 'ups and downs'? But these are just guesses based on my personal experience. My best advice is to have her read the book "Where's my libido gone" by Dr Rosie King. It's most enlightening.
InvisiBlonde Posted June 11, 2017 Posted June 11, 2017 ..she said it might be her medicine ( lexapro) SSRI Antidepressants are notorious for messin' with your mojo: Lexapro (Escitalopram Oxalate): Side Effects, Interactions, Warning, Dosage & Uses (On the other hand, how long have any of her / your NSA situations lasted?)
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